Just to say hello

[hikerinthebuff]

Hi everybody ! I'm a new soul in this strange world, trying to learn about how things can change in my mind.
I come here since I know you're a huge community of open-minded people talking about your experiences without fear nor bounds.
Yes I'm Spanish so my English could be rare and hard to understand, since I've never been abroad.

It's been for a few weeks that I know the website and read many a post in here, a delight to me, cause there isn't many a sites where to read and write about bisexuality.

I'm married, I feel comfortable with the my family, but something is sparking off, something I can't smother or put out, I feel I need to experience how it feels being with another man, and just as Oscar Wilde said, the better way to vanish a temptation is to yield to it, so what can I do ?.

I guess most of you have passed the door I'm going to open one of these days, any tip is welcome to me.

My nick comes from my weakness of hiking in the wild barefoot and buck naked, maybe looking for a brand-new experience.

Well, a new flag is waving at your side, I hope for a long long time.

Kisses and best wishes from Spain

[Jobelorocks]

Welcome to the site! It is very nice to have a forum that you can talk openly about bisexuality. One thing I do suggest is that you be aware that being with a man (and not being open with your wife about it) can risk loosing your marriage and family life. Not to mention how much it can hurt your wife, it can crush her and make her feel like well, shit ( I don't know if you love her, but who wants to hurt people they love?). It is much better for her to find out that you are bisexual by you telling her than her discovering you are cheating on her with a man. Just proceed with caution and properly assess your risks before you proceed. Anyways, I hope that you are able to find sexual fulfillment and happiness. There are many interesting discussions you can take part in here.

[hikerinthebuff]

First of all, my many thanks Jobelorocks, it's a quick and wise answer you just flashed back. I love my wife, but lately I mainly love her much as mother than a lover. After more than thirty years I couldn't reach to open her mind in the games of love, so trying to make her undertstand I feel attraction for making love with a man will be like puting the ax on her neck.
There are many sacrificies a man must do to protect his tribe, in some way we are slaves from the craddle to the grave, we cheat every now and then not to hurt but to prevent loved ones from the pain. Let's hope life was black and white, but it isn't that simple, so I opted for a little secret life in order not to crash anyone.

Nope, I can't see any way to share this hurting secret strange sensations with her this would be the end of our family story forever. Before the fierce storm I'm willing to shuffle my feet under this weight till the feeling disappears in the dim of the old age.

Congratulations to you and anyone who has been able to find the perfect couple in this strange world and keep rolling your sexuality as a clock, both hands count nice and wise, but none of them counterclockwise.

See you on the boards

[axlton]

My advice would also be to tell her. Look it's like this, if you sit down and have a talk with her you might just be surprised to find that she's be more open to it than you might think or she might not be. So there is a chance it COULD cause problems in your marriage or it COULD be perfectly ok. However, fuck around behind her back and get caught, we'll that's likely gonna be a marriage ender for you, especially if you get caught with another guy. Your wife deserves to have informed consent when it come to you taking on other lovers. If you choose not to give her that then you deserve no respect.

[Realist]

Welcome Hiker!

First of all, your English is better than some Americans I know, so you have nothing to worry about. Your written thoughts are very clear and concise.

You've come to a good place and hopefully you will find the answers you need. There are some great minds here, so you may have found a safe home for sharing your thoughts and dreams.

Fair warning, some members may try to test your patience, but don't let them get on your nerves. I advise you to just take what you need and ignore the rest.

Good luck

[12voltman59]

Welcome to the site Hiker--I hope that you find the answers to some of the questions you have--most on here are a good sort, even if we can get a bit cranky at times---but you do have to be forewarned--we do tend to get a few on here--that for whatever reason compels them to be so--in a mild work---are pure jerks and love nothing better than to post up some very nasty and uncomplimentary things--so just be ready for that---and don't be surprised or upset by that--even though I do have to say---it kind of gets me pissed off that we have such idiots.

Anyway--that said--once again--Welcome to the site and good luck with all you face!

[Jobelorocks]

My advice would also be to tell her. Look it's like this, if you sit down and have a talk with her you might just be surprised to find that she's be more open to it than you might think or she might not be. So there is a chance it COULD cause problems in your marriage or it COULD be perfectly ok. However, fuck around behind her back and get caught, we'll that's likely gonna be a marriage ender for you, especially if you get caught with another guy. Your wife deserves to have informed consent when it come to you taking on other lovers. If you choose not to give her that then you deserve no respect.
This. I know that I was cheated on by a significant other before and he ended up giving me an std even though we used condoms. Luckily it is something that I was able to be treated for, but still. He put my health at risk without informing me and I had to pay the price for him cheating. I may have been cool with him sleeping with others if he actually talked to me about it, but instead he decided to lie to me, betray my trust, and take away my informed consent. I felt so disrespected and broke up with him right away.

[hikerinthebuff]

Many thanks again for all those advises you kindly left. Yes as Alston said, I agree being honest is almost the unique way to wade this turbulent river. But I feel I can't. Firstly I sould have said I haven't still done anything with anyone, so I only cheated...in my "thought experiments". I wanna say that I feel a new stream inside of me, but still I don't know if it's powerful changing force or just a faint fantasy slithering in my head. That's a work to be done just knowing what kind of feeling dwells inside of my soul. I know now that I count with a pretty army to help me unveil clues out. Maybe I will get enough just sharing with someone all those thoughts we all seem to bear, enjoy or long for, that we cannot speak out in a loud voice.

I specially thank to you, the people who answered my drop of doubt, I need more time than usual to read and write in English, what means I need a very good time to browse through this wide and well fed site. There's a lot stuff, I know, and it'll take me for long to chew every bone, so may I need some tip at times.

I will endure, grin and bear with a smile in my lips 12voltman59, I know that every site has their trolls, and you are also on the round, but never mind, I can winnow the wheat from the chaff, and spit the venom and gulp the beer, but I'm lucky cuz the first I got was a flattering gust from realist about my English, so I think it's a good starting.
Hoping my ideas seem clear again in this thread, I said what I felt.
Thanks again boys and girls, I'm gonna wade through this ocean of love you're just weaving with the best you can.

Hikerinthebuff