How do you find like people

[nick3635]

I have recently had a bi sexual experience with a couple. It was just oral between him and me and his wife loved it. I realized during all of this that I like oral sex with a guy. The problem now is that I have no idea how to find guys that like the same thing. How do you find like minded guys ??

[chtampa]

Just like this....

[Young pussy and dope]

It should be very easy to find another bisexual or gay man who wants to have sex.

[bikurinpa]

It should be very easy to find another bisexual or gay man who wants to have sex.
It might be in your area! This area here, the local guys are online just to play games.

[Realist]

I think it's a lot easier, if you're one who takes chances. Those who are into one night stands, or sex with strangers seem to have no trouble.

But, after reading your profile, I see that you're more interested in a more intimate type of relationship, with friends, and/or lovers, who are interested in sharing an experience rather than a quickie. (A LTR is more desirable )That is more difficult and takes more time to cultivate. But, as I see, it it's much more rewarding once a solid connection is made.

Good luck with that!

[VZR1800]

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Mostly agree with the above. I've been on both Manhunt and Adam4Adam for awhile now. I am picky in who I let visit me, but I've had no problems finding a cock to suck pretty much as often as I want. I actually drove to another man's house yesterday, and we had a great time. Both got our nut, it was awesome. Last weekend had sex Friday, Saturday and Sunday with three different, clean and attractive guys. I was insatiable for some reason, not feeling it this weekend. Possibly one tomorrow, a hot well hung single guy. Really wishing I could find a regular suck buddy, preferably single, but most of these guys are married, and have too little time available for something regular. ;-(

[HappyHedonic]

Hi Nick,

My difficulty has been finding guys who are not cheating on their wives. If I was looking for a quick blow-and-go it would be no problem, but I am looking for people who are ethically polyamorous and wanting a developing relationship as opposed to a one night stand. How do I find them? I don't know. I'm still looking. I've got an ad here and on OKCupid, I don't bother with Craigslist, and I go to local polyamory support meetings when I can. So far, I've met only women through the OKC ad and one couple through this site, but unfortunately no guys in my area...yet.

[GroupSex]

I think you are on the right track with being on this site and creating this thread.

[VZR1800]

I have met one guy from this site. He is married, and the only reason I tolerate it is because his wife is bi and has a girl friend, and she says he cannot have his play. How does that happen? So he sneaks over here now and then.

[12voltman59]

I have met other guys on here and at some other gay/bi male sites---check around----there are plenty of them. Some to consider----squirt.org, men4sexnow.com and dick.net are a few I like and have also had pretty good luck and results---at least when in Ohio---I have to say though--I guess its the part of Florida I have made at least a winter move to-----the place totally sucks down here and I have given up even trying----thank god I am heading back to Ohio in the next week or so!!! Never thought I would say I am really looking forward to going back to Ohio!! LOL

There are a number of reasons for that beyond just hook ups--but man--it is gonna be so nice to be able to see at least one of my Ohio buddies again!!!

My "bad luck" down here has been across the board at all the sites I go to--and it does go to show you---your success really does rely upon if you are in a larger metro area with a bigger pool to draw from more than anything else.

Good luck in your search to find someone appropriate for you. It obviously is not as easy as one might think to find someone suitable for this sort of thing.

[ALAbiguy]

If you think it's hard finding the right situation in Florida, you should try living in Alabama for a while.

[Young pussy and dope]

I have met other guys on here and at some other gay/bi male sites---check around----there are plenty of them. Some to consider----squirt.org, men4sexnow.com and dick.net are a few I like and have also had pretty good luck and results---at least when in Ohio---I have to say though--I guess its the part of Florida I have made at least a winter move to-----the place totally sucks down here and I have given up even trying----thank god I am heading back to Ohio in the next week or so!!! Never thought I would say I am really looking forward to going back to Ohio!! LOL There are a number of reasons for that beyond just hook ups--but man--it is gonna be so nice to be able to see at least one of my Ohio buddies again!!! My "bad luck" down here has been across the board at all the sites I go to--and it does go to show you---your success really does rely upon if you are in a larger metro area with a bigger pool to draw from more than anything else. Good luck in your search to find someone appropriate for you. It obviously is not as easy as one might think to find someone suitable for this sort of thing. You should easily be able to find a bi or gay man who wants sex even if you're in the middle of nowhere, and even if you are in a backwards state like Ohio, Alabama, or Florida.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

There's all kinds of sites, Darlings..trick is, finding one where you can locate decent, clean respectful partners. Some are married, some arent. All you have to do is find a good match and go from there, It also depends on what you're into and are looking For. Another site can be FetLife.com. Its Not just a BDSM site; its also for like-minded persons to find others of their tastes and desires. its Not all BDSM based..:}
Good luck in your search Hon.
Cat

[fredtyg]

And don't forget one of the toughest (or maybe the easiest?) ways: Go with who you know! I know that's easier said than done, but think about all the guys you know that you've never thought of fooling around with. You may actually be surprised if you probe a little bit that they're not as straight as you think.

