Relationship Questions?

[MisBC13]

I am doing a paper for my college english class, in which, we have to pick a a subject of "who we are," and then write a whole paper about it. I chose my bisexual and interracial relationship as my subject. I was just wondering if anyone of you have found that it is easier being with the same sex or the opposite sex and why? I don't mean socially, I mean just as a relationship. I find that sometimes it is easier being with a female because I am a female, but then it's hard because some women can be very catty. I'm married to a Haitian man and because he was not born here we have different outlooks on certain things. Sometimes I find him not so sensitive to my needs. So I'm just curious how everyone else feels!

[Young pussy and dope]

Did you finish writing your essay yet? Can you post it here for people to read? Or at least post the parts about being bisexual? Where are you attending college at? I have been with both women and men for relationships and live in partnerships and it makes no difference to me what the person's gender is.

[innaminka]

I was married to a man for 20+ years. I have been in a relationship with a woman for 2: we are a "couple" in our own home.

I think living with a man, for me was easier. They are less complicated and potentially more stable. (They also have shortcomings, but lets not go into male living habits)
However living with a woman is more exciting and unpredicatable - its "zingy" and certainly there's more day to day affection.

[zigzig]

I've been in a relationships with males only. I can agree on cultural differences you must compromise by being in an interracial relationship. Funny that my husbands mother accepted me easily, because colored people prefer their kids to get married with white or light skinned people. My family took a while to accept, but since my hubby is a light complexion and some people actually think he's white, they accepted. I can agree with innaminka that with a man it is easier to live, because they are more simple and sometimes can financially support better. But sex with a woman for me can be more exciting, because sometimes men, when they cum, loose interest to satisfy the women. But women can easily guess the partners mood.

[Young pussy and dope]

And we wonder why Western culture has evaporated. So what is your theory on why it has?

[MisBC13]

i have not started it yet. I will publish my paper though. I'm attending locally. I guess it all depends on the person your with lol.

[MisBC13]

Yes male habits are sometimes flawed lol. I get enough affection that's for sure. It's probably one of the reason we have been together for ten years. I can honestly say I never lack affection!

[MisBC13]

Did you finish writing your essay yet? Can you post it here for people to read? Or at least post the parts about being bisexual? Where are you attending college at? I have been with both women and men for relationships and live in partnerships and it makes no difference to me what the person's gender is.
So here is part of the paper, oh and I received a 100 on it:
Who Am I?

Being bisexual and in an interracial relationship has racist incidents, but it can make for
a more enlightened couple and experiences. In fact, I identify as bisexual, which I have
found that many people do not fully understand. Bisexuals, by my definition, is a person
who is sexually attracted to both males and females, and can have a relationship with
either or both at the same time. Bisexuals get a bad name because people think that we
greedy or confused. "The lesbians are looking at you like you're kind of a traitor, you
don't know what side you want -- you're not really one of them. And then, the more
straight community's going, 'Oh, you're kind of slutty!,” said Romi Klinger according to
the Huffington Post.

In today’s society, even though it is 2013, I still find it hard to fit into a particular
group of people. I have always felt like an outsider and one who goes against the
grain. I have found through my own personal experiences that straight people think I am
confused and mostly straight because I am married to a man. Gay people think that I
am confused, greedy, and a user of sorts.

Nothing could be further from the truth. I love women and men. Both have different
qualities that I cannot find in the other. Women have a certain softness that men do not
have. Their whole sex appeal is completely different also. Women are more sensual and
romantic. Men are more rough around the edges and I love the fact that they are so
different from me. They have rough hands and just the fact that men are bigger than
I is a turn on.

My typical female preference is around my height of 5’5’’ tall, not skinny, but not too
heavy either, and with curves. I love femme women, but I do not like then too “girly,”
mostly a rocker chick type. I would go for a plus size pin-up, roller derby kind of
woman. Now with men, I go for the blue collared worker types, very rugged, shaved
heads, strong with some muscle, kind of outdoorsy. Both males and females have to be
funny, smart, and down to earth people. I love and long for both sexes equally. I do
not prefer one more than the other. When I am with someone, I am with someone! I do
not stray. I give my all to that person. However, if the person I am with would like to
have someone join us I am not opposed to that either. Being bisexual in some cases
means that you have to be able to have an open relationship.

I have been with both men and women that would never be with two people at once.
Mainly another person and me. Most of them were not okay with the fact that I am
bisexual. Needless to say that the relationships did not last long at all. I had been on
the search for the right kind of man or woman that was not afraid of who I was and
actually just loved me for me. I didn’t care if it was a man or women, what nationality
they were, where they came from. Just as long as they loved me and all of me, even
the bisexual part. As much as people would like that not to exist, I am and always will
be a bisexual woman. I’ve known since I was 4 years old that I was bisexual. I think
my family noticed it too, but didn’t really know what to do with it. I had such an
open-mind and accepted everyone.
I am a caucasion woman and married to a Haitian born man. We are in an interracial
relationship. Otherwise, known as , “miscegenation (/mɪˌsɛdʒɨˈneɪʃən/; from the Latin
miscere "to mix" + genus "kind") is the mixing of different racial groups through
marriage, cohabitation, sexual relations, and procreation,” as defined by Wikipedia. My
husband W. and I met at work, I was the office manager and he was the service
technician for a heating and air conditioning company. As soon as I met him, I knew I
was going to marry him. There was just something about him, he was handsome, smart,
and funny. But yet mysterious all at the same time. It was love at first sight, very
cliché, but none the less true.

