BBW fetishist

[firmsupportf]

Boy, do I need to get this off my chest. It has to do with language and how people use it against us. I'm thinking of the "F word." No, not fat. It's "fetish."

"Oh, isn't that a fetish??" some people will ask, when talking about a man who loves full-figured, plump women. "Is he one of those freaky fetishists?"

Sadly, sometimes even BBWs themselves will ask this. I say "sadly" because when they do, it's a sign to me that they may have internalized society's contempt for them. I say "contempt" because in English-speaking America, "fetishist" is not a complimentary term, generally speaking. It's often used as a putdown - a polite way of saying "weirdo." When I hear a BBW-lover being described as a "fetishist," I believe it's a dismissal. It's a way of dismissing a person's sexuality or diminishing a person for his sexual preference. Just like when people use the term "queen" to describe an effeminate gay man.

Now, I must be honest: It is true that some guys DO have an unusual and exclusive obsession with overweight women. That and only that will satisfy them sexually. I would agree that that condition deserves the term "fetish."

But I think there are many more who simply enjoy the look and feel of a soft, voluptous feminine figure. We have dated thin girls before and still admire them, but our preference is for heavy, thick rubenesque women: Wide hips. Big Asses. Big busts. Thick waists. Double chins. That's what's sexiest to us, just the way some guys are crazy about blondes. They enjoy the feel and look of silky, blonde hair running through their fingers... and they do their best to date or marry an attractive blonde.

Funny - in this country, no one ever says "Does Larry have a blonde fetish??" - do they? Of course NOT! But if you look at the world's population, it's overwhelmingly dark-haired, dark-eyed people. Look at the billions of Chinese and Indians and Africans and Arabs and Indonesians, and so on. 99% of the time, you won't see any native-born blondes among those populations. Same with respect to the southern European population in places like Greece and Italy. Simply put, the overwhelming majority of people around the world are dark-haired and brown-eyed.

What's my point? That blonde-haired women are just a tiny, tiny, TINY fraction of the world's women and if anybody is crazy about that as a dating preference, then THAT man should be labeled as "abnormal." Or "unusual." And if you want to be mean or snippy about it, you could label him a "fetishist."

See what I mean? But we don't do that, do we? Because society has trained us to see blonde as attractive, right? Well, all around the world, plump and rubenesque figures are seen as attractive too. So we shouldn't be labeling BBW-lovers either

[Long Duck Dong]

lol chubby chasers is a word I hear from time to time......

but, from a male point of view... there is big, well built, shapely, BBW....and holy shit......

I enjoy BBW.... but I personally are not into BIG women.... and I mean BIG....

but yes you are a BBW that would draw my attention as you have a smile that speaks volumes to me, and thats something I find a lot in BBW, the relaxed, warm and open smile that I enjoy to see.......

do i have a fetish for BBW ??? mmm no, I have been with slim women... some that are naturally slim and some that are gym bunnies..... and while they were nice people, I will be honest and admit that BBW have that extra something that catches my eye and interest.... and no its just only extra weight..... its that extra something that makes a big woman into a big BEAUTIFUL woman

[Realist]

This is a favorite subject of mine! I have had lovers of both genders who would considered larger than average. My GF is the epitome of a perfect BBW, for me. She is bright, energetic, and sensuous, as well as being what most would consider an extremely cute BBW.

Yes, I am attracted to voluptuous figures...an hour-glass body, full-figures, are traits that are very sensuous to me. But, in the end, it's character, personality, and compatibility, that makes a relationship work. If their figure is a little more bountiful.......... well, that's not a bad thing in my view.

I've experienced lovers of all sizes because we 'clicked'. A couple were slimmer, or heavier, than I'd normally be superficially attracted to, but we shared mutual interests, desires and needs that made the connection work. If I could build my ideal lover, they would be voluptuous, smooth, and with the personal characteristics I mentioned above.

[DuckiesDarling]

The term fetish is thrown around a bit too freely. There is a site called Fetlife, you can't just have interests, it'a all fetishes. From smoking to redheads to strapons to sadism and masochism. Some I would view as a fetish, others I would view as just someone interested in things but not necessarily needing them in their life to have a satisfying sexual lifestyle.

