Q for b i gu y s re your friendships

[zenn7]

Do you have social/ platonic friends who are also bi. or is this part of your life compartmentalised for largely sex. Do you or would you like to have friends who you feel relate to better because they share this aspect of your manhood? As an example if 3 or 4 guys went on a fishing trip for the long weekend.. would there be a significant difference in how you related to each other...and this isn't about having sex?

[Newly_Bi]

:'( I wish I knew other bi people in my area.

[Long Duck Dong]

I have a lot of platonic and social friends...some close, some loose friends and yeah there are bis amongst them..... but sex between them and me is not really something that interests me at this stage...... there are some that I would consider as partners if I was not in a relationship with DD.... some I would consider as part of a triad with me and DD if it worked out.... but for the majority, we do not share sexual ideals or they are in closed relationships / groups ......

some have been long term friends and we have done a fishing trip, it was more talking than sexual, some of us were there for the fishing and beer, a couple were there for the chance to get sex in secret ( one got nothing but thats cos of the way he treats his partner ) and while there was no set rules about having sex, most of the crowd ( 2 boats ) were not really interested in sex... they wanted time away from the real world

[CurEUs_Male]

Yes, I have friends that are bi, and we are social. One I have known for several years and if it were not for his wife saying she cannot have a non-monogamous marriage, we would likely have a physical relationship too. Another friend, more recent, is an OK guy, but watching his relationship with his wife (soon to be ex) I cannot see myself as more than a casual friend. Finally, a 3rd friend is also open with his wife, and she is actually very open with him... that may grow somewhere someday.

A few other men I have met are not out to their wives, which is a show stopper for me (no secrets, no lies, no cheating) for anything physical to happen. I still consider these men to be friends. Mostly we need an outlet to share our experiences with, and that is not always sexual - chatting about everything in our lives while out at a pub is a typical chance to bond with other guys. Maybe some of the talk is about sex and relationships. That may be with our committed spouses, or a FWB... what ever we have and need to talk about.

I like the idea of a boating/camping trip (when it warms up in the spring - too dang cold right now!) It would be nice to share a weekend away from the regular grind, and be able to chat openly (more so than when sitting in a bar) and being able to just hang out with the *bi* guys.

Bear in mind, I would openly invite any of the local area guys that want to enjoy a friendship among bi's to reach out and do it. Either with me and my friends that try to get out every month or so... or ask the locals in your area, start with the list right here! Look at the local groups on this site. There are other guys willing (wanting) to just be able to talk with others. And this is not just for the guys... if there are gals out here looking to be able to talk openly about bisexual issues, concepts, stresses, successes, and everything else, bi all means reach out as well - we all like both sexes, so it shouldn't just be guys having social outlets.

Al

[ErosUrge]

Oddly, I don't have any bi friends that I am close to. There is one in particular that I am sexual with and we're friendly; but not close. I would like to have a friendship with a bi guy that I could be close to and sexual with also...but it's never happened. It's not anything I really worry about just the same. I'm thinking that whoever I would know that was bi, we'd probably be sexual also as the current bi friend that I am sexual with....my platonic friends are mostly straight, some gay, and they know I'm bi.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

lol Most of the people in my Lifestyle are Bi, and yes, we all interact. We go to social events, lifestyle parties bit Swinging and BDSM related (I'm not so much into the BDSM aspect as I am into the Swinging) and we have a great time. Its not all about being between the sheets. What a boring world that would be..:}
Cat

[void()]

Do you have social/ platonic friends who are also bi. or is this part of your life compartmentalised for largely sex. Do you or would you like to have friends who you feel relate to better because they share this aspect of your manhood? As an example if 3 or 4 guys went on a fishing trip for the long weekend.. would there be a significant difference in how you related to each other...and this isn't about having sex?

I would like to have good buddies like that, and just that, buds. Guys
to "knock around" with whom knew I'm bi, but didn't care. Unfortunately,
I am a bit introverted on top of being a homebody. I really don't go
out of my way to make such friends, it seems. My wife's father knows I'm
bi. I have joked around about it a little with him. He respects that I
am me, he is himself. So, we have no trouble over this. He is a good
friend despite being an in-law.

[Realist]

My longest sexual relationship was with a guy who was a friend. Even though I'm more prone to intimacies and romantic relationships, about half of my male lovers, and some female lovers, were similar.....I guess they'd be best identified as FWBs.

I never understood the concept of, "I can't be sexual with so-and-so, because it would ruin our relationship."

I found it very comfortable and rewarding to carry it to a sexual level.

[fredtyg]

I never understood the concept of, "I can't be sexual with so-and-so, because it would ruin our relationship."
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I can. I had a best friend of a few years ago that since moved out of state. He was quite the homo basher most the time, until one day he gave a hint he might not be as homophobic as he made himself out to be. Maybe even one himself? Nope, sorry, and I'm glad he never suggested we do anything sexual.

First of all, I didn't find him sexually appealing at all. Not my idea of the kind of guy I wanted to get naked with. Second, I did NOT want the relationship to go that way. I was happy with things as they were and didn't want it complicated by him suggesting we fool around. Luckily, he never went there. I don't know what I would have done had he suggested m2m.

I should clarify that I don't have a problem with sex between friends. I did fool around with another guy that was a mutual friend, but I found the other guy sexually attractive- both physically and emotionally. I didn't see my "best" friend that way.

[CFL1970]

It would be great if one of my friends was openly bi, but so far no luck with that. To be honest though, I'm not really sexually interested in any of my friends, but I would appreciate the ability to have more open conversations.

[fredtyg]

It would be great if one of my friends was openly bi, but so far no luck with that. To be honest though, I'm not really sexually interested in any of my friends, but I would appreciate the ability to have more open conversations.

Thing is, they could well be bi, but they're afraid to say so.

[Realist]

Oh, naturally there's have to be some attraction there, Fred.........but everything we needed was there for us both to have a good, satisfying, relationship. Something had to be right for us to last a little over 10 years!