Opinions of bi-men

[XxxpandedMind13]

Im a bisexual woman who is open to both mff and mmf threesomes. It's extremely (cannot stress this enough) arousing to witness mmf with all players actively engaged. The "bi" men I've met lately seem to be more interested in the male side of mmf, and only down for the female being around n order to close the deal. I guess im just writing to see if bi-men are really into pleasuring and being pleasured by ALL players n the mmf. Thanx guys

[Lookatme]

I am! Sexually, I truly love both Men AND Women.

[The Young Pretender]

Out of curiosity, how did you find these playmates? Gay men vastly outnumber bi me, so it's not unreasonable you could have found gay men who performed some perfunctory...pleasuring simply as you said, "to close the deal."

On the other hand, for many bi men, mm interaction is something unique for many (look at the amount of closeted bi married men here who desire cock here so badly only deprivation could elicit such a craving).

[Hank63]

I cannot speak for others, but I personally enjoy pleasing all parties involved equally. I love sharing whatever it is that I'm doing with the others..especially shared oral. I have always been told it's imperative that lady always be given priority in a MMF encounter. I really enjoy focusing on her pleasure and seeing her needs your met and play is focused towards her desires. Most of the threesomes I've been involved in have been with bisexual couples. Usually focus was to fulfill a fantasy the female has desired. But there have been rare occasions where the focus was on everyone taking turns being the center if attention.

[DiamondDog]

Try meeting more bisexual men. If you're a part of a male/female couple keep in mind that not everyone likes 3 ways, not everyone who has a 3 way does everything sexual with everyone, and not all couples both M/F and M/M want to have another person or everyone do everything sexual together. I know people who have 3 ways who are more into voyeurism.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

All that I've ever met or played with have been Great. Just keep lookin' Darlin, you'll find the right ones. :three:
Cat

[XxxpandedMind13]

Thanx guys.
We haven't had a 3sum with these men I speak of. This is what has come to light during conversation. For instance, they will say they want to be with US but treat me coldly and or only talk/txt my hubby about what they wanna do with him.. hubby will explain this is not what we want and they will get upset and stop being friends with me. Maybe they blame me? . Its only happened about 3x but its enough to make me wonder if we're the oddballs who should give up on our fantasy.

[XxxpandedMind13]

Why IS all the rum gone??

[datileman]

It's just a matter of people bein honest about what they want. Some men claim to be bi just so they can crew the other guys wife. I absolutley prefer to orally pleasuer both in a 3way. So keep on the search,, you'll find someone

[Plumhead2]

Well, the ideal is when each member of the threesome is equally sexually attracted to each other member and wants to pleasure everyone. That ideal probably is pretty rare. It is what I fantasize about and hope to find some day. Most times probably the attraction is along a continuum. i.e. One guy is more into guys than women. The responses so far to this thread though should give you hope that you can find the ideal some day. Good luck.

[BiJoe696]

You bet, that is the fun in being bi, pleasing and being pleased with all.
I enjoy it lots, and I think lots of bi guys do too. Some bi guys just want there m2m fun just with other men no women present. Lots of guys want a MMF, we have had lots of guys looking to meet for mmf get togethers thru here or other sites we have profiles posted. Also seems to be lots of guys that enjoy the m2m fun with a woman watching and not necessarily joining in the action.

[good93]

I like the best of both worlds.

[bityme]

As a both-Bi couple, we find mmf and mff encounters thoroughly enjoyable. While every time is different (even with the same playmate), we always try to ensure everyone is totally satisfied. Since we are not into quickies, we like to take the time for each person to be the center of attention of the other two (or more) in the group. It avoids the possibility of anyone feeling left out or slighted.

When in doubt, it is best to talk about your desires and expectations ahead of time. Having a threesome, or moresome, where all parties are into pleasing and being pleased by all participants requires good communication and enough time to allow leisurely enjoyment of the carnal pleasures sought.

Tiff & Pappy

[tenni]

I agree with bijoe and bityme. When I read post 7 by Katrina, I wonder how much she wishes to be involved? I've only had a few 3somes and I agree that it can be difficult to satisfy everyone. I wonder if Katrina wishes a man who is primarily interested in a woman more so than her husband?

