The want

[mandick8in]

To start with, I am married but bi and my wife does not know. At the age of 15 I stayed all night with a friend. We made a bed in the floor of his basement because we were watching TV. He went to the bathroom and when he came back he pushed his briefs down and showed me his hard dick. He ask if I would play with it and I did then he ask if I would suck it and I did. We traded blow jobs most of the night. I loved having his hard dick in my mouth sucking it. After that night I knew I would want more, but I have only sucked one other guy since that time and now I am 55. I do like the feel of a guys hard dick and love playing with it and stroking him and watching him cum. I have friend from way back, like when I was 8-9 years old that I have started playing with. He is gay, lately I have wanted to suck his cock so bad but he will not were a condom and I will not suck is cock bare. Have an idea how or what I should do, I would love to find a guy I could b friends with an trust that he and I are the only one that we play with so I can start sucking a cock again

[whistle1]

I would tell the guy the only way you will suck him is if he wears a condom. If he still refuses, then I'm sure there are other guys out there who would be willing to wear a condom while being sucked.

[cuttin2dachase]

I have only ever met 1 guy who wanted me to wear a condom before he went down on me. He provided me a very thin non-latex condom and even slipped it on me himself. Although the sensation was not as sharp as with a bare cock, I came just as hard as I ever came without a condom. He especially liked it when I sucked my own cum out of the condom before I went down on him.

[stonebow]

I have only ever met 1 guy who wanted me to wear a condom before he went down on me. He provided me a very thin non-latex condom and even slipped it on me himself. Although the sensation was not as sharp as with a bare cock, I came just as hard as I ever came without a condom. He especially liked it when I sucked my own cum out of the condom before I went down on him.

And did you insist HE wear a condom or did you suck him bare? Personally I find sucking a rubber covered cock to be like showering in a raincoat.

[cuttin2dachase]

@stonebow No, I've never sucked a condom-clad cock, but offered to do just that in the near future. As it happens, I recently met a guy online who was honest up front and told me he had non-active herpes. I told him if we met, I'd still suck him if he wore a condom. He still wants to meet to suck me off, but asked if I would jack him off and have him cum on my chest after he sucks me off rather than wearing the condom for a bj. I won't get to enjoy sucking his cock and he won't get to enjoy me doing it, but we'll both still get each other off and to me that's a good compromise. Sucking a cock thru a condom is better than not getting to suck a cock at all. Conversely, getting my cock sucked off through a condom is better than not getting sucked off at all. I've always sucked bare cock, but I no longer take cum in my mouth or swallow. I have my partner pull out and spurt his cum anywhere on my body he chooses. That's how I practice safe mm sex. It's not as safe as sucking a cock thru a condom, but it's a calculated risk I am more than willing to take to make a man cum. I love cum, but not enough to risk getting AIDS or other STDs by ingesting it. I certainly neither expect nor demand my partners to swallow my cum, although most of them do. I've never ever met a guy who didn't respect my wishes to tell me when he was getting close and then pull out at climax before ejaculating.

[JackTexas94]

I bottomed for a friend in high school back in the 70s and he wore no condom at all as the idea never crossed our minds. It is something I am glad I got to experience in my life but no way I would ever do that again.

[jem_is_bi]

And did you insist HE wear a condom or did you suck him bare? Personally I find sucking a rubber covered cock to be like showering in a raincoat. I agree with your opinion of sucking a rubber covered cock. While I do not want to contract any disease, nothing about life is risk free. If you try too hard to eliminate risk from your life, you are likely to accumulate more regrets rather than less.

[trumpet2012]

I understand what your saying about having safe sex and that you'd like just one go to guy, me also, but I've sucked a few guys who were married I felt safer knowing they didn't want to chance taking something home with them. So maybe try craig's list, find yourself a married man and have some fun together, it worked for me

[leredacteur]

Ummmm . . . there seems to be one solution to the rubber-or-not question that nobody's brought up: make sure the guy's been tested and make him show you the test results report. Personally, I'm with Stonebow. If I want something truly safe to suck, I'll buy a latex or vinyl dildo, wash it in hot water with plenty of chlorine bleach or other disinfectant, then rinse it and go down on it while it's still wet. But I don't suck just for the pleasure of having something in my mouth. I don't suck the cock; I suck the person the cock's attached to. And at the end of a long session, I want the reward of a shuddering organ in my mouth and taste of sweet cream.

There's no reason for anyone to avoid being tested for STDs. It's easy, quickly accomplished with a short blood-draw, anonymous if you wish, and either inexpensive or free in most states. Look on the web for links to fully anonymous testing in or near your area. And for roughly $200 you can get a full "panel" of testing for a wide range of sexually-transmissible disease including chlamydia, both oral and gentical forms of herpes, all major variants of hepatitis, gonorrhea and syphilis (it's making a major comeback, you know !).

Spread the joy, not disease ! ! !

[whistle1]

@cuttin2dachase

Your response sounds pragmatic. I'm also encouraged by the fact that you say no guy has ever failed to warn you he was about to cum while you were sucking him. While I don't have any MM experience, I've read stories where other guys were not so fortunate.