Where is this going?

[interiorcamper]

So here I am on a bisexual web site thinking where is this going? It started 2 years ago when my wife tickled my ass for the first time ever, I grew up pretty much homophobic. Never had a cock close to me, (erect any way). Now it has gone from tickling my ass to fingering my ass, to a small toy to a bigger toy ... talking about sucking cocks, having a mmf... where is this going? am I suppose to stand up and say take me or stay quiet in the bedroom with toy play... I am pretty curious what another hot cock feels like, in my hand, mouth or ass... I have issues though, every time we have ass play and cum like crazy I feel somewhat guilty. Over what I have no idea, but in 24hrs hours I get over it and "ask" the wife to come fuck me,, wtf :yikes2:

[McBice]

To Hell in a hand basket, mister, that's where!...kidding...no really, just kidding...From what you have said, I think you are at least 1 step in a good direction in an aspect that a large percentage bisexual males aren't...you have partner that is at least willing to discuss exploring the possibilities and even engage in some activity with you in your wife. Since I can't know what turns you on or off or what feels good or doesn't to you, I can't really tell you where your explorations might go. The only suggestion I would make, is explore together. It's always good to have someone to bounce ideas and tastes off of. I wish you luck and happiness in finding what's right for you.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

In the words of my generation: "If it feels good, do it!"
All I can tell you Sweetie, is to give it a shot. Explore, discover, see what new delights might be out there for you and your lady both! But most of all, TALK about it first. Talk to your lady and speculate on what all can be, might be, and set up guidelines for what absolutely Wont be.
Enjoy, play hard, but play safe at All times..:}
Cat

[interiorcamper]

in 2 posts it is all most clear... "hell in a hand basket" " just because it feels good".... So what's next..? lol

[mrthick40]

you described my situation! I did have a cock in my mouth once and let me tell you this. I FUCKING LOVED it. Its so nice when that's what you want; also .......... a penis has a scent. You would think, "yeah, pussy smells SO delicious", but a cock has a scent that I cant describe, I mean I LOVE pussy, but be ready for that too. And toys don't cum. You know what my big issue is? HIV, I DONT want it or anything else. I put an ad out there, and all the freaks came out of the woodwork, like "oh , I'll suck your cok", was such a turn off to see how some of those men live their lives like Russian roulette!

[FunE1]

Well, if you've been talking with your girl about MMF and she's been active with you in ass-play, pegging, etc., maybe it's time for you to ask yourself what do YOU really want to do next? Do you want take this to the "next" level? If so, what is that (is it MMF? one-on-one M2M play? something else?)? And then, is your girl willing to do THAT (or let you do THAT)?

As for the guilt, I would say that, from my experience, the more of this type of play you do and the more comfortable you feel about this being an aspect of your sexuality, the less guilt you'll have.

Best of luck... sounds like you're on the cusp of, perhaps, some very great adventures!

[interiorcamper]

I appreciate the advice thanks.... from CMCat, we actually were talking this AM about how does it make it ok for a guy to suck my member but not a female. We don't have a open relationship we are very monogamist . But yet I'd like to see my lady get off no matter how she wants.. :) fantasies of mine include her getting off with another woman, hey I'm still a guy loving women... but at the same time,, sometimes I feel too much to risk, to get and give sexual favors to fulfill a fantasy... I love my wife, is it worth to risk the relationship for roll in the hay? is it right to risk the possible feelings of others to risk being caught in the open(If you will) I mean I have no idea if I would actually get off experimenting with a guy. and really, your very much on your own to figure this shit out, as the bi community says giver you'll love it and the straight group says wtf...

[Susurrus1964]

In comment to your initial post...

Where is it going?

Does it really matter? As long as you're both okay with it and are enjoying yourselves, who cares? Even if you never go outside your marriage in any way, to explore some of the things you've talked about, just the fact that you're having fun should be sufficient. There are a lot of us who wish their spouses were cool enough with things to even just discuss such subjects...

Have a good time with it...

