Wonder where they are and how they're doing?

[Realist]

I've often wondered what happened to some of the great lady members of the past?

Some who come to mind: Rissa, Rock Gardner, Bishy, Littleray, Mama Cat, Stillshy, Emunahd, Vittoria, Taylor-made, Peg, Duckie's Darling.......there's more, but can't recall their handles, right now.

Most of them had a more polite and less aggressive form of writing, that I appreciated.

[CurEUs_Male]

I would guess, Realist, that they have been chased away from some of the more aggressive, sexual content and lack of open social interactions that would have built a stronger general community over a hookup site.

Of course, I could be wrong, you would have to check with them.

[tenni]

Hi Realist
Sadly, remember that Peg died. Some that you mention have not posted for many years.

[pole_smoker]

They left the site.

[Realist]

NO! I didn't know Peg died!!

I thought she recently got married and just signed off to pursue other endeavors!

Aw, she was so nice to me!

[Annika L]

I've often wondered what happened to some of the great lady members of the past?

Some who come to mind: Rissa, Rock Gardner, Bishy, Littleray, Mama Cat, Stillshy, Emunahd, Vittoria, Taylor-made, Peg, Duckie's Darling.......there's more, but can't recall their handles, right now.

Most of them had a more polite and less aggressive form of writing, that I appreciated.

Yes, Peg passed away a year or two ago. Rocky is still around and made appearances in Chat until it died. Kit-Kat posted not too long ago to voice her continued disappointment in the sex-only orientation of the forums in the past couple years. Rissa left years ago, citing that she felt hounded/persecuted (I no longer recall by whom on what issue...but I seem to remember thinking it wasn't entirely unfounded). DD still seems to be around...just less vocal than she once was. StillShy made a brief reappearance a year or two ago...but alas has not stayed. Vitt occasionally throws us a shrubbery! post. But yeah, many who just left.

My own presence here has fallen off, 'cause there just isn't much here for me any more. It's the Realists and the tennis (despite our occasional differences) and the GearBoxes among the men who keep me watching the forums and posting occasionally.

I'll say that when KitKat posted about not liking the content of the forums, I nearly posted a flurry of threads just to counteract all the crap. But life got in the way. I mean really...we all have the ability to make the site what we want it to be. But if there's not a critical mass of us who feel similarly, then it's hard to see it as important enough to do. I think some things Drew has done and said have helped to make the site what it is now (and of course the demise of chat has driven off many, many).

[12voltyV2.0]

RockGardner was on here pretty regularly as well until chat went under. Vittoria had made some appearances late last year and earlier this year, but she too bailed out as well. Sure is a bummer at how many people who were once regulars on here are now gone.

[Realist]

Volty, do you remember æonpax (http://www.bisexual.com/forum/member.php?134479-%C3%A6onpax) ?

I know she was banned, but I don't think I ever knew why. Do you know?

I thought she was brilliant, a little obtrusive and arrogant, but she was bright and interesting. She was a "looker" too!

[onewhocares]

Realist,
I am sorry that you did not know that dear Peg passed away. I know Marie Delta is doing well. Bree is still trying to transition, but has had setbacks. Thonguy from RI says hello to me every once in a while. I hope to have lunch with Hillwalker this weekend before my upcoming knee replacement surgery. Cadence is still making wonderful music.

Belle in Boston

[12voltyV2.0]

Volty, do you remember æonpax (http://www.bisexual.com/forum/member.php?134479-%C3%A6onpax) ?

I know she was banned, but I don't think I ever knew why. Do you know?

I thought she was brilliant, a little obtrusive and arrogant, but she was bright and interesting. She was a "looker" too!

I do remember her. It was kind of bummer that she got banned, but if Drew did that---I am sure she did something to deserve it. There are so many people who once came here, but no longer do, for whatever reason, that I miss.

This site is surely not at all like it once was. Another person who was cool who is long gone was Raystruenos. He seemed like a cool guy and man---he sure did have some of the sexiest photos that he liked to share.

[Long Duck Dong]

rissababynta left the site after she posted about being hounded by tenni constantly
littlerayofsunshine disappeared suddenly and contact between her and DD was lost at the same time
cherokee mountaincat posted something about spending her time at fetlife.com in between her health issues

Duckies Darling really has no interest in the site because of the same issues that rissa had to deal with, she does sneak in at times to read threads and does talk about people that she loved to talk with like realist and citystyleguy ( hes disappeared ) coyotedude ( hes quiet now ) void, mama cat, darkeyes and many others.....and specially those 12 volt pics that we both absolutely love ....

most of the people I used to talk with, have moved on from the site because they could not talk about their lives, experiences or opinions about their own sexuality and who they are in their own minds... the whole * no blurred lines with sexuality, only acceptable label is bisexual, not biflexable, heteroflexible etc, monogamy is wrong for bisexuals its not something that a bisexual can choose to be or be happy with... etc etc * "rules " that are pushed down peoples throats and meant that they could not relax in the site......

Drew has gone walkabout, taking some drew time so send him some mental hugs

[Realist]

Thanks for your responses, everybody. I can understand why some left, while others left with no adieus. Peg's the 2nd one to die, since I joined...she was a sweety.

I should have mentioned the males, who I've felt rapport for, too....I was in a female mode, feeling nostalgic for them when I began this thread. I'm glad to see some of guys are still here. Many of the interesting men have left, too, though.

I've stayed on through thick and thin because I live in an area where there is almost no bisexual folks around..........or maybe they're just staying hidden for self preservation. This has been my only outside contact with those who have similar interests, since I moved back home to Florida, in 2008.

I prefer the more polite and less aggressive members, who write well and are not overly confrontational. I'll share my interests, and enjoy reading about others, but am not interested in forcing my own ideals upon anyone else.