I'm not skinny, I'm not huge. I've had three kids and look it but my babe loves me anyway. Not for the way I look but a personality that captured his attention in a pg13 chat room. Love ya, LDD :)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Ok Guys, coming from a BBW, I wouldnt call loving us a Fetish unless you would remind me of the Weasle on Foghorn Leghorn..And those men are called "Feeders"
.If you love full figured women, or BBW's, then techniqely(sp) you would be called/considered a BBW Lover/Admirer, and there is nothing wrong with that. People are people no matter what size they are and its the person within that matters the most.
Granted its just label to discribe one's likes and tastes, so I wouldnt worry about it too much. There's always a label for everything, and I guess now we BBW's have our own fetish. Huh, who knew?'
And wasnt this thread brought up sometime last year? It seems awfully familiar...
Cat

[Realist]

I know better, I've been admonished about using the word fetish before, Cat...just can't help myself.

I love "fluffy" people!

It gives you WIMMIN a poor ol' guy to beat on!

I remember Fran, Twyla, probably you, and others, getting on my case for saying it was a fetish because I like big boobies and butts...OK, maybe it's a compulsion, addiction, fantasy, craving, etc, etc,......how's that?

I'm so abused!

[PixyStixxx]

I have described myself before as a BBW.

In America, the average woman is a size 14, clothing-wise. I'm a size 12, so I'm actually a little smaller than the average American woman. Yet, I'm not thin and I don't want people to think that I don't know that.

There's a show on Discovery Health channel called "Strange Sex." Now, THOSE are fetishes.

Pixy

[diB4u]

Look at it from the other end of the scale, if you like skinny women is that a fetish? the anserw is no! So why is it seemed as a fetish to like bbw women?

As a bbw woman i am a human being with needs wants passions and ideals and to be thought of as a fetish is just wrong and odd.

[sexualrememberances]

To me, a true fetish is something that a person needs to get aroused. It is like a magic totem for them. I don't need a woman to be a BBW to get aroused, but they damn sure do get me that way.

On the other hand, some women's feet turn me on...and I think of that is a foot fetish.

I'm so confused!

[Falke]

There's a show on Discovery Health channel called "Strange Sex." Now, THOSE are fetishes.

Pixy


So true!

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

A 12 is a BBW??? Oooh girlfriend, not hardly. A BBW is round, volumptious, full of softness and comfort, fluffy and cushy, and ample in breast and ass. She is warm and silky-smooth to the touch, and has plenty to hang onto and hold onto. She can fill your arms, and your senses with lots of rich lovin, if you let her. She can please and pleasure just as well as some silicone pumped up Barbie, and have the personality of an angel, or a Minx in my case...lol She can free enough in her own mind to be at ease in her own skin, and be Her...not what society deems what a "true woman" should be like. A BBW IS a true woman in every sense of the word, and believe me there's men (and women) out there that are Glad for it.
So just be proud of who you are, no matter What size you are, and quit worrying about what others thing.
Have fun and relish in your own body. :bigrin:
Cat

[Gibberish]

From a medical stand point, being overweight or underweight isn't healthy, and from a genetic stand point it does make sense for both sexes to choose a partner of a healthy weight. So I can kind of see why BBW or BBM might be considered a fetish, when you're talking about dangerously overweight people. Still there's nothing wrong with that, big women need loving too. It's a big world and there are a lot of people out there with far more unusual tastes than that!

Personally though, I want a lover who'll be around for a while, and part of that means someone who's fairly healthy and who takes care of themselves. I don't mind it when a lover has a little extra belly fat or is a little on the skinny side, but I want someone who isn't way too fat or way too thin. But that's just me.

(and size 12-14 is a far cry from BBW)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

:} To each their own, Darlin. Yes, it is unhealthy for some of us to be larger persons, and many of us cant help it. It Is genetic, or for other medical reasons. But the point is, being a BBW lover isnt necessarily a fetish. But nowdays "Everything" could be considered a fetish in some folks' eyes.. lol
Guess its just some people's defination. :}
Cat

[onewhocares]

Hmmm...here I sit late at night responding to a thread about full figured women... BBW "fetishist". I as a rather large woman...a tall...six feet in my barefoot size 13 stocking feet....amply endowed chest....at the moment a 42DD which fits ever so perfectly into the most beautiful lace and lycra panties and bra sets that the finer manufacturers can design. The area between my bellie button and the crack of my crevis of scrumptiousness is easily a mere fifteen to sixteen inches but even the best adventurous and ardent lovers can get lost in that soft, sweet, cavernous folds of flesh for hours.

Am I the most traditional specimin of womanhood....NO. But do I, would I consider myself a fettish or a freak..NEVER. I am something to be gradually unwrapped and enjoyed, like the wrapper on a fine chocolate to be licked and nibbled upon ever so gently and with such enjoyment. Imagine slowly peeling down the wrapper....soft, suculent and supple. Seemingly subtle, subdued and stubstantial but those are traits are deceiving.I am surrounded by a wall built not by myself but by society. I urge you to look beyond the traditional packaging. Open your heart and mind to what wonderful a delightful decandent treat.

Belle

[by~his~side]

Belle,
Can I come over? :)

~D~

[Falke]

A 12 is a BBW??? Oooh girlfriend, not hardly. A BBW is round, volumptious, full of softness and comfort, fluffy and cushy, and ample in breast and ass. She is warm and silky-smooth to the touch, and has plenty to hang onto and hold onto. She can fill your arms, and your senses with lots of rich lovin, if you let her. She can please and pleasure just as well as some silicone pumped up Barbie, and have the personality of an angel, or a Minx in my case...lol She can free enough in her own mind to be at ease in her own skin, and be Her...not what society deems what a "true woman" should be like. A BBW IS a true woman in every sense of the word, and believe me there's men (and women) out there that are Glad for it.
So just be proud of who you are, no matter What size you are, and quit worrying about what others thing.
Have fun and relish in your own body. :bigrin:
Cat

Wow, being my wife is a BBW and is the most beautiful person I know, this hits close to home.

[PixyStixxx]

So just be proud of who you are, no matter What size you are, and quit worrying about what others thing.
Have fun and relish in your own body. :bigrin:
Cat

I am proud. I simply meant that I had described myself that way (as a BBW) so as not to sound skinny.

Seriously, I'm never quite sure how to describe myself.

:)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Well if you dont mind me being so bold (Sorry, the only way I know How to be) I would discribe you as delightful, scrumpous, and rather nummie...lol Seriously Darlin, you are beautiful just like you are, and dont you let Anyone tell you differently. Just my humble :2cents:
Bad Cat

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Oh Thaannks Miss Belle. Now I hafta go have another cold shower! lol
Yer silly Cat

[Kiowa_Pacer]

Mmmmmmmm. As I stated Miss Belle, Pacer at your service...anytime Dear Lady. Mama?
And to the original poster of this piece: BBW's are Wonderful! And in my earnest opinion, you put the beautiful in BBW, m'Lady.
May I join you in that cold shower?
KI

[Thomas_The_Rhymer]

hmmm Interesting. I am a short, sinewy man and so I normally like women to be somewhere around my size. That being said, however, I do find some women that are larger to be attractive. Really thin women look unhealthy to me!

http://www.artgraphica.net/images/impressionists/renoir0006.jpg

http://www.allartclassic.com/img/Pierre_Auguste_Renoir_REP002.jpg

Beautiful, no? I would prefer a woman to be slightly overweight than under any day! :)

[Realist]

Renoir did my avatar as a personal gift to me.

The model was one of my sweetest lovers!

By the way, I've got 40 acres of prime land for sale. It's due west of Tampa, about 15 miles!

[texasman6172003]

Hmmm...here I sit late at night responding to a thread about full figured women... BBW "fetishist". I as a rather large woman...a tall...six feet in my barefoot size 13 stocking feet....amply endowed chest....at the moment a 42DD which fits ever so perfectly into the most beautiful lace and lycra panties and bra sets that the finer manufacturers can design. The area between my bellie button and the crack of my crevis of scrumptiousness is easily a mere fifteen to sixteen inches but even the best adventurous and ardent lovers can get lost in that soft, sweet, cavernous folds of flesh for hours.

Am I the most traditional specimin of womanhood....NO. But do I, would I consider myself a fettish or a freak..NEVER. I am something to be gradually unwrapped and enjoyed, like the wrapper on a fine chocolate to be licked and nibbled upon ever so gently and with such enjoyment. Imagine slowly peeling down the wrapper....soft, suculent and supple. Seemingly subtle, subdued and stubstantial but those are traits are deceiving.I am surrounded by a wall built not by myself but by society. I urge you to look beyond the traditional packaging. Open your heart and mind to what wonderful a delightful decandent treat.

Belle As one who can testify Belle's DD'S are magnificent. :bigrin: