never say goodbye....

[Long Duck Dong]

as a few people in here are now aware... last night my sister skye, made a decision with her battle against depression, alcoholism and aids, and with grace and a peaceful mind.. she slipped away quietly by her own hand

I am struggling a bit.... not cos I have lost somebody I admire, love and share a deep, strong bond with.....but cos so many never truely knew my sister and so, this is my tribute to her....

skye was in her mid 20's when she discovered she had aids... and almost overnight... she learned about the true nature of her friends and work mates and our family.....and how fast doors can shut....

underneath the bright smile and sparkling eyes, lay a warm heart...and she was so quick to give a hug to a needy friend and a listening ear to any person...nobody was too small. too old... the wrong shape, size or race, to hug

she was sexually quiet and so it came as a shock that she became hiv positive..the gentleman later took his own life once he learnt that he was infected and had infected others....and she was one of the first to forgive him and hug him... he wasn't nasty or cruel..... it was something that happened by accident....and changed many lives

not long after that, a lady entered our lives by the name of kris.... and skye and kris found a bond of love, acceptance and caring....kris had aids... but more than that, she was skyes soulmate

barely a year later, kris died in skyes arms... and now a year later on.... skye died alone

They will become statistics on a piece of paper and lose the uniqueness they had, as people...as different groups assign them a number on a report and file them away on a shelf to collect dust

and we will read all the reports on the sites and in the newspaper and on the news.....and never see what made them so special.... until its one of us that fall and then it hits home..... aids is not the killer.... its peoples attitudes that destroy lives, as we watch those around us, fall and there is nobody to reach out a helping hand

that is what I watched, happen to skye and kris....10,000 friends become 10...and that is why I hurt so much..... where are all the friends ???... the people that will carry on as we all have to, but taking the memory of two special people and making sure that they live on and that the lessons of love forgiveness and understanding is not forgotten....but multipled and shared with 100,000 people

I will do that..... I will walk tall and share the love, understanding and forgiveness that skye and kris shared with me..... and I will continue to hug people and listen to people and smile and laugh and joke....
and I will hope, that when I fall..... that I have touched 100,000 people and of that 100,000, that 10 will carry on as we all do..... but sharing the love, forgiveness and understanding with another 100,000 people

there is a saying that I love, and that is...

A person is only truely dead, when the last memory of them is finally forgotten and lost forever

kris, skye and I, once sat on a beach, watching the sunset, and shared a special gift that day.... they gave the sunset to me as a present...
it is a unique gift, it costs no money, it is mine for life, no person can take it from me... and every day I look at the sunset, I will remember them both..... and on behalf of kris and skye.... ...I ask that you share the sunset with the ones you love, and that way, if anything happens, every time you see the sunset, you will be reminded of that person and their memory will never fade

[Qetesh]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. She sounds like a truly wonderful person, as you've said she will live on in your heart and I'm sure many other people who knew her.

[Mrs.F]

How Beautiful! I am so sorry for your loss. Your sister sounds like she was a beautiful person inside and out and she will be missed greatly. She and her friend will live on in your heart and the hearts of many friends.

*HUGS* :angel:

[jasforjas]

perhaps in the end love is what we do, what we give to others

that some very wonderful subjects of our loving is gone is horrid

but we still can give love -- dont stop loving

[csrakate]

LDD
I do so feel your pain and your loss....my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours at this difficult time.....

Hugs,
Kate

[Confused4life]

LDD,

I am so sorry for your loss. What a special tribute you have created. Your sister and her friend will forever be with me now. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love
C4L

[Gleekybaby]

Dear friend!

i read this with many many tears! it breaks my heart that she has gone, she she is at peace!

i remember u and i having talks about ur sister Skye, and when we did i knew and will always remember her as a special woman!

all my love and support and hugs go out to you babe!
i know u and ur sis will always be close! that is something never to forget!

i love you my friend!
and i share that love to kris and skye!

Rest in love and peace darlings kris and skye

[allbimyself]

LDD,

Thank you for sharing this with us. I too have lost a sister far too young and while the circumstances were different, I understand your loss.

I wish I could have known your sister, she sounds like a truly beautiful person.

Allbi

[willbeyours2]

Although I have never met you I want you to know that I am sorry to hear of your loss. Your sister sounded like a lovely person inside and out. The tribute to her that you have posted is simply beautiful. She is today and always be looking down from above with a smile and a hug for you and all that passed thru her life.


Bill

[anne27]

I am not articulate enough to express the words of comfort that my heart wishes it could say.

You and your family are in my thoughts. May peace be with you.

*HUGS from a stranger*

[littlerayofsunshine]

Oh Hunny *Hugs*. I am so sorry for your loss. You have made a wonderful tribute and it made me cry. I can really feel the deep love and connection that you have for the both of them. I wish I could have known them. They are beautiful souls.

[arana]

LDD, what a truly moving tribute you have created for your lovely sister. I read this with tears in my eyes. Skye sounds like an amazing woman and she must have been very proud to have a brother like you. Their spirits will live on in your heart and those that were blessed enough to be in their presence.

It is heartbreaking when people can abandon those they call “friends” so easily once they find out they have aids. It’s bad enough to do this because of sexuality; it’s appalling when it’s because of a disease. I'm sorry so many have to endure this type of heartache at a time they need their friends and family the most.

People tend to be in too much of a hurry these days to enjoy the simpler things in life. Thank you for reminding us to stop and share them with loved ones before it’s too late.

[deletetacount123]

LDD, Im sorry about your loss :-( Skye and Kris are happy now up there :-) But she'll always be around you in spirit.