[NewBiShopper]

Greetings camper: Don't feel bad about what you are experiencing be glad that you and your wife enjoys new adventures. It's not a natural thing but we guys tend to enjoy some male bonding and if our wives were on board to understanding all of this wow what great sex we could all enjoy.

[NewBiShopper]

Talking is the first step with married couples about branching out having the spouse to accept your inner desire but also wanting to explore her inner desires. Fun and frolic sexual chat digging deep exploring whether your wife would bend the rules a little how she reacts with body language. Would she be more comfortable with another women and you before adding to the equation another guy. Slow and easy is the key don't rush, it takes time to bend a relationship to accepting new sexual responses and if it happens a whole new world awaits to be explored.

[elian]

At first I wanted to "prove" to myself that I could be happy either "gay" or "straight" because I didn't think/know you could like both. Then I used to feel guilty about being happy with men - I found one who wanted more than a one night stand and I realized that the feelings could indeed be real. Eventually I came to the understanding that I could either acknowledge the way I feel and be happy or I could continue to do what I *thought* I needed to do to gain the approval of others, but deny my true feelings and be miserable.

As you gain more experience you will know whether you like it or not, since you are married both of you will need to come to an understanding of the needs, desires, limitations. It sounds as if your wife is at least a little open to the idea and that is great. I feel that right now I could be satisfied with a monogamous relationship, if I knew it was a deep loving relationship but not all bisexual people feel that way. As long as you are all consenting adults with a healthy view of self image and others plus good communication then you have the best chance of both being happy.

I used to feel terrible self-loathing about being attracted to men, understanding the Buddhist concept of "lovingkindness" helped me overcome some of those issues.. Instead of seeing people as "flawed" you see them as "full of potential" .. http://amzn.com/157062903X

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVRT-y2wTBY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xIOaJ7g09YM

[interiorcamper]

I want to say thanks for the replies... I guess this will be an ongoing learning curve, I love my wife and will drop or do what ever she wants. I love to see her turned on, and lately the flavor has been me with another guy. Her guiding the way to some pretty hot monogamist sex with toys in the mix. She enjoys pegging me, with the statements "could you imagine".... Well I can't get it out of my head or should I say can't get off my head thinking about this...LOL As we go through this exploring, I look at guys differently, I am not attracted to 70% of men, but there are a few... "I could do that" type thing... But really,, I can't walk up to anyone and say "do you mind if I blow you?" I am not about to offer up my wife, If I did I'd have a line up... Big strapping lads don't interest me, full blown fem gay doesn't do it, sport jocks don't do it... I think that leaves 10 %, Now if wifey doesn't like them we are down to 5%... So in 100 men only 5 of you will qualify to be able to get a chance to please her and I at the same time... Now If that guy is in for just her for the first ever experience... That would just shut the idea down and go back to playing with toys...... So I have read the thread of where to find like minded individuals but bath houses don't seem to be my game. thoughtful, caring, patience, polite and someone more into me than my wife.. are we at 1% now?..... Where would you find that guy? don't forget reasonably local to us.... Now I don't want to be outed just because I am curious, the last thing I'd want is to be open to family and friends... As I explore this, the idea of being "caught" terrifies me. Maybe I have to come to terms with that if I want to play in this sand box... someone will eventually find out.

[stonebow]

You already have the main ingredient for living happily as a bi man...a supportive wife. In fact I'd say she is more than supportive as it was she who aroused this bi curiosity of yours. Since she seems to be the driving force in this, why not leave her in the driver's seat?

After all, you trust that she's a good judge of character...with good taste in men...and that not being outed is a priority you share? So why not let her seek out your ideal male playmate? Set out your parameters for an acceptable male partner...your golden "one percenter" and leave the search up to her.

[SEX_DREAMS]

It's called "guilty pleasure" and soon it will be just straight pleasure.I agree with Stonebow you have a supportive wife and that's so important and her talking about sucking cock and MMF encounters should tell you she wants it all for you and some extra for herself so i take it you are ok with that.All you have to do is make the decision and say yes and I assure you she will find a guy and you may have to let her use her judgement in finding a few guys then you agree on one.It's gonna be a huge turn on for her and when women are turned on its always a good thing for you.