Curious or bisexual?

[victorcurious123]

Hi all

This is my first post so please be gentle. I am 35 and married. Few months ago I visited a Doctor(60+) who did my first full body checkup on me. He asked me remove my clothes and wear a paper apron and asked me lay down in examination room. I was wearing paper apron and my underwear. He started examining me from toe and head. Towards end he asked me to slide my underwear and checked my anus by inserting his finger. At that point I was laying almost naked. I don't know why but I was getting turned on and I hardly controlled getting a hardon. Please note that the Doctor was completely professional and it seemed like business as usual for him.

Ever since then I have fantasized touching and sucking Doctor's and other guy's cock. Now I get turned on by watching MMF porn which I never even considered watching earlier. Everyday my desire to feel a cock is increasing.

Am I just curious or bisexual? Should I explore this side of my sexuality? Please suggest.

[EmailOnly]

Hi all

This is my first post so please be gentle. I am 35 and married. Few months ago I visited a Doctor(60+) who did my first full body checkup on me. He asked me remove my clothes and wear a paper apron and asked me lay down in examination room. I was wearing paper apron and my underwear. He started examining me from toe and head. Towards end he asked me to slide my underwear and checked my anus by inserting his finger. At that point I was laying almost naked. I don't know why but I was getting turned on and I hardly controlled getting a hardon. Please note that the Doctor was completely professional and it seemed like business as usual for him.

Ever since then I have fantasized touching and sucking Doctor's and other guy's cock. Now I get turned on by watching MMF porn which I never even considered watching earlier. Everyday my desire to feel a cock is increasing.

Am I just curious or bisexual? Should I explore this side of my sexuality? Please suggest.


If his finger up your ass made your cock hard... that just means you like ass-play.. If the doctor had a tent in his trousers and you got a hard on , then I think you are more than just curious and must explore these feelings a bit further.. Like in the men's shower.. or sauna.

[Gearbox]

Even heterosexual men can LOVE having their prostrate massaged. It's not a gay sex organ.:)

But if you feel you want to explore men or just their cocks, you go ahead and do just that. Forget about labels and be thankful that you've found an extra source of sexual thrills to explore.
Can't have too many of those IMO.:tongue:

[tenni]

Welcome to the site Victor.

As Gear states massaging a prostrate or touching it causes a sensation in the body. You can even ejaculate with such an examination or leak a bit. You have reached an age where the prostate is examined during checkups. Enlarged prostates do not usually happen for a few decades but it is a health check and a good base line for your doctor. Prostate cancer which is a preventable killer in men is also important to pay attention to early signs and awareness. (i.e. Movember moustaches are fund raisers for prostrate cancer)

You have listed yourself as a M/M couple? Somehow, I think that is a mistake if you are just wondering about your attraction to men? Many men who have never thought about same sex report that an curiosity began around 40. You may be just a bit early bloomer..:)

If you are single, you should definitely explore as you have started. There should be no need to feel shame and guilt but many men do initially. Porn is a good start and you seem well on your way to developing some same sex fantasies. Fantasy does not always live up to real life experience but it often can.

Don't worry about which label to attach to yourself. You know that you are not 100% hetero and many guys have fantasies that they do not share with their buds.

If you have a female partner, you may get screamed at by the morality police here if you don't talk to her about this. It is best to share your fantasy with a female partner to let her know. However, this is a self exploration at the moment and you may want to explore it a bit on your own. You decide what you do with your own body. Go for it and don't let morality police condemn you. Don't let the still existing same sex play taboo override your curiosity.

Labels do not matter. It is the joy of living and pleasing one's own body that does. Have fun!

[victorcurious123]

Thanks Tenny, Gear and Emailonly for replies.

I have updated my profile to reflect correct gender. I am married BTW. I think I will explore bit more before discussing with my partner. Not sure where this is leading to.

[Visexual]

You know, there’s way too much emphasis on gender or gender preferences. I, honestly, feel that there are a few folks who are totally heterosexual or totally homosexual and then there are the rest of us!

I, personally, would hate to be one of the first two.

[NjbiGuy01]

Can we all just realize it's "PROSTATE" not "PROSTRATE" :bigrin:.

FWIW: Anal stimulation is not "gay" nor "straight" nor "bi"...the anus contains thousands of sensory receptors and is very sensitive to touch and stimulation by a man or woman. I happen to be bi and enjoy a cock or a strap-on with a woman, but the fact the doctor's touch there got you excited doesn't make you gay.... carry on..

[julyguybill]

years ago I was totally straight due to lack of intimacy at home I began looking for other things I met a guy I liked a lot he was bi gave me a blow job it was great. after than I went to a park I had heard about received oral from guys for about a year. one day met a guy I returned the oral sex realized I really liked it that was my start with guys I now hook up a couple of times a month I just love meeting a nice guy and giving oral sex I think you should try it

[cuttin2dachase]

Your post would indicate that you are very bi-curious. You said your desire to suck a cock increases every day, so your curiosity and fantasies are probably not going to go away anytime soon. Regardless of how or why you came to be curious, just accept those facts and enjoy the desires you feel and the fantasies you are having. I was lucky to have had an adventurous, swinging hotwife who encouraged me to try oral sex with men in our 4somes and 3somes. The more she brought up her hot fantasy of us both sucking a male partner (as well as of her and him sucking me), the more I wanted to try it and fulfill her fantasy. I went from zero curiosity to being super-curious and excited at the idea of sucking a man and being sucked by a man. My first experience was very exciting and liberating. It spawned many mm fantasies. I knew immediately that I was bi and definitely wanted to further explore mm sex. I will not encourage or discourage you, but it's my opinion that you can't ever know for certain if you are truly bi unless/until you try it. As a married man, it is your personal moral decision whether or not to act on your mm desires and fantasies.

[pole_smoker]

You're bisexual. If you were heterosexual you would not be fantasizing about having sex with men, jerking off to gay porn, etc.

That depends. Are you married? If you are talk to your wife or husband about it. You do not have to have had sex with the same or even opposite gender in order to be bisexual. People can be complete virgins to both genders and yet they're still bisexual.

[jackbirdjay]

Everyone has to put a label on sex. If u want to have oral sex with a guy just do it and stop worring about labels. Who cares what people think just enjoy

[Olivia920601]

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[Neonaught]

I think people put too much emphasis on self-labeling. Labels are for soup cans! If you think something appeals to you then try it. It either will be enjoyed or not and then one can move on. Life is short. Take big bites!