[ErosUrge]

Being a single bi male, I am asked to join in with couples from time to time. And what usually happens, though not always, is both already have a preconceived idea of how it should all happen. That can be okay, but the problem is that it leaves little room for spontaneity. When it comes to mmf play, I try to at least get an idea that I will be playing with both equally and that everyone will be a part of it where everyone is the focus...that kind of arrangement is always the best. I have found that once it's established and has been made clear that everyone is to engage in play....from that moment if everyone already knows this then the play time can unfold naturally; at least from my own experience.
As far as certain guys wanting to play more with your man, it might be that they're concerned about being read as being more interested in playing mostly with you as is often the case and has been pointed out here; some guys do get into this kind of situation so that they can have access more to the female. There is no doubt that it's always more enjoyable when everyone is playing together...you will eventually find a guy that is open and naturally incliined to this.

[XxxpandedMind13]

We want someone who enjoys both. I (Katrina) don't want a dude more n2 women. As i said earlier men enjoying men is a big turn on for me. Its just certain conversations and vibes from dudes who have shown interest leave me feeling out of the loop. As for my level of involvement, i would love for the guy to b spitroasted between me&hubby, me being spitroasted, me rimming hubby while guy gives head and vis versa all around. Any combo is cool.
Hubby has expressed that he believes these guys probably want mm and maybe say they're down for a 3some in order to reach that goal.
All you guys who have written and shared your opinion rock. We're glad we joined!

[Gearbox]

I've chatted to a few gay blokes who realy love seeing men with women, so they enter mmf 3somes. They give the female as little as pos attention just to shut her up.lol It's that 'sex with a straight man' old chestnut for them.
But there are also people like me who are not into 3somes (of any gender mix) coz we find it hard to quit focusing on one and jump to the other. I've tried, and got confused and distracted from the intimacy I enjoy. We'd much rather 1-1 with both m&f.

Then there's the chances of meeting a couple that you have an equal attraction to. That's VERY rare in my case, sadly.

[lsufan1974]

For me (a married bi male) I love both sexes equally but have access to MF play anytime,so in a threesome AT FIRST I would lean to the MM Play but once I got over the initial high of it all it would be more balanced! Let's be honest here - The F has the higher drive and longevity in sexual relations so she should just get to tell us what she wants and we should give it to her without questions!
i think in threesomes we lean towards what we have been deprived ---- and I have been deprived of Bimmf threesomes!!!!!

[bobble]

All for one, one for all! Personally, I think the F is as important as the M. Gender equality!

[tommyswing]

There's a lot of bi men who are really gay. Myself I can't ignore the women, to much beauty and she tastes to good. if it was my wife I'd want her as the center of pleasure and the m-m would fit in around that. Keep looking you'll find the right guy.

[Erotinaughty]

Spontaneity is great for established sexual partners, but as the number of participants climbs, getting "lost in the moment" can lead to spectators who would rather be participants. With threesomes, it makes a lot of sense to select a rotating "star" who gets to be the center of attention and call the shots. This way, everybody gets to have a turn at doing and being done. A bit of pre-planning can lead to a lot more pleasure.

[tenni]

There's a lot of bi men who are really gay.

Really? Sorry, but I don't think that this type of statement should go unchallenged on a bisexual website. I'm sure that you do not mean to be so judgmental about your fellow bi men? Just as some are referring to all participants enjoying the threesome act is more than not never going to be "equal" enjoyment for every session this "a lot of bimen are really gay" statement is not always equal attraction to both genders. I notice that Tommy lists himself as a 2 and I can almost understand his judgmental comment as "they are not like me" and so "they are really gay" thinking.

In ten years, Tommy may find himself more attracted to men than women. Then what Tommy? You may still love your wife but are you then gay? No, sir you are not. Regardless of how much you want to have sex with a preference for one gender over the other, tendencies show that may shift in bisexuals over their lifetime. You may be a 50%/50% all your life but that doesn't make you more bisexual than a man who is more preferenced for one gender over the other. You are both bisexual. A man in a same sex relationship who is sexually attracted to both men and women is still bisexual. He is not gay even if he is in a same sex relationship. He may even be capable of emotional romantic love for both genders. If he has been in love with a woman and then falls in love with a man, is he gay? Nope. He has been in love with both genders and that makes him bisexual. If he realizes that he didn't ever love a woman, then it gets confusing and lets let him decide if he was always really gay or not. It can get complicated and too complicated for us to be so judgmental about our fellow bimen.

