Older Guys - What Have Your Experiences With Younger Guys Been Like?

[kenjacks51]

As a mature bi guy, I have often thought that I'd like to find a younger guy to break in and train as a submissive pet for a closed loop, ongoing relationship. So far, I have to say that I have found that many the younger set seem to want an older teacher but there is more often than not, a real lack of courtesy and respect on their part. I placed an ad recently and had several replies that seemed like possibilities. Now I know that "fishing" for a new boy takes patience but either most of these guys can't read or they have comprehension issues. I am talking 19 - 25 year olds here, by the way.

In my ads, I usually ask for a picture which frightens a lot of guys away, I know. But my latest respondent wrote a very interesting letter stating what he wanted and when I told him where I lived, he said that I was too far away.???? Then he insisted that I send him a facial photo despite the fact that he responded to my ad and as such, common sense would seem to dictate that my ad requested a photo from him and he ignores that. So, it's another flop. I also find that when I ask for a face time meeting before we do anything, some get rude and they just want to meet and suck or what ever. I know that we are losing the "personal touch" these days with texting and all, but are all these younger guys that way?

How about the rest of you "older" guys who would enjoy teaching a younger guy? Personally, I think that I am going to stay with age 40 and above.

[fredtyg]

From what you've written about the guy, I'd say welcome to Craigslist! He sounds like any number of guys I've contacted through CL over the years. I don't think it's exclusively a younger guy thing.

One thing about that guy, though; When they ask for something and don't seem to understand what you wrote in your ad, I figure they're probably trying to collect pictures or something. I wouldn't bother with any guy, young or old, that doesn't seem to understand what I wrote. He's either too dumb, or someone trying to get something from you.

[i_shoot_blanks]

I had a few oral encounters with a younger (late 20's) guy a few years ago. To be very honest, was a little disappointed. I figured young guy, very hard cock and enormous quantities of cum. WRONG!! Plus his cum was rather bitter.

[69luvr]

HOT HOT HOT

[onesucker4u]

I have only scored with 1 young guy , and it was my 21 yo girlfriend that lured him in with the promise he could do anything he wanted to her, after I got what I wanted. I wanted to ride his skinny cock, and did, while she sat on his face. I would 'come out' for a totally gay relationship with a 18-24 yo, beautifull boy-man. doesnt look like its gonna happen tho.

[Visexual]

I shy away from youngsters for the same reason I don't go after women. In both cases, there's just too much potential for drama. And, honestly, I'd be thinking that the only reason he was with me was for some sort of financial benefit. I much prefer someone my own age but I certainly do agree that the youngsters are sure nice to look at.

[Realist]

When I was 37, I began a 7 year relationship with an 18 Y.O. boy. He was an old soul in a young body. We had a lot in common, had good communication, and got along well. We only broke up after he got promoted at work and had to transfer.

Between the ages of 44, to 68, I only had mm relationships with other bisexuals. One of them was my longest relationships with a male; it lasted 10 years.

Then, at 68, almost everyone I met was younger! I met and began a relationship with a gay fellow of 38. At first, I thought this one would be my ultimate mm relationship. He was a college language and math professor, interesting conversationalist, magnificent sexually, and nice to look at, too. However, he was extremely jealous and never understood my being bisexual. (Although he did say he was OK with my sexuality) When I met my present GF, in late 2008, he became jealous and demanded that I choose him and leave her. Well, I'm still with her!

At the end of 2008, I met and began a relationship with another gay fellow, who was only 23. Physically, he was exactly the type of male I'd be attracted to. He had no problem with my GF, nor did she have issues with him. Sexually, he was one of the best I've ever been with. But, if we'd been from different worlds, the differences couldn't have been more vast. Communication was as poor as I ever experienced; he was strictly an oral bottom and functioned totally on impulse. It was like he was motivated only by sex, hunger, sleep, video games, and that racket he called music! He would do anything I told him to, but never took the initiative, except for sex. He could easily watch cartoons all day long, have a sex break, get something to eat, then go right back to the TV until he got hungry, horny, or went to sleep!

For me, a relationship is more about common interests; it's the ability to communicate well and sharing a wide variety of things that compatible lovers have. With no other stimulus to keep the relationship interesting, I finally asked him to leave.