I ended up developing the hots for I guy I'd been acquainted with for years. I finally ended up outing myself to him, putting myself in a somewhat precarious situation should he have taken it badly. Turned out he was glad I told him and had done some m2m himself. We ended up fooling around a bit until I screwed that relationship up.

I still think it's a good idea to look around you despite my screwing that one up. I suppose the key is bringing up the subject of mansex in the right time, place and context. Also, always try to approach the subject where your target doesn't feel pressed and has an out.

[Floridaguy4u]

My experience with this web page is " 0 " nothing all talk.... You chat for a while and nothing happens. The same people post and post and give advice and that is all they are
into. Do not know what to tell you. Maybe take a weekend trip to the Sawmill or Camp David both near Tamps. Am sure you would have a very exciting bi time there...

[VZR1800]

My experience with this web page is " 0 " nothing all talk.... You chat for a while and nothing happens. The same people post and post and give advice and that is all they are
into. Do not know what to tell you. Maybe take a weekend trip to the Sawmill or Camp David both near Tamps. Am sure you would have a very exciting bi time there...

Maybe, maybe not. I had male company here earlier today from Adam4Adam. I have another coming around in a little bit. The first was oral only. The next will be safe anal sex. Nice hung black guy.

I have had much luck with Adam4Adam. More so than Manhunt.

[StuckinMW]

You should easily be able to find a bi or gay man who wants sex even if you're in the middle of nowhere, and even if you are in a backwards state like Ohio, Alabama, or Florida.

Have you ever been to Ohio? There's nothing here. Nothing.

[Young pussy and dope]

Have you ever been to Ohio? There's nothing here. Nothing. I've been all over the United States and in different countries in various parts of the world. I have also lived in various places in the United States and in other countries. Even when I lived in small towns in the middle of nowhere in the United States it was still easy to find bisexual and gay men to have sex with, and women as well. I have also been in small rural towns in the middle of nowhere that are a lot more accepting of LGBT people and more safe for LGBT people for LGBT people as a whole to be totally out, than larger cities which can be dangerous aside from a few blocks of an LGBT ghetto. It may surprise you but I have lived in small towns in the middle of nowhere that had gay/LGBT themed sex clubs and even bath houses and nobody cared. LGBT Americans have it so easy compared to LGBT people in the rest of the world, where in certain countries if it's known that you are bisexual or gay and a man you're risking your life both by the people there and by the government in those countries. People are not "stuck" in a certain area, town, city/location, country, "stuck" in a job, or "stuck" in a relationship. Instead they choose to be or make the personal decision or choice to be "stuck".

[ALAbiguy]

Hey Realist. I need to send you a PM but your inbox is full.

[Realist]

ALAbiguy...it's cleared out, now....sorry.

[Hypersexual11]

For years (15) I had a gay friend that I would see for oral sex about once a month. It was the perfect situation, he lived alone, was nice to talk to, and we had outside interests like fishing and skiing. Then I learned why you don't want a gay fuck buddy when he said " I love you". It all fell apart then. I'm not wired to feel anything but sexual attraction to men, and then I'm only attracted to oral sex. I couldnt give him any more than that.
I have yet to find that perfect situation again and doubt I ever will.

[bicuriousnow]

it can be difficult.

[Mr. Suck]

Why are people claiming that it's so difficult to find a same gender sexual partner? If you're looking for what my husband and I call recreational sex or a casual sexual partner that people used to call a fuck buddy, sex buddy, or now call friend with benefits it's not difficult at all. We are not into this at all, and when we were single we were not into one night stands or tricking even if many men in our generation were. Now finding a person for an actual relationship or partnership where you are compatible enough to love each other, and live with one another can be difficult but even still where you live should not hinder that since you need to get out and meet people, date them, and actually get to know them which takes time.

[69luvr]

I enjoy cruising malls looking to make eye contact! U will know when u find it!

[Mr. Suck]

I enjoy cruising malls looking to make eye contact! U will know when u find it! My husband and I have this happen all the time. It's actually very rude and inconsiderate. Think of it from our perspective, we are going out in public to be with each other, go to dinner, or meet up with friends not have other people look at us for potential sexual partners as though it's the 1970s and 1980s. The worst are the single men and women, and other male/female and male/male couples, and even men and women working in stores and restaurants or who we see in public who are too friendly and into doing things like openly flirting with us and leaving their phone number on the bill, or following one of us into the bathroom or approaching us separately blatantly asking for sex who don't take no for an answer and think that we are somehow in an open relationship and want sex with them, even though we are not and have told them this and told them how we are OK with being friends but sex with one or both of us is never going to happen. We avoid places like the tourist traps and LGBT ghettos of Key West, Ft. Lauderdale, and South Beach since they were better decades ago and because of the aggressive and unwanted attention we get there. Also when we have visited San Francisco we avoid the Castro and we think it's silly when bisexual and gay men go on sex vacations just to hook up with strangers, and even worse when they go on vacation and just go to an LGBT ghetto like Provincetown, the Castro, Key west, etc. and only go to "gay" or "LGBT" only places and businesses. Gay/LGBT owned and friendly businesses and places are not bad but it's silly to go to a place on vacation and only go to places like that and no other types of places or businesses.

