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skaarrj
Aug 18, 2011, 3:21 AM
I'm 25 years old, and never been with a guy, and I'd like to try it. Just swapping oral and maybe kissing/grinding, but no intercourse.

Do you know where I can go to find someone? I've been having dreams about it lately, like I'll be looking at a lot of straight porn, and I'll always picture myself in the girls spot when she's giving a blowjob, and then recently i've started to really want a guy to give me oral as well.

picturepainter
Aug 18, 2011, 8:12 AM
Hey there, very like minded here. I found the best way was to chat online pethaps in chat rooms until you get to know someone ideally. there is always a risk factor involved in meeting strangers and of course the shyness of a first time too.

I have only ever had one real meet with kissing, wanking and sucking involved but want a lot more too.

Good luck! You wont regret it once it happens. X

Jobelorocks
Aug 18, 2011, 8:30 AM
I would suggest swinglifestyle.com. My husband and I have had some good experiences with that site. We have met all of our "friends ;)" through this site. There aren't a great quantity of bisexual or bicurious men out there depending on where you live. I like that on this site you can narrow your searches by age, whether they have pictures, single people or couples, sexual orientation (although this is limited to straight, bi, or bicurious) , ect.

dseven
Aug 20, 2011, 5:14 AM
Do you have a gay club near you?? You can go there and just try to get some, I mean, if you are fairly attractive then guys will be easy, but remember, be safe.

jimpgh6969
Aug 20, 2011, 1:01 PM
When I first started searching, I found that Yahoo! Chat rooms are good, they have adult rooms and u can chat to people in ur state which is easier to narrow things down.

dm330
Aug 20, 2011, 1:13 PM
Man I wish you were closer to me than you are. I'm really into giving oral, awesome stuff. I, like you, have no desire to have anal sex with men or even women, but many of the men in my area do, so I rarely get the opportunity to hook-up, that and most of the people in my area into the lifestyle are much older than me and I'm not looking for people old enough to be my parents or grandparents lol. Best of luck to you man, I mean it sincerely.

skaarrj
Aug 20, 2011, 8:44 PM
Man I wish you were closer to me than you are. I'm really into giving oral, awesome stuff. I, like you, have no desire to have anal sex with men or even women, but many of the men in my area do, so I rarely get the opportunity to hook-up, that and most of the people in my area into the lifestyle are much older than me and I'm not looking for people old enough to be my parents or grandparents lol. Best of luck to you man, I mean it sincerely.

im in cincinnati

rigamatorboy
Aug 21, 2011, 1:16 AM
squirt.org is a good hookup site

rdy2go
Aug 21, 2011, 4:34 PM
You have to be careful with this one but if you think about it you might be alot safer by checking out people you know, I don't mean like your best bud, but mutual friends etc. watch for body language keep your eyes and ears open, and your discretion intact, you don't want to be wrong. marching up to a guy and announcing you want him to blow you isn't reccommended. The chances are you know someone who is as curious as you, who may be willing to discretely have a go. Even straight guys wonder about it from time to whether they admit it or not, and many will give it a whirl if it's with the right man. It just sems that if you can hook up with a like minded person that is known to you it beats going to a bar, or an online site where you might get into some difficulty. But what do I know I suck at giving advice:bigrin: however, I know guys who did take this route and it worked out OK.

Realist
Aug 21, 2011, 5:54 PM
rdy2go is right.

This same thing has happened to me. I once knew a fellow for over 6 years, who, after a great meal, and some nice scotch, he admitted being bi-curious, but had never been with a male.

I'd had just enough to drink to lose what inhibitions I had, so I revealed my bisexuality to him. He was ecstatic to learn that. So, after we discussed our interests and found they were similar, we began a 10 year relationship. It turned out to be a fulfilling arrangement for us both.

My GF met her most rewarding FF lover in a book store. They seemed to be there reviewing and buying books at the same times and began having coffee together. One evening, after spending some time discussing things they'd read, the girl leaned over and kissed her. That was the beginning of an intense relationship for them.

My best relationships, it seems, began from out of the blue!

fdenecke
Aug 21, 2011, 7:23 PM
I'm 25 years old, and never been with a guy, and I'd like to try it. Just swapping oral and maybe kissing/grinding, but no intercourse.

Do you know where I can go to find someone? I've been having dreams about it lately, like I'll be looking at a lot of straight porn, and I'll always picture myself in the girls spot when she's giving a blowjob, and then recently i've started to really want a guy to give me oral as well.

sure men4sexnow you will have your choice

manhatten
Aug 21, 2011, 9:51 PM
Although it worked out for me, I def. wouldn't rec'mnd CraigsList. Noticed thru a site a friend hooked me up with not long ago to find some day work, (Freelancer.com) and soon after signing up was sent listings where people were hiring people to post fake ads on CL (50 a day, as an example) I guess just to trick people into responding and probably harvest emails once you reply to their reply. I get a lot of junk now and it did seem to pick up not long after I use to use their site.
At any rate, the way it worked for me? I responded to an ad where a guy from my area basically wanted a massage with a happy ending. We hooked up and had fun, maybe a dozen times, then the weather broke and he invited me to these male-only pool parties he had, maybe 2 to 6 guys on a typical weekend. Basically they were pretty tame, just a bunch of naked guys getting an all-over tan, and sometimes some action started towards the end of the day. Last few times were better, where there was several instances of BJ's and touching going on, and I joined right in. No regrets so far and it is still a continuous thing. There hasn't been any open intercourse yet but that doesn't bother me, as I'm into all else I mentioned. This has turned out to be a good deal, but like I said, I wouldn't try CL unless you first make up an alternate email account for such responding, so you can easily delete it if you feel it becomes necessary.
Sorry, not sure where to tell you where to look, but hopefully this will tell you where NOT to look. At least not without being aware of such things. Good luck, and pursue it. I have no regrets, just more fun since I did.

xercisecoach
Aug 22, 2011, 7:21 PM
What a great thread...
When I separated from my wife 2 plus yrs ago and not having any sex with her for years I too started to wonder what it would be like to play with another man. I am quite a passionate man and love foreplay, kissing, massaging, caressing and lots of oral and i wondered what it would be like. i never knewe where to so i went online and googled local gay alternative clubs. 2 in my area, nice. So after about 2 months i finally got up the courage to go and i had an amazing time. i had so many men chatting with me and i responded with no expectation chat and near the end of i think the 3rd time their i started chatting with a guy who was there with his gf and he asked me to dance and the next thing i know he has his tongue down my throat and his hands down my pants... i couldn't believe how enjoyable it was and i never hesitated i reciprocated and never looked back. since then i have met my new gf there who is bi and loves my bi side. it will happen for you just take the first step and get out.... just go with no expectations and have fun.