Well, I suppose it had to happen sometime!

[rdy2go]

Here it goes. I know this will sound like a cheap letter to a skin mag, but it happened. Only once mind you, but it did happen, okay twice. I thought about posting this little story for a while now, and then figured why the hell not? It is a first, and those of you who know me, know I am straight so you'll get a kick out of this. Here is the story of the night I jumped the fence.

Recently, 6 months ago, I called it quits with the woman I was with, I am not going to get into details but it was over, so we went our separate ways. I was getting on with life, doing my own thing and the like. I had a couple of dates with some really nice women, and the single life is appealing to me again. I am having FUN! Anyway, on a Saturday night about 5 weeks ago the guitar player in the band I am in came over, and we set up my drum machine, I dug out my bass, and we jammed for a while, had a few, (okay, more than a few) drinks, and were having a good time. A few hours later, about midnight, we packed up the music stuff, and just hung out, drinking, and shooting the breeze. We talked about music, the band, women, (musicians always talk about women!) and life in general. My buddy is single like me, having gotten divorced about 5 years ago. He has since met a woman who he has a casual relationship with, I would call this woman his girlfriend, but that might be a stretch.

So, how the conversation got to sex I don't know, (We were drinking, so that is likely why) but it did. I also don't quite recall how it got to the point where my friend suggested we should give each other a blow job, but again, it did. As well I don't know how I got to the point where I thought this was a good idea, (Oh yeah, the drinking!) but I did. Anyway, we decided that if for no other reason than to find out what it was like to suck a dick, we should do it. There was no seducing involved, we simply got naked, sat beside each other on the couch, and played with each other. I do remember that although it felt strange it was kind of thrilling to touch another guys dick in a sexual way. I think both of us had consumed enough rum to relieve us of our inhibitions, and were curious enough at that point to continue. The drinking thing again! My buddy soon knelt in front of me and awkwardly began to lick my meat, after a few minutes he just plunked it in his mouth and started sucking. After a bit he kind of relaxed and began to finesse his mouth and tongue around my dick a bit better. I looked down and was amazed by this. But it felt good by now so I let him continue. He stopped after a while, and I, with a huge amount of hesitation, took my turn on my knees and began sucking his cock. Neither of us was in any danger of coming considering we didn't really know what the hell we were doing, but we did both agree that it felt kind of good. We took turns blowing each other, every few minutes switching places. I suggested unfolding the sofa bed, so we didn't have to get on our knees, then we went back to blowing each other. We even lay down beside each other and sucked each other off at the same time! We did eventually both come but we didn't do it in each others mouths. It was the first time in my life I came with a guy watching me, and the first time I ever saw another dude come. After we both came we just looked at each other and laughed. It was a new experience, and thinking back on it now I am glad it happened. Although I am straight, I have always wondered what it would be like to give a guy a blow job, and now I know. I firmly believe that all straight people wonder about being with a same sex partner from time to time. I have for years. Anyone who says they don't is likely telling a huge fib!

Anyway, if you remember I said twice. Well the next weekend after a Friday night gig, we both struck out with the ladies that were there, my buddy and I got together again, and again we had a few drinks, and tried the blowjob thing again. This time we were more relaxed and it felt better. My buddy wanted me to come in his mouth, and I did, but it took a while. then I had my turn sucking his dick, but just couldn't see myself going all the way, so when he was about to come I pumped his meat until he got off. That was it. I didn't think about it again, until tonight, and I did want to tell the story. Yes I did enjoy it, yes it was fun. Will I do it again? I don't know. So there you have it at the age of 50 or so, I experienced my first man to man sexual encounter, and enjoyed it! The power of rum I suppose.

I told you it would sound like a letter to a skin rag, but it did happen.

[ExSailor]

Denial is not just a river in Egypt. You are not "straight" or heterosexual at all but a bisexual man who is in denial of his sexuality. If you actually were hetero/straight you would not have had sex with another man at all even once and even if you were drunk. The guys I know who actually are heterosexual/straight do not fantasize or want to know what it is like to suck a dick and they've never had nor wanted to have sex with a person of the same gender. Did you swallow each other's cum loads?