At times, I feel I may have shot myself in the foot, though. I only get to see my GF a few times a month, while he would be here all the time. The sex was rewarding, but that was the only glue that held us together. As one only interested in relationships, it was a bust for me. I made the right decision....one thing was not enough to maintain interest!

So, I'd say my experiences with younger guys has only been 33 1/3% successful! A lover, or friends with benefits, who was within 10, even 15 years of my age, would probably be best for me.

[scapegoat1987]

I was just discussing this very topic with a gay male friend of mine the other day. We are both in our mid 40s and have had the same experience of only older guys being interested in us when we were younger and now having only younger (20-25) men hit on us. We jokingly refer to this phenomena as "The Daddy Syndrome." My ideal sexual partner would be my own age, but all of these young guys keep wanting to have sex with me. I've been messing with one for three years now, and now there's a new one (20 years old) who's been showing up every week. And this new guy actually told me that he's exclusively into men the same age or older than his father, and he insist on calling me "Daddy" while we're having sex. Nothing like a Daddy comparison to make you feel sexy. Ugh! Both guys are excellent lovers and very passionate, but I know that the arrangement is just casual sex with both. Besides, so many of the young bi guys I mess with are with a female and only on the down low with other guys. Don't get me wrong. Young guys are hot, and who doesn't like the attention of a hot guy? But I'd ultimately like to find someone my age, since we might actually have things in common. I love the fact that so many of the young guys I mess with are actually bi as opposed to gay. Nothing whatsoever against gay men, because I used to identify as gay as well. However, these days I have more in common sexually with bi men, and I actually enjoy knowing that the men I sleep with are also into women. But for now this Daddy thing seems to be working for me, so I'm not going to look a gift horse in the mouth, right?

[kenjacks51]

scapegoat - You are fortunate! I'm bi with strong gay leanings and I;d love to have a 20 yearold to teach and bring into the fold!!I have two steady guys who I see and both are younger than I am but not that much. Having spoken that I;d like a 20 year old to play with, I honestly find that older guys are more aware of what they really want and know where they are at in life in most respects including sexually. I suspect that a younger guy would be easier to turn and mold into what you want him to be but an older guy who lets himself just enjoy things can also be open to new things and ideas. The two guys I see were both virgins when we had our first scenes and have progressed well fromstraight to strongly bisexual with the newer guy being more open minded than the first. The first guy comes around every six to eight weeks to play and the second guy is calling and dropping around - even if just to visit - every couple of weeks now which is up from his original every six weeks or so.

I find that youngguys for themost part are pretty wrapped up in themselves and fantasy being what it is, I think that there are too many differences to ever get into anything too deep and personal. I like the way that things are and though I'd ideally like a guy several times a week, I'll just settle for what I have - for now at least.

[scapegoat1987]

The sex is good but often one sided, and I don't see me molding any of these young guys. Most of them are into guys, but aren't comfortable enough with that aspect of themselves to ever just let go and evolve. Sex with men will always be something they do on the side. They would never be comfortable being in a relationship with a man or being out of the closet. Not that there aren't young guys out there that are comfortable with that, but they ain't fucking with me. :) At least not yet. Plus, I have to say that my last long term relationship with a guy was with someone 15 years my junior, and I don't care to go through that again. I already dealt with my crap and went through the coming out process decades ago. I really don't need the extra drama of going through that again. And I might add that we never end up being the same person once we get to the other side of coming out, either. I don't mind being a "Father Figure" or a mentor to a young guy as long as it's casual, but I'll be damned if I break another one in for someone else to end up with. Know what I mean?

[Lover_Not_Fighter]

Hey

Well for me I have not had any luck with younger guys. It always turns out "thanks for the blow but gotta go!!" I'm a slow, gotta explore kinda guy! So my kinda guys have always been someone actually older than me and most have been gay men. Most Bi men aren't into intimacy. I'm sure there are some out there but I have never come across them. So now I tend to go with older the better.

[Randypan]

I love younger guys when the fully engage. But mostly it's just a quick, bad fuck then they are off and running. And bad fuck means to me that he is sloppy, unimaginative, in a hurry and basically has no idea what he is doing. And no, I no longer have the patience to teach.

[DomLkg4maleCkSkr]

I prefer subs over 35. The ones who are younger aren't ready to commit and often don't know how to behave.

Now, the older ones who pledge obedience are terrific. It's just what's worked for me.