I think things like this makes you realize who your real friends are.... friends DO NOT abandon friends just cause they get aids or even cancer.

I don't think Skye died alone LDD.... I think Kris was waiting for her to join her so they could be together as they were soulmates.

And I agree, its never goodbye when someone dies, you'll see them again someday.

Tasha

[pmg_ams01]

LDD,

You write so movingly - we share with you in your loss. From all around the world, our love and our thoughts are with you now.

PMG.

[KatieBi]

LDD,

Please accept my sincere condolences ... I did not know your sister, but I can sorrowfully imagine what it might feel to learn I had lost one of mine (who share many of her wonderfully described qualities).

I'd give you a hug as a tribute to her memory if I had the chance tonight. Instead, I'll enjoy tomorrow's sunset just a bit more.

KatieBi

[SweetBlackAngel]

What a beautiful tribute. I'm sorry to hear of this terrible loss. :( Peaceful vibes to you.

[Azrael]

My humble condolences for your loss, LDD.

[Herbwoman39]

Oh hon...(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) If there is ANYTHING I can do, just ask.
Your tribute was so beutifully moving it brought tears to my eyes.

When I could speak again, I read it to my husband and we wept together for your loss. Skye can rest now. She's with the one she loves. It just breaks my heart that her "friends" abandoned her when she needed them most.

You'll always have the sunset.

[tink1978]

LDD, I am so sorry to hear about your sister. It is never easy to lose a loved one but it is even harder when they are so young. Always remember you will see her again one day soon.

Tink :)

[NWMtnHawk]

I think . . . that this evening, . . . around dusk, . . . I'll take a private, silent moment, and look to the west.

[onewhocares]

Just as I was writting you about migraines, Bill told me of your loss. I went right to your thread and read. And then....I cried. I cried tears of loss, and then tears of JOY. Loss for the sister with whom you had a wonderful relationship. You both learned from each other, grew with each other and shared many wonderful and special moments...just you two. I cried tears of JOY for what a beautiful life your sister had and what wonderful memories all who knew her, I mean really took the time to know her, shared with her.

The people for who I feel the most sorry for are those, who for whatever ignorant thoughts, forgot about the wonderful woman she was to all. Those who perhaps know no better than to judge those by a title, are the ones who are the ones who loose. How lucky YOU are, for you have had the privledge to have been a monumental part of this special womans life. You are blessed and all of us share in your sisters spirt through YOU. She will live on through you and all your words and deeds.

All my hearfelt thoughts are with you...


Belle

[FLapple]

my heart is with you... K

[Michael623]

Thank you LDD.

[Long Duck Dong]

hugs ya all, and thank you so much for the kind words

I have been busy packing up skyes things, and crying my eyes out... there is so many lil things that she held on to... and with each one, comes memories that got bogged down under the stress of every day life

things like the care bear * proud heart * it was something that I won at a fairground... and it was like a mascot for us both, and it sat in a place of honour on her bed....a dried and faded red rose that i gave her outta the garden the day she heard she got her first modelling job.....a broken board... it was the same board i broken in order to gain my first black belt in martial arts
so many things that we shared over the years.....and I am happy to know that I was able to be the big brother to her, as she was the * lil sis * to me

her funeral is on friday... and as we agreed, she will be cremated and her ashes mixed with kris's and scattered over the fields where they used to ride the horses and laugh at me as I tried in vain to ride again.... and we are gonna play a special song... * born free *... cos my sister was born to be free and now she is...

we had a bet once..... i can't remember exactly what it was over... but i lost... and she made me swear that one day I would wear fishnet stockings under my scottish kilt ( i am from the clan anderson of the clan andrews ) and wear makeup.. and come friday... I will honour that vow

again, thank you all so much for your hugs and words.. and I do apologize that it will be a few days before i get active in the site again.... but ... i am taking the time out, to adjust to a new life and try and focus on a new future... and sadly... in the same way they cut skye out of their lives a few years ago....my family may well be cut out of mine....by their own hand....

[Herbwoman39]

You take all the time you need sweetie and know that we're all with you in spirit and we'll be here waiting when you're ready to come back.

[12voltman59]

I add my condolences to this growing list--even though I do not know you nor your late sis---my heart goes out to you in this situation---

It does sound that even though your sis was facing her imminent end--she did so with strength and it was good that she met her true love before she departed this mortal coil...

As humans---we may have a concept of something else beyond this mortal life--I do believe there is something more than "life" in this physical realm--my belief comes not from what we are told by structured religions---I think it is something we are born knowing----

I trust your sister is in some other place...a good place...she is with Kris and all of her loved ones who have passed....

From the lines of a song by singer/songwriter Lyle Lovett..."she has joined the family reserve..."

[Gemini25]

Sorry to hear about your sister. People like her are a rare find in this world, which makes them even more special to have in our lives. I wish you the best, and send a BIG Hug to you.

Michael

[onewhocares]

With each and every comment you make my heart grows fonder and so fullof joy for your Skye who had such a wonderful brother. I am really a most fortunate woman as I have three brothers who mean the world to me. The memories that you share with us, and you share within your soul are the testament to the relationship you two share. I can offer you these big ole arms which can envelope you with love, comfort and support from all on this site.

Belle

[Nara_lovely]

Oh wow...skye took on so much, still with the capacity to reach out and love, then finally to be able to move on with the courage and decisions in her timing!
...LDD...my emotions welled up, she is an amazing lady, someone I know you are so proud of. Miss her, remember her, speak to her, celebrate with her.

*HUGS*