Suggestions for "public" private spaces?

[NEBiGuy]

Looking for some ideas that are better, less involved than a hotel, for example, where two guys who can't host at either's own residence, might go after meeting if things seemed to be headed in that direction. Where do others on here go that are public, but allow for complete privacy? Hot tub places? What else? Thanks.

[naztypanty