We each have our own set of rules, interests and limits. Like everywhere else, those who have common grounds gravitate toward each other, then little groups collect, according to their particular focus. That's how it should be.

Anyway, I'm thankful for this site and the friends I've found here, too.

[Annika L]

Drew has gone walkabout, taking some drew time so send him some mental hugs

Hey LDD...do you mean you've actually been in touch with Drew, and he's told you this? Or simply that you've observed this to be the case?

Hope all is well with you! It's been ltns.

[Long Duck Dong]

have a alternative way of contacting drew outside of the site, thats when we learned that drew has gone walkabout

yeah things are good with me.....working for a online browser game company with DD, managing and running online browser games... and loving the chance to be creative with ideas, working with the admin team and meeting people from around the world, and having to solve issues for players with barely any information from them......

kinda enjoying not being involved with LGBT groups and communities as much.... there are fantastic people in the communities and groups but there is the same type of thinking of some, which is, its never their fault for anything and its always the games responsibility to make sure that the player is getting everything they want, when they want, how they want but the player changing their style of game play, updating their software to run our games etc ? nope why should they have to change anything......lol
and my fav ? the right of the player to abuse people shall not be infringed upon but the right to be protected from abuse by people shall be paramount... the idea that it goes both ways is something that some players just do not get lol

[Country Guy]

It's good to hear that he has gone walkabout and it's not some of the bad things that people had imagined.

[darkeyes]

Not sure ne1 really imagined ne thing... a few thoughts and possibilities wer proposed but time Drew wos absent and things drifted ther wos concern that's for sure... more for the loss of the site than the possibility than ther being ne concern for the guy himself wich is wy I raised the spectre of summat worse mayb being up...... selfish and thoughtless .commers.. naughty.....but all I can say 2 u Droosy Woosy... glad ur ok and u can go walkies all ya like and wer ya like for as long as ya like but just check in a lickle more frequently that the site is running as it shud.. or have sum1 do it forya... think the number of weeks chat wos down wos too long.. it means a lot to some peeps...it being down even 2 non chatters wos a sign (rightly or wrongy) that .com wos gonna go belly up...

Vigilance, Droosy Woosy.. vigilance.. a bit more please!!!!

[jem_is_bi]

It would be nice to have them back. But, I can understand why now would not be a good time for a return and would likely affirm there reason for leaving. Our spammer poster, needs to have a time out to mellow out.

[12voltyV2.0]

Well-I hope that whatever issues that Drew is dealing with--he is able to find some constructive and positive ways to resolve them--I know that the last two years or so for me have been a bit rough---along with my dad dying---I had a whole other group of people--mostly in my parents circle of friends and generation who died as well but were friends of mine as well----like this one lady that was the mother of a friend from high school who I have known for nearly 40 years and she was like a second mom---along with others of that sort---it was just totally rocking to have so many people pass in such a short time----thank goodness that has seemed to pass--it was like with each passing day--I got a new email or phone call that someone special to me had died.

That does make one feel one's mortality for sure-and along with that--I had friends and such who had kids die for one reason or another--from car crashes to some illnesses. One had a son get killed in Afghanistan and that sucked. To have those great kids and others go--it sure was tough. I do think I have been to enough "memorial services" in the past two or so years now--that I don't need or want to go to any more of them!!

It seems to me that for a number I know----the last few years have been some tough mental, emotional and financial times---so I can feel for Drew if he is going through such times himself----

Guess I should not have been so negative about the chat being down----it just seemed like one more thing in a generally "downer" time of late it seems and I guess I am a bit cranky and emotionally spent.

Overall--for myself--I am in a much better state of mind of late and am "getting things" back on track----surely am emerging from the deeper, darker stages of dealing with grief and loss.

I hope it is true the old saying---"what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger." This is something we all go through---I sure got a concentrated dose of it though.

My best to Drew and that he finds some peace, containment and resolution of whatever his "issues" are that he felt a need to take a few steps back and "go walkabout."

[tenni]

hmm I drove Rissa away? (according to himself here).
As I recall Aeonpax had very firm unorthodox opinions. It became clearer as time went by that she was biphobic towards bisexual men in particular. She made many "I'm better than you bisexual men comments. She bluntly stated that she would never have a relationship with a bisexual man as I recall. She was banned probably for her slurring the rules. Many saw her as very intelligent and she was imo but rather flawed socially.

Many of the names mentioned were not big posters in the forum and it seems that is where some people got to know each other bonding in some manner?

People come and go from such a site as this. It does something for them and then it no longer works for them. Some forum posters come with wise words. Some forum posters come here with psychological issues and they use this site as a crutch to survive or avoid their personal issues. Some horde the forum threads and dominate them just like some others are or have. Some treat the site as if it is their own personal domain. Some form cliques and appear closed to new comers in the newcomer's mind (even if they claim that they are not a clique).

Bottom line is that people read and post here as long as it keeps their interest and benefits them. When it doesn't, they leave. That's life...ever changing. If you did not make alternate means of communicating with a person who was on this site, it is only the pleasant memory that makes us look back and wonder about X. It was not the real person but their image like all social media not really part of our own world but our fictional world on the net.

[pole_smoker]

hmm I drove Rissa away? (according to himself here).

People come and go from such a site as this. It does something for them and then it no longer works for them. Some posters come with wise words. Some posters come her with psychological issues and they use this site as a crutch. Rissa had huge problems and it was clear that this site was one of her crutches. She hordes the threads and dominated them just like some others are and have done. It was her and a few other personal territory is how they presented themselves with all kinds of unrelated nonsense topics that were non sexual and certainly not directly connected to bisexuality.
Who is or was Rissa?