My husband W. and I have been together for ten years. We have encountered a lot
of positive and negative feedback from people. We have not had the easiest time
because we have a dually difficult relationship. Not to mention, that Waner is from
Haiti, which is a third world country. He and I have many different views on life, but
essentially we just want the best for our family that we have created together.

W. and I have culturally different opinions on the way the world works. Coming
from two different cultures, often makes us think very differently. There are days that
we debate about politics and it seems like we are going around in circles. We then just
agree to disagree.

I also think for my husband W., growing up in Haiti, and then coming here that it
was major adjustment, not to mention culture shock. He grew up in a place that racism
did not exist and then he came here and was slapped in the face with it. He also lived
in Asbury Park, New Jersey, which was the ghetto. Most African Americans did not like
any other group of people, it did not make a difference in the color of their skin. My
husband said, “the African American kids in town called us names, yelling go back to
your country because we didn’t speak English. The Haitian kids would run home. There
were fights every day after school because we were Haitian.” I believe that most of
the fights were over drug territories and just sheer ignorance.

Then he got to high school and he was the captain of the football team, lead track
runner, and was a social butterfly. He dated the only white female in his class. I asked
him, “did the kids you went to school with ever make any statements about you dating
a white female?” Waner replied, “Not really, the kids didn’t really care. If anything they
would say “oh your dating that white girl?” But it never fazed me to be honest. I got
more ridiculed from my father about sticking to my own kind.” I have also faced this
with my family, they may not have said it, but you can feel it.

My mother was really the only one who was happy for us. My mother said, “No, I
really didn’t care as long as you were happy,” when I asked her, “Did it matter to you
that he is black and Haitian?” She has always given me support, no matter what the
situation was. My mother has supported me at the worst of times and the best. She
loves my children and my husband, and that’s all that I could ever ask for from her.

I believe that because my husband and I are so different, but very open-minded, that
my children have the best of both worlds. My husband and I have two beautiful
daughters, ages 8 and 5 years old, plus a 9 month old son. My daughters know that
they can ask us anything in the whole world and we will answer them. We do not
frown upon anything that they might want to do. We have always told them that they
can do anything when they are older as long as they go to college and better
themselves. We want them to have what we never had. The dialogue is always open
and they never have to fear that we will not accept them. My children learn about
Haiti, so that can become more acquainted with that part of them. They also know that
if a person is different by any means that it is okay.

My Uncle M. is gay, and my daughters never even questioned why he is with Auntie
A. or why. They know that whatever their preference is when they are older, that
they are accepted no matter what. They never judge or criticize people for being
different, even though at times they are. Society judges my children, by wondering what
they are, or if I am even their mother. It’s not just older people, but their peers judge
them too. I find that sad because they are wonderful children and in 2013 this should
not even be a concern. My daughters know that I am bisexual and what it means. They
could careless, and they think that I am actually cooler than most moms. So I must be
doing something right.

“Marriages that are successful, usually move out from the "acceptance" requirement and make
their own private world,” quoted by the Love N Emotions website. I believe that my
husband and I have lasted so long because we do not care about other people’s
perceptions of us. We accept each other no matter what, love each other unconditionally,
and have made a family of strong open-minded children, who may one day change the
world some more for the better.

No one can use this paper for any means unless they contact me and use me as a reference. All rights for this paper are reserved to me.

I hope you all enjoy it!

[Young pussy and dope]

Thanks for posting.

[biblkman]

As a biracial and bisexual man I hve had a very full and intersesting life...culturally that is.

I am black and Latino 37 years old, so I've had some experience with not fitting in well before I knew I was bi.

I was born and raised in Michigan nevr learned to speak Spanish ( was never taught ) anyway I grew up mostly around my Latino family till about 9 when we moved where I was around my black family.

It was hard to be accepted by either blacks saw me as Latin so I had to work harder to be expected same with Latinos except it was a little harder to fit in with Latinos cause really saw me.as black and the fact I didn't speak Spanish didn't help so I had to work harder to be accepted by Latinos.

I used to get depressed and wish I was one race or the other and it took me till about the age of 17 to accept and love both races in me and not try so hard to fit in , so imagine my pain when I realized I was bi at age 30 and having to relive all to similar situations.

Straight and gay people thinking Im gay, greedy and just confused... ok maybe a little greedy, I only say that cause I prefer women but I get a craving for a man every once in a while, but I won't cheat to satisfy that craving and that's only with approval and that been 3 times in the last 7 years.

I was still dealing with my bisexuality when I came to this site a few years ago and got plenty of input and acceptance here.

I am closeted about my bisexuality only my partner and a select few know, I prefer it that way cause I don't want to deal with the cultural and social baggage that comes with it but if my bisexuality should get out I wouldn't deny it, just not trying to tell the world my business, just like me and my lady like to rub honey all over ourselves and roll around in feathers and have crazy animal sex on a full moon...its just know ones business LOL.

As far as relationships I prefer a women...the opposite of me to complete me, but I do desire a male bond.and some man on man sex every once in a while.

As far as race I have never had an issue...as far as dating is concerned, I've dated women off all races and never had an issue with friends or family prejudices, or being accepted by society.

[biblkman]

To...Young pussy and dope....

I see nothing sad about it...some Russians, Germans, Africans, Chinese,Japanese,and all.sorts don't speak the language, but for some reason people expect Latinos ( no matter where they are born to speak Spanish ) America is a melting pot of all races and ethnicities, whose parents or grand parents or great grand parents came here from somewhere...so is everyone suppose to speak another language other than English ?

I think that's very presumptuous !!