Some gay men think that they are bisexual for a short time period but that is not the same as you post.

[laurenb]

Hey I think this is my first post! Anyhow, as far as I go, I love nothing better than being the one who brings both my wife and male friend to orgasm simultaneously by orally loving her while he loves me from behind. I'm the last to come and I love that.

[HappyHedonic]

I am a bi male and I enjoy giving and receiving pleasure from both genders. I particularly enjoy engaging both partners in a 3some, as opposed to bouncing back and forth.

[thatrobguy]

Im a bisexual woman who is open to both mff and mmf threesomes. It's extremely (cannot stress this enough) arousing to witness mmf with all players actively engaged. The "bi" men I've met lately seem to be more interested in the male side of mmf, and only down for the female being around n order to close the deal. I guess im just writing to see if bi-men are really into pleasuring and being pleasured by ALL players n the mmf. Thanx guys

I am completely attracted to both. Never experienced anything with a man, but would do it. It's all about the good time for all of the participants.

[bi4asplay]

When in a MMF situation I want everyone playing with everyone. Though it can be fun putting on a show for her I want to taste and feel herI love women and really like cock.

[bi4asplay]

Mind
I would be the meat in your sandwich anytime.

[elian]

For the one couples experience I had, I appreciated both of them, although the lady and I were so shy with each other it was almost painful...that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy it, just that I was shy.

[dm330]

I am, mostly for the oral sex though, as my name states. I will on some rare occasions penetrate a woman vaginally, anal sex is a no go for men and women, but all else is fair game! ;)

[4_oral_fun]

I always give attention to the woman, I love pussy more than cock and enjoy giving oral for as long as I can or she desires. Everyone gets involved, the couple I would get together with was fantastic about everybody in our mfm getting attention. Did I mention I miss them since they moved away?

[jackbirdjay]

I love both. Love it with couples that are on the dom side. I am in to giving pleasure.

[Steve Tracy]

[QUOTE=XxxpandedMind13;241896]Thanx guys.
We haven't had a 3sum with these men I speak of. This is what has come to light during conversation. For instance, they will say they want to be with US but treat me coldly and or only talk/txt my hubby about what they wanna do with him.. hubby will explain this is not what we want and they will get upset and stop being friends with me. Maybe they blame me? . Its only happened about 3x but its enough to make me wonder if we're the oddballs who should give up on our fantasy.[/QUOTE

don't give up on the fantasy it is worth it when you find the right guy who believes that everyone should enjoy themselves.

[onesucker4u]

I have had the oposite occur. The man was more interested in my woman. I myself am very cooperative, and would be very interested in the woman of a couple. I just love every part of a woman. I love dick too. I guess I am truely Bisexual, and it just isnt my luck(or yours) to find the perfect guys and girls- YET!

[cbb83]

In response to the OP: a lot of "bi" men are just gay men who've lived extremely closeted lives and use bisexuality as a means to procreate and/or retain some normalcy (in the eyes of society) in their lives. It's only recently that being gay has become nominally accepted (now it's becoming bisexuals who are further on the outside). That said, yes, some men are genuinely bisexual and receive equal enjoyment - others are simply using the woman portion of the group to facilitate access to males who would otherwise be harder to acquire. It's a toss of the coin, really.

[chapsmccall]

this is the wonderful thing about being bi. i love to have my cock buried deep in a lady and a cock deep inside my arse wow it dont get any better than that for me

[bi4asplay]

I am only into play with the guy if the lady is involved as well. I do not mind to start off putting on a show for her, BUT. I want to be able to touch her , to taste her. There are two times when I really enjoy sucking cock. They are when helping her give him head and while she is pegging me. Of course I really enjoy 69 with her while he is in her. Did I mention that I love cream pie? lol

[scapegoat1987]