[BiDaveDtown]

Ugh not the whole "Oh I was so drunk..." excuse that nobody believes. :rolleyes: You can pretend that you're hetero or "straight" all you want but you're at least bisexual even if you have been in denial or are coming to terms with it now.

[4_oral_fun]

Yep, I like to suck on one but don't go out looking for one all the time. Think about sucking one alot, I really enjoy it in a mfm scene, have to know the person and know they don't blow any cock that comes along. Yeah, I have bi thoughts alot

[firebird19]

GOOD JOB ! AND FOR THE NEXT TIME , YOU CAN DO THE HOLE JOB , AND HAVE FUN ! ! ! !

[NjbiGuy01]

The biggest hurdle is acceptance of who you are and that it's ok to do what feels good. I had more than a few weeks of confusion, depression, and frustration after my first experience. Eventually, I sat down with the dude I first played with and we rationalized what we did to one another. We both dated and loved women like crazy (we were male sluts really...), and we both helped one another realize there was nothing wrong with what we did. It was an extension of the boundaries of our sexuality. For me, it felt most comfortable in a MFM situation, but I have had a few MM scenes that were fantastic....I play guitar, we should jam sometime ;)

[jamieknyc]

Some people here seem awfully quick to pin a 'bisexuality badge' on you. Only time will tell if this was a one-time experimentation or something that is going to become an ongoing sexual orientation thing.

[Plumhead2]

Hi, five to Jamie. Why does experimentation always make people label you one thing or another? If he never did it again and never thought about doing it again, would he still be labeled a bisexual? What if he never did it, but thought about it all the time?

[tenni]

Good for you rdy2go

I hope that you enjoyed yourself and have more fun in the future whether with a woman or man.

As far as your sexuality is concerned, that is your business. However, you have been hanging around this site for awhile. This is a bisexual website and not a cooking website(unless you have been cooking your curiosity by checking out this site ..kid'n ;).

[ExSailor]

Some people here seem awfully quick to pin a 'bisexuality badge' on you. Only time will tell if this was a one-time experimentation or something that is going to become an ongoing sexual orientation thing. Only that's not the case here at all. He's in his 50s and wrote about fantasizing or thinking about sucking a cock for years. That is not something that heterosexual men do, and they don't go out and have sex twice with male friends. Plumhead-You can still be bisexual and you do not have to be sexually active at all with one or both genders, and sexual fantasies do tell a lot about someone's sexual orientation.

[jamieknyc]

Only that's not the case here at all. He's in his 50s and wrote about fantasizing or thinking about sucking a cock for years. That is not something that heterosexual men do, and they don't go out and have sex twice with male friends. Plumhead-You can still be bisexual and you do not have to be sexually active at all with one or both genders, and sexual fantasies do tell a lot about someone's sexual orientation.
There *are* people who try things and decide it isn't for them, or just lose interest.

[ExSailor]

There *are* people who try things and decide it isn't for them, or just lose interest. LOL you can make up all the excuses you want for the OP to try to feed into his denial, he's bisexual and not hetero or straight at all.

[Gearbox]

At what point can we all point fingers at the OP and fairly state that "That man there is def no hetro!"? When is it too late for us to claim we're hets on an experiment?lolGOOD FOR YOU OP! If you like it, more power to your elbow (no pun intended!lol).

[**Peg**]

and *I* find myself wondering why it is SO important to this ExSailor to label someone he does not know. Perhaps a look in a mirror is in order.

w2g rdy :)

[ExSailor]

Gearbox never has been heterosexual and just now in his 50s he is accepting that he is bisexual and has now became sexually active with the same gender despite wanting and fantasizing about sucking a dick for years. Peg I already have known for decades that I am bisexual but it's sad that someone like the OP is so in denial of their sexuality that they are in their 50s and go out and have sex with some dude and suck each other off and claim "Oh but I am really 'straight'!" riiiiiiiight...:rolleyes:

[rdy2go]

