My story

[con1970]

Guys i hope there is an attachment on this thread, I am not the best at this sort of thing!

[Gearbox]

Well it's really something when you finally deal with and accept yourself after all those years of needless guilt. I get the 'making it real' bit when you told your wife about your past. I also get that she felt betrayed, even though she wasn't. You gave her all the honesty that you gave yourself. Hope she understands that now?

I don't think she's being unfair when she refuses to peg you and start 3somes with you though. She obviously doesn't like that and isn't obligated to include your anus as a sex organ either.
But as you know, you have become honest with your sexual needs and they are not being satisfied. You can't put that genie back in the bottle!
As with many like you, you happen to come to terms with yourself at the awkwardest of times in your life. Your wife helped you do that, but won't go any further. Makes me wonder why she asked about your past! She was happier not knowing IMO.

I hope things get better for you, and you won't get yourself more guilt by doing something silly. I also hope that you come to some agreement that suits both.

[dafydd]

Well it's really something when you finally deal with and accept yourself after all those years of needless guilt. I get the 'making it real' bit when you told your wife about your past. I also get that she felt betrayed, even though she wasn't. You gave her all the honesty that you gave yourself. Hope she understands that now? I don't think she's being unfair when she refuses to peg you and start 3somes with you though. She obviously doesn't like that and isn't obligated to include your anus as a sex organ either. But as you know, you have become honest with your sexual needs and they are not being satisfied. You can't put that genie back in the bottle! As with many like you, you happen to come to terms with yourself at the awkwardest of times in your life. Your wife helped you do that, but won't go any further. Makes me wonder why she asked about your past! She was happier not knowing IMO. I hope things get better for you, and you won't get yourself more guilt by doing something silly. I also hope that you come to some agreement that suits both. gear's right so right i agree with u gear.....totally want to back up on your side.

[Long Duck Dong]

awesome story con.... excellent reading.......

there is something I noticed and that is where you say that your wife has said no to you buying sex toys for yourself... thats a compromise area..... she doesn't have to use them on you, but she doesn't have the right to say no you can not buy / use sex toys for your own personal usage.....

the reason why I say that is a compromise, is that you have the right to a sexual outlet and if she is not going to use sex toys on you or allow you freedom sexually with others, then a compromise has to be reached that is fair within the relationship.....and the sex toys for personal usage is a fair compromise, in light of the fact that you have agreed to the other aspects within the relationship......

I often suggest usage of sex toys amongst couples as a way of learning more about each others interest and desires and as a way of sharing different experiences when couples are coming to terms with one of them being bisexual ( normally the male ) so when that door is shut and so is the option of exploring with others, then your wife has to compromise something and I feel that sex toys for personal usage, us a fair compromise

[hecameout]

Youre story, the guilt and everything sound just like my husband. He has no desire to have a threesome or just go with a man. I've offered. He refuses. He let me get a strap on, I love it. He says he let's me do it, could care less. I think he has too much guilt and shame to ever enjoy a man. It's sad really, I wish he could lose some hangups.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Congrats Darlin, and welcome to you finding You.:}
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