The threesomes I've been involved with over the years have been a mixed bag. I've had them mmf, mff and mmm. The mmf situation was ongoing for two years, but was frustrating in the respect that I was bisexual and the other man and woman were straight. So it was more like the two men pleasuring the woman and her pleasuring us. So many of the threeways were one sided, even the mmm ones, so I don't believe that the problem is unique to mmf situations. There are so many times that one person agrees to the threeway because they're interested in one of the parties involved and the couple makes it clear that it's a package deal. Then that person only focuses on and engages with the one person that they wanted in the first place. It's frustrating from either end, because no one wants to be the one left out, and I personally hate being the one getting all the attention while someone else is not. I'm super sensitive like that, and I often find myself being the one setting the threeways up, negotiating the deal and then orchestrating the actual event so that everyone is satisfied, which is exhausting--but that's another rant about threeways all together. :) I'm not a huge fan of threeways for the most part, because of the reasons I just mentioned. However, I have to admit that mmf is one of my biggest fantasies right now. I would love to find a mf couple to play with, and I'd gladly pay attention to both of them.

[scapegoat1987]

Oh, and I meant to add this part and forgot. I agree with whatever poster who said that so many bi men rarely get to experiment or enjoy same-sex activities, and that they probably seize the moment of opportunity by focusing on the man. And I also agree that there are bi men who are more interested in men in general, and who like seeing mixed couple sex. I think every scenario can work as long as the people involved agree up front. Like I said, the poly mmf relationship that I was involved with in my younger days worked at the time, even though two of the participants were straight. I doubt seriously that I'd be satisfied with two straight partners as much now, but it could work if I were in a girl phase at the time. At times I'd be more than happy to just watch and pleasure myself or to be with the woman while the man watches and pleasures himself. Both scenarios are great.

[stonebow]

I can just picture it...an egg timer on the nightstand...DING! times up!.. everyone switch!..lol

[stonebow]

Seriously though, I too am fully into both genders and when I get that all too rare chance for a threesome I like to believe I'm paying equal attention to both my lovers. Love sucking a cock as she rides my dick, for example. Also enjoy the reverse..riding HIS cock as she's sitting on his face. I think when all parties are thus connected there is little chance of favoritism.

[Hypersexual11]

It's tough enough to find a mate that is sexually and mentally compatible. When adding another guy to the mix, I think our expectations are too high. When we first delved into this world, we really didn't know what to expect. There were a lot of disappointments in our quest for that perfect balance. We have found that making my wife the center of attention, leaves a lot of room for guys to experience mm contact. I think that's the beauty of the mfm over fmf. Seems with the fmf, there is more sideline time. Mfm seems to be a more natural 3some, with 2 bi guys at least.

Finding that bi guy is where many of us become cynical of the search and suspicious of the candidates. But our experience has been the opposite of the OP and common to many others. Straight guys putting on a bi facade for pussy access. Fucking creepy.

[NjbiGuy01]

Swinging (bi or otherwise) is about balance....the finest couples I've played with (MMF) were those who knew what they wanted and made the ground rules clear to all parties. In these cases, we could comfortably explore all options, whether the men played with the woman's help, I played with the woman while the man helped or we sucked him together during intercourse etc. The more frustrating encounters were couples who either during or after the encounter, had "swingers remorse" due to various reasons. If everyone is on the same page, and limits are (or are not :) ) established, things can go smoothly. This is why i like to chat online, talk on the phone, meet for a drink, and make sure we all know what we all want..... it's simple stuff really: is anal on the menu ? Who tops, bottoms, middles, kissing allowed , condoms being used, pictures or movies being taken, and so forth..... to me it seems obvious, to many, not so much....

[1funguy]

Thanx guys.
We haven't had a 3sum with these men I speak of. This is what has come to light during conversation. For instance, they will say they want to be with US but treat me coldly and or only talk/txt my hubby about what they wanna do with him.. hubby will explain this is not what we want and they will get upset and stop being friends with me. Maybe they blame me? . Its only happened about 3x but its enough to make me wonder if we're the oddballs who should give up on our fantasy.

I tried to look at your personal ad to get an idea of what you were advertising for. Your profile has about me and no personal ad attached. Try putting your wants and desires into your personal ad to clarify. In the about me section it list the female as Bi and the male straight. That could be the problem.

[centillini]

for me I love pussy more than cock, but not apposed to cock. love making sure the lady is well satisfied

[Superlite]

Why IS all the rum gone??

GOOD ?

[elian]

I lean more toward being attracted to guys but the one time I had an opportunity to spend time with a couple it was more my insecurity of not wanting to make the first move with the lady and her shyness at the first time being in this situation that prevented me from sharing fully. I thoroughly enjoyed watching both of them with each other and helping them feel pleasure. Once I felt more comfortable I also thoroughly enjoyed masturbating her.. Straight sex with a female was just a bit much for me - I could not get out of my head that this was the other partner's girl and she wanted to be with me..sort of the reverse of jealousy, or fear of jealousy that may not have actually been there..in any event it made straight sex impossible although I enjoyed being there emotionally for both of them at the time.

I guess this was probably the first "real" adult activity I was involved with so I was pretty "young" in terms of understanding what I wanted. It was a good experience, and a shame that we lived so far away. I ended up being the bad guy and breaking it off mostly because of the distance involved. They eventually split up, but I still think about both of them to this day - if I had been geographically closer I am sure I would have continued to love both of them - they really were special to me, and I'm grateful that they taught me that I'm worthy of being loved and that I really am capable of loving both genders deeply.

I don't know if I would prefer a threesome type of relationship, I am the type of person who wants to connect to the people I love on an emotional level and since I am introverted it takes a lot of energy to be present and reach out to one lover emotionally, let alone more than one. Of course, that's just my perception - I am sure there are healthier ways of looking at things.

[bottom's up]

the last mfm 3 some i had, i had the woman sit on my face to start out and he gave me a blow-job-then there were all kinds of combinations after that
how it ended, with my eyes crossed of course

[jimdiana98]

im bi and me and my wife play with guys so we can both play with them. most of the guys however are just wanting to play the bi end of it .i love seeing my wife get the main play then we do the bi play and the guys say thats what thay want to. then the time comes and it changes, now lets be real you being female you know a guys out for what he wants if he wants to suck a cock he will say whatever to get to do it, its same as reg sex if a guys a nice guy its about all playing if hes a ass its about him

[bi_n_texas]

speaking personally...i enjoy the pleasuring and pleasing of both parties. although i am very bisexual, i prefer the company of women. and as a voyuer, i get my greatest thrill of watching those i am with "get off" before i do. i will engage in the woman's needs as much as, if not more, than the male's.

[curiouscayman]

Having experience with mmf, mfm, mff, mfff and mmmf, there will always be dynamics you must overcum. I don't need a mmf to fulfill my bi desires, it's too easy to hookup with a bi or gay male. Its far more difficult to enter into a mmf situation and you better take care of all participants and deem yourself one lucky sob to be there in the first place!

[WantFunTimes2012]

I love both, being pleased and pleasing both. Living in a small town finding playmates is my hardest thing right now.

[open2both]

For me BISEXUAL means BOTH.
Of course everyone has their preferences etc. and degrees of "whatever" but seek out what works for you and enjoy your LIFE!

[smokindeist]

I've only had sex once with a man and I loved it. However, my wife kinda got left out. I feel bad about how it happened and I'm determined that if we have another MMF, she's gonna get some proper attention too. It's good to learn from your mistakes.

[aLABiM75 & StrF51]

If all Partners are not being pleased, what is the point?
Seems very selfish, and selfish people are horrible Lovers.

[cuttin2dachase]

I prefer couples with bi males because my main desire is to please both her and him and be pleased by them both. I have yet to be with a couple where she was neglected or pushed aside or did not want to participate. I would not meet couples unless I had chatted with them both before meeting and we discussed limits and groundrules. I did meet quite a few guys 1 on 1 who had originally approached me about a 3some with their wife/gf but who later said she had gotten cold feet. It is a very unique woman who is comfortable with her man going bi in mfm play. The way it usually happened was that she warmed up by watching and sometimes masturbating as her man and I performed oral on each other, usually joining in to provide another hot mouth to the action. Usually he and I stopped short of cumming early in the encounter, saving ourselves in order to please her before he and I got off. As in 1 on 1 sex with a woman, I did my best to last as long as possible and provide as many orgasms as I could before I was finished off by her or him or both of them. If he had not been finished by her or both of us, I was more than happy to finish him orally as she basked in her afterglow. As many other posters have said, it's all about everyone pleasing everyone.