Seems my fence jumping episode caused quite a little stir didn't it. To all of you who took this story as it was presented, and didn't judge me, thank you. To those of you who decided you get to tell me who or what I am, well all I can say is this. Where the hell do you get off judging me, telling me what my orientation is, I tried something to see what it was like, end of story. I am not the first, and I won't be the last. having a sexual experience with someone of the same sex just to see what it is like does not make one something they are not. When I was younger my church youth group went to a synagogue because the leaders thought it was a good thing to experience a different culture. When I walked out of that building I wasn't Jewish. Last August my daughters boyfriend's Uncle (A Muslim) invited me and my family to go to partake in several of the dinners they have after sundown during Ramadan, we went we had a nice time, met some of the Saudi Arabian community in Nova Scotia, and we all learned something about a different lifestyle, but that did not make me Muslim. According to those who judged me I must be a Straight/Bi/Jewish/Muslim guy. Wouldn't that be something! I believe that one must experience as much as one can during the time we have on earth, so I try new things to experience everything I can before I check out, that doesn't mean that I change who or what I am.

I am still a straight man, regardless of what those of you who see fit to judge me think. I have never in my life put anyone down because of who they are. I have been hanging out on this site for a while, and have met some people who I enjoy talking to in the chat room, or on a PM, and occasionally I get some grief because I do not classify myself as bi, or gay, or whatever some of you think I am supposed to be. here is the kicker, I also have gotten grief because I am straight, and some straight folks do discriminate against the GLBT community, I don't deny that happens, but some of the reaction my post has gotten is the same damn thing, discrimination. You can't have it both ways, you can't complain about being discriminated against, if you are doing your own brand of discrimination, it's hypocritical and self righteous. You want an opinion? Fine, you are entitled to it, just don't tell me what I am or am not. Like I said, I did what I did to see what it was like, I am allowed you know, but that is as far as it goes. The world would be a pretty fucking boring place if everyone stayed within the confines of the little box society puts each of us in, and never colored outside the lines once in a while. So many people try so hard to break down the walls that have been imposed on us, then, based on some of the comments posted in response to my thread, I find a few people Hell bent on putting them back up. "Judge not lest you be judged." whether you are religious or not that's good advice. So there! :tongue:

[ExSailor]

...I am still a straight man... The only "walls" that are being put up rdy2go are the ones that you yourself are putting up around yourself, building your closet, and claiming that you are somehow magically "straight" or are heterosexual when you are actually bisexual. If you want to be an in denial "straight" guy or stay in denial about being bisexual that's your choice but you're only kidding yourself since you're not heterosexual or straight at all. If you actually were hetero or straight you never would have had sex with any man once or even twice like you did even if you were drunk and want to use that as an excuse. :rolleyes:

[darkeyes]

Why is it so hard to believe? Many people of both genders have their first same sex encounters while sozzed out of their skull... being pissed as a fart tends to lower our inhibitions and most of us do things we wouldn't otherwise do except when pickled.. it often brings out in us our true nature, but not always.. sometimes our more normal self is open to suggestion which when unpissed we would be abhorred by... sometimes our own consciousness comes up with the suggestion itself... excess of alcohol can make people and things seem attractive and enticing to us from which next morning we recoil in horror... we are often drawn inexorably and compulsively to doing things which in normal circumstances are alien to our natures, beliefs and personal sense of morality... I have no idea about the OP...neither has anyone else.

I think xsailor must be sozzed... telling us the luffly Gear is over 50... tsk... nev mind, Popeye, ur head will clear overnight and things will seem better in morning:impleased...

[pepperjack]

I think the title to the thread is very revealing, indicating he was giving in to the inevitable which had been burning in his mind for some time. :suave:

[pepperjack]

And he ends the thread by saying he "enjoyed" it & credits "the power of the rum." Sounds like a story of 'liquid courage' to me.:rolleyes: He's addicted! There'll be more.

[rdy2go]

Ex Sailor, from the bullshit I have read from you, you are a pompous tool, who gets off on telling people that they MUST conform to what you think or think of the person you decide to fuck with. (See! I can pre-judge just as well as you!) Drunk or not, I did what I did because I wanted to, no pressure from anyone. Some of us do what we want. I am one of those. You don't know a damn thing about me, who I am, (That is evident) where I live, or why I do what I do when I do it, or what my outlook on life is. So until you know more about me, which will likely never happen because in your world only your opinion matters, keep your fucking judgments to yourself. I don't mind people having opinions about me that I disagree with, but you better damn well know me a fucking lot better than you know me (which is not at all) before you form that opinion. Is your life constricting you so much that all you can do is force your point of view about people onto them in an emotionless website forum? It seems like that to me.

