An introduction

[dolphinboy1984]

Hello to all users of Bisexual.com. Thought I would do my introduction to get to know a few people, while offering myself a little catharsis.

So, me. I'm a 26-year-old man from Bristol UK who has been in a relationship with a lovely lady for the last four years. I have progressively been coming out to my girlfriend over the last few years. I am sure plenty of you guys will understand the process, the decision you are straight, then bi, then straight and back to being bi again. It has really started to dawn on me that this yet to be confronted facet of my personality is something that has to be faced. I am fortunate that my girlfriend is also slowly coming to terms with being bisexual, she seems to be following the same path as myself.

I guess I feel all the same emotions that most bi people experience. The self-loathing, the sense of containment, the feeling of isolation and a sense of fear to feel attraction to anyone straight because of the reaction.

I guess what I am hoping by using this forum is that people will be able to offer insight into the difficulties that are likely to be faced in the modern world as a bisexual man. I look forward to getting to know some lovely people. Hope this message finds you well.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Welcome to the group, Sugar, and welcome to finding you as well..:}
Cat
Everybody's Feline.

[Realist]

Welcome to the site, DB

As an "old-timer" I can assure you that what you've experienced, i.e., the many ups and downs and varying sexual desire, many others have too.

Over a period of many years, my pendulum of interest in heterosexual, or bisexual lifestyles, has gone from one extreme to the other.

As I left the religious dogma and the instilled morals of my youth, I understood that I was who I was and there was no sense in beating myself to death over the fact that I was bisexual and probably will never change.

You will find some brilliant folks here....many of them from your own country.....who will give you their insight and histories. It's possible that you may meet someone who lives close to you...I did!

You can be assured that there'll be those who will get on your nerves, harass you, and may try to give you unsolicited/asinine advice. When that happens, my advice is to take what you can use, then ignore the rest. Some folks enjoy the banter and calling each other names, things get abrasive, at times. I don't enjoy that and will not play their games.

"nuff about that...I think you will learn good things here, over-all. Good luck.

[NotLostJustWandering]

Greetings and hugs to you, brother. I think you and your gf will find this site useful, and would recommend you check out bisexual groups on Facebook as well.

[dolphinboy1984]

Hi guys. Glad to hear that the ups and downs is normal. I guess the concern of being a phase has always plagued me.

I expected as much that a bit of "s**t filtering" would have to need occur on message boards. For every enlightened person there seems to be 10 people otherwise.

Already had some good advice from you guys. This seems like a small community but with a big spirit. Nice to hear from a few of you already.

Going through the emotional ups and downs one at a time at the moment. Already made a friend from this community. So things are going well so far.

[Gearbox]

One downside to being bi is that you have to edit yourself depending on the company you keep.
Most gay friends don't want to hear about what you want to get/got up-to with women, and straight friends don't want to hear about what you want to get/got up-to with men.:tongue:
Bi friends want to hear it all. And join in soon as!:)

It's trivial really. But still an issue when you chat about your sexual desires.

[dolphinboy1984]

Social refinement is something that I have become accustomed to having spent the majority of my life denying my bisexuality, so shouldn't be a huge issue. I keep very little gay company but I am sure that will change over the coming years.
Nice to meet you gearbox.

[bigbadmax]

In my very humble opinion, accepting you are bi, is far more difficult than accepted social norms yet is more fluid and natural.

My wife and I are both bi but none of the locals know it. Straights feel threatened and lesbians see bi's as freaks and gays "cant work out your sexuality".

I enjoy my bisexuality as I can feel free to express my carnal needs as well as not compromising(?) my ideals or ethical standpoint.

I hope you find yourself and what you are looking for and enjoy the journey.

How about attending bicon in september?

P

[dolphinboy1984]

The fluid and natural point makes total sense to me. I have been in conflict most of my life, trying to fend off my attraction to men. Now I have accepted it, I love it because I feel completely open to many more experiences, and the possibilities for my life have widened. I feel 16 again.

I have never heard of bicon. I would like to get to know a few more bisexuals, would be great to be reading of the same page as a few friends.

Have you got a website link so I can plan for it?