First-time meeting with lots of expectations?

[LeeNorCal]

OK, so in two weeks, I will drive 5 hours to meet with a couple I have known (from a chat site) for over a year. I will be spending two days (at a hotel) near their house. We have a great time in chat, and have exchanged pics (both sexual and social) and histories for quite a while. We have chatted and texted about our likes, dislikes, desires and expectations. I have been with bi couples a few times, and have enjoyed each one, but this seems like such a build up of expectations that I'm feeling very anxious and uncertain about it.

Has anyone else ever been in this situation, not just specifically with couples but anyone else, and what are your experiences? Any discussion would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Hi Lee. Have ya'll already discussed any sexual plans or expectations? If so, just wing it and see what happens. There may not be any sparks what so ever, or there could be a great rush of sexual heat for all of you..:bigrin:
I'm hoping its the latter, and that you all have a great time..:}
Have fun, play safe
Cat

[Long Duck Dong]

lol bad case of the gut butterflies ????

be yourself,.... you have over a year of chatting and you have been yourself, and thats what got them so interested in you.....

When DD flew to NZ to meet me, she was a lil nervous so I told her that regardless of what happened, even if she thought I was the biggest asshole on earth ( something I told her I was ) that she was coming for 3 months and for 3 months, she would have food in her stomach, a home over her head and people to talk to.... I would not turn her away... I had no expectations of anything, no vision of some ravaging goddess with a model body etc, cos I am realistic and that made the world of difference .....

meeting people for the first time is difficult and my advice to many, has been do not have any expectations about what may happen, just go with the flow and be yourself......it makes the best impression on people if they can see that you are human and being yourself..... mind you, DD still gets annoyed with me when she asks me what i find so awesome about her and my answer is normally, cos you are you....lol

so, lee, follow the simple rules, be yourself, be honest, enjoy yourself and post pics, details, redtube vids and the judges scores on erection, penetration, oral and ejaculation :tongue: but most importantly be yourself......

I would be honest with the couple and tell them that you are nervous about meeting them and you may find they are the same way...... but you are a nice guy and so I reckon that you will be posting to tell us that it was a fantastic weekend and so good that you forgot to set up the camera and the judges were late so we will just have to assume from your smile that a good time was had by all

[LeeNorCal]

OH MY GOD, vids, pics and judges scores???? No pressure, huh? Thanks Cat and LDD!!! Yeah, I'll just be me (all I can do) and they seem to like what they've seen so far. Had a similar experience last year when I visited a woman I met online, seemed like we had a lot in common, but when we "face to faced" we realized we had very little chemistry. We're still good online buddies, but sexually it just wasn't there. And yeah, we're all Nervous Nellies (Neds?) so I'll "report upon completion of assignment." Thanks again.

Can't wait to hear others experiences!

[elian]

It's beautiful that you've done all of that and very wise thing to do when meeting people online..my advice, now that you've done all of that and you think you might be compatible - forget about those expectations. if you don't HAVE any preconceived notions of how things "ought to be" then it is hard to be disappointed when they don't turn out that way. Instead, just go, be yourself, show an interest in the other person, try to experience things as they happen and enjoy the company of the other person (err people in this case).

The nervousness is a natural part of meeting new people you have invested so much of your time and energy into..if you've done your homework (as it appears you have) you will know a little about the character of the people you're meeting and hopefully know they are just as interested (and maybe nervous) about meeting you too.

Even if it doesn't work out sexually, you still got to meet some very nice people, and hopefully enjoy a nice meal and each other's company..

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Lee, You dont know me, so bear with me a sec. Even as bold and gregarious that I am, I still get butterflies the size of bats at meeting new people. It will not show on the outside, but inside, its a mess...lol
I tell people from the git go, what you see is what you get. I'm not a Beauty Queen, I'm not some grand refined Lady, but I am genuine, open, honest, mischieviously playful, and Me. This is the end product, deal wif it..lol

Just be you and go with no expectations other than having a fun time, regardless if its just meeting some good people, and having a small vacation. What happens, does. :}
Best of luck.
Cat

[LeeNorCal]

Thanks Cat. I too get nervous meeting new people, guess we all do. This is just kinda different because we have actually "known" each other for so long. You would think it would be easier to meet in real life because we are such good online friends. I'm sure once the initial handshakes, hugs and butt grabs are over, the rest will fall into place. Thanks for your wonderful words of wisdom.

[DuckiesDarling]

Hi, Lee. I'm the partner LDD posted about and yes I was very nervous going to meet him. Even though we had exchanged current pictures, some very naughty, it was still a game of whatifs all the way across the ocean. I relaxed by finally telling myself even if he was the world's worst person I'd have an awesome vacation in paradise. I was lucky and he was great, we had a few snags as I wanted to feed him too much, lol. I think he was also detoxing after I left with all the coffee I made him. But it was just an awesome time, we fit together like an old married couple only the sex was fantastic. All you need to do is relax and be yourself, that's why they wanted you to come out, for yourself. I'm sure you will have a wonderful time and I wish you all the best of luck and lots of lube.