[luvtocum]

It also helps to know a lot of people, I have lived in this small town for 20 yrs. I have had an ongoing sexual relationship with this couple next door for years, he is a trucker which takes him away for a couple of weeks and I service her while he is away. When he comes home they will call me to play. I also over the years have maintained some long term friends that are also married. Every couple of weeks I have another bud that will come over before my wife gets home, his wife doesn't fuck anymore so we take care of that. Point is its all in how you listen to people that lets you know what they are looking for. Case in point, not long ago I was on a business trip. After a long day dealing with Union issues for the company I work for I was ready to relax and so I headed to the Hotel bar. Still dressed in my Business suit another well dressed guy came in and sat down 3 stools down from me. After talking awhile I joked and said well its been one of those days, I think i'll go to my room put on some porn and beat myself to sleep. He laughed and said hell you need some help? We laughed and I said well come on up in 20 minutes room 220. I thought he won't show, well 20 minutes later there is a knock on the door. He is dressed in a pair of sweat pants and t shirt so I invite him in and made him a beverage. I had some porn compilation going on the computer and he said that was his favorite part, I turned and looked and there is the big cocked guy shooting cum in her mouth. I said so you like cock and he said who doesn't. Well both our cocks started to get hard and he asked if he could taste my cock so he got down and swallowed my whole cock and before long we are buck ass naked sucking each others cocks. Before long he tells me that he wants to be fucked, well I said fine but I do not have any condoms, he produced a condom and I fucked his tiny ass. Next morning we once again crossed paths at the front desk and we simply smiled and said good morning and went our separate ways. Its all in how you listen to people.

[MidMichCouple]

One of the problems I've found is guys who love getting online and chatting with guys about sex saying they want to meet but when it comes down to it all they want to do is chat, it's frustrating.

[fredtyg]

One of the problems I've found is guys who love getting online and chatting with guys about sex saying they want to meet but when it comes down to it all they want to do is chat, it's frustrating.

That can be a drag when you're only looking for a hookup. As for me, I prefer to chat a bit first to get a feel for a guy and I'll admit to being one of those that doesn't mind if it stays limited to chat. I actually found it to be a problem that most guys don't want to chat at all.

[dickhand]

I have had good luck on AdultFriendFinder.com . I live in central Maine . No sign of a metropolis around here . Only around a million folks in the whole state . Majority in the lower half of the state . I have traveled up to 3 hours to play . Usually an hour or so will have me playing with someone . Have met a few couples and many men with this site over the years . Before that there just three and two were my cousins ! This really out in the sticks . Thank goodness for the net !

[lilbitofboth]

I have had good luck on AdultFriendFinder.com . I live in central Maine . No sign of a metropolis around here . Only around a million folks in the whole state . Majority in the lower half of the state . I have traveled up to 3 hours to play . Usually an hour or so will have me playing with someone . Have met a few couples and many men with this site over the years . Before that there just three and two were my cousins ! This really out in the sticks . Thank goodness for the net !

i understand how hard that was, i lived in "the county" for a long time and was really hard to meet people.

[iluvsatinpanties2]

I have been on manhunt.com with some luck, experience project also with some luck and Fetlife, squirt.org, ect.... Fetlife would offer the greatest number of polyamorous couples & men. Fetlife also has a lot of other crazy stuff but lots of open relationship couples who lay together or individually.

[CurEUs_Male]

I prefer friendship. Being out to my wife about this has been a tough road at times. I do find it difficult to find a like minded, married, out to wife guy to become regular friends with, then explore the physical side. The trust between two that are willing to become friends first is key, so my wife will be comfortable as well. That comfort is important because at the end of the day (middle of the night) I am still going to be back with her.

[12voltman59]

Have you ever been to Ohio? There's nothing here. Nothing.

I have no problem in finding people in Dayton and Cincinnati and Columbus is a very good town for meeting guys---they do have two bathhouses there--even though i have not been to them--just feel uneasy about meeting and doing sexual things with guys that way. Where I winter in Florida--is pretty rural around it generally--but if I was down in or closer to South Florida---Miami/Ft Lauderdale/The Palm Beaches---its a different thing!!


You must live out in a more rural part of the state. I am sure that the Cleveland area has good prospects for meeting guys.

[darkeyes]

Slugs and snails have slimy tails
But they can't throw stones 2 hurt me..

[leodecatur]

It should be very easy to find another bisexual or gay man who wants to have sex.Well as one gets older and lives in an area that frowns on any kind of bisexual activities, it just gets difficult to find someone who actually wants to meet. Have had several who indicated a desire to play, but when it came time to meet they chicken out.