If I had written in my original thread that after I had sucked my friends cock, I thought it was the most vile and disgusting thing I had ever done, you likely would have written blue murder about that. Accusing me of not respecting the right of Bi folks to live life as they see fit. No one can win with a someone like you. Now since you are so godlike that you can make assumptions about me, I get to do one about you. Here it is: Your nick name Ex Sailor suggests a Navy background. Likely, you never got past semen, Oh Shit! I mean Seaman third class, which means you took orders and were told what you could and couldn't do for years. Finally you got discharged and found yourself with the freedom to think for yourself, except all those years of being suppressed from having a thought of your own meant that you couldn't think for yourself. Finding yourself in a world where people expressed real honest thoughts scared the shit out of you. So you cope the only way you know how.... Taking the lessons you learned from you C/O's and forcing your opinions on everyone you meet, therefor your attacks on me are, in some way known only to you, justified. How's that for a character assessment of someone I don't know, am I right? Am I wrong? I don't know and to tell you the truth I don't fucking care. I do however care about the next sentence..."You do NOT have the right to tell me what my sexuality is." I tried something different, to see what it was like. That's it. There is no hidden meaning, or anything else. It's just to bad you can't understand that, but you never will understand things like that, your mindset is if the world doesn't agree with you, in your little mind the world is wrong. I do feel bad for you, you are destined to live in a two dimensional world, it must be so frustrating for you.

[ExSailor]

Rdy2go is having a temper tantrum, riding the cotton pony today, and is now making up excuses and living in denial about his sexuality which never was that of a heterosexual or straight man ever. The only laughter in rdy's signature is coming from the people who are laughing, shaking their heads, facepalming, and rolling their eyes at the idea that he ever was or actually is heterosexual yet has sex with men, enjoys it, and he's in complete denial about being bisexual. :rolleyes:

[SlightlySalty]

The only laughter in rdy's signature is coming from the people who are laughing, shaking their heads, facepalming, and rolling their eyes at the idea that he ever was or actually is heterosexual yet has sex with men, enjoys it, and he's in complete denial about being bisexual. :rolleyes:

Actually, those facepalming and rolling their eyes are trying to understand why it is so important to you, and some others, to paste labels on people you don't even know. Call yourselves whatever you want and be happy about it, but please leave the rest of us out of it.

[ExSailor]

Actually, those facepalming and rolling their eyes are trying to understand why it is so important to you, and some others, to paste labels on people you don't even know. Call yourselves whatever you want and be happy about it, but please leave the rest of us out of it. Have you read the other replies? I'm not the only one here who is pointing out the obvious that the OP is anything but hetero or straight. The fact remains that rdy2go is not heterosexual or straight and never has been. The only sort of men who are actually hetero/straight who have sex with men are the type who are raped or in prison and gang raped/sexually assaulted and this did not happen here. Rdy should just enjoy being bisexual and keep sucking dick and then take that dude's cock up his ass or fuck that guy's ass, and stop living in complete denial of being bisexual like he did for decades before he finally had the balls to suck a dick and start living for once.

[SlightlySalty]

Have you read the other replies?

Did you read mine? I said you *and others*. As you correctly point out, several posts have insisted that the OP is not straight. My point is, why is it so difficult for you to let it go? If your opinion is that he is bi or gay, fine. It's your opinion and you are entitled to it. However, that does not seem to be enough. You apparently feel the need to ram your opinion down every elses throats, and I for one just don't get it. I could understand it if the OP or others attacked you for the way you label yourself, but the reverse is true. You are the one on the attack and it really seems a pointless use of bandwidth. I don't care what the OP calls himself because I don't know him and it's his business. I'm perfectly fine with that. Obviously others are not and I know there will be more flaming to come. However, I am done with it and will not be following the rants.

[Brian]

1. This thread is poisoned with personal attacks, so I am closing it.

2. I'm not going to send anyone away from the site for a cooling off this time, but I've made note of who broke the "No personal attacks rule."

3. It seems foolish and wrong to me to slap sexual orientation labels on other people on bisexual.com of all sites.

- Drew