Submissive;turn-on or turnoff?

[titeabs]

I have become more and more submissive for my wife , and have become more and more desiring to be a submissive for a male partner. For the ladies, is this a turnon ? To be able to be dominant over a 6'1, 190 pd tightly muscled guy? A guy who would love to be penetrated by a woman with a strapon? TIA
To the guys, if you were attracted by a gentleman to have a same sex experience, would it be a turnoff if the guy was agressive in wanting YOU to dominate him?
This whole position on sex has really got me aroused . Is it a phase? TIA for discussion. :)

[Azrael]

It can be both. Depends on the individuals involved and what they themselves bring to the table, as we are all the sum of our experiences. That's my :2cents: :tong:

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blessed be,
Tom

[smokey]

I don't want to be submissive to anyone nor do I want anyone to be submissive to me, sexually or otherwise...an equal partner with mutual respect is what I like. That way, if we do want to play those games we can without it going to the head. I like strong women and i do not like sissy queens (or super macho men either) just be yourself, be human, be proud.

[Azrael]

Well put.

-Tom 2.0 :bigrin:

[tony455]

I have become more and more submissive for my wife , and have become more and more desiring to be a submissive for a male partner. For the ladies, is this a turnon ? To be able to be dominant over a 6'1, 190 pd tightly muscled guy? A guy who would love to be penetrated by a woman with a strapon? TIA
To the guys, if you were attracted by a gentleman to have a same sex experience, would it be a turnoff if the guy was agressive in wanting YOU to dominate him?
This whole position on sex has really got me aroused . Is it a phase? TIA for discussion. :)

Hi, I love to be submisive,i would like to have a woman dominate me in the same manner as you describe,it just hasnt been possible.I know there are ladies out there that dont mind but im not sure its a real turn on.If she isnt into it i dont mind maybe she can just look on as two males get into it but i really would like a female to participate.

[jedinudist]

I don't want to be submissive to anyone nor do I want anyone to be submissive to me, sexually or otherwise...an equal partner with mutual respect is what I like. That way, if we do want to play those games we can without it going to the head. I like strong women and i do not like sissy queens (or super macho men either) just be yourself, be human, be proud.

Exactly!

[OralBradley]

"I have become more and more submissive for my wife, and have become more and more desiring to be a submissive for a male partner."

My preference with eithe a man or a woman is for both to participate, but it is still good tp lay back and enjoy (or have the partner do so. I don't see this as submission so much and allowing pleasure to be focused. I have also fantacised about getting fucked by wiy wife using a strap-on, but she declines the pleasure.

For the ladies, is this a turnon? To be able to be dominant over a 6'1, 190 pd tightly muscled guy? A guy who would love to be penetrated by a woman with a strapon? TIA

To the guys, if you were attracted by a gentleman to have a same sex experience, would it be a turnoff if the guy was agressive in wanting YOU to dominate him?

It would be a matter of degree. Being over aggresive and dominative or being passive to the point of inactivity would definitely be a turn-off.
This whole position on sex has really got me aroused . Is it a phase?

Talking about sex makes you horny? How odd! Even at 77 reading and talking about sex gets me turned on and often masturbate after (or during). I'll probably get over the phase in another 20 years or so.

TIA for discussion. :)[/QUOTE]

[titeabs]

Talking about sex makes you horny?

You obviously didn't read my post correctly. I was referring to my stance on this topic.
Any ladies feedback would be greatly appreciated. :flag1:

[Meinbruder]

If it’s a phase, I’m in it as well and always have been. It is a huge turn-on to me to be the target of another’s sexual desire. The feeling of being wanted makes me weak in the knees and is something I don’t get at this point in my marriage. If your wife is an aggressive woman, you’re a lucky man indeed. A strap-on is wonderful but I think I’m at a point in life where I want the real thing again. Unless a woman is really aroused by taking a man with it, she doesn’t have a vested interest in the deed. At least that’s my take on it; Ladies, if I’m wrong, let me know.

On the flip side of the coin, a guy will have to “dominate” me. At least the first time. ;)

[FSJeepguy]

I have different desires at dirrerent times with both men and women. Sometimes I prefer to take the lead and other times I like to follow.
Both work for me very well however if I had to say which one I prefer it would be in the submissive role with men. I like having a man that knows what he wants and exactly how he wants it.

[Paul47]

The turn on for me in any situation comes from the people involved being true to themselves and pursuing their passions. All the good times flow from that. So in the case of a man whose current passion is submission, her will take pleasure in it, and give pleasure as it is accepted and encouraged. Thye desire to submit can be very strong, primal and exciting. But sometimes guys go submissive because they feel unworthy otherwise, and it's a way tonegotiate for attention they don;t think anyone will give them unless they offer servitude. That isn't a turn-on because it is based in self-doubt, a negative thing. Is a tightly muscled man who approaches me wanting to be submissive a turn on? Hell, I get hard just thinking about it...and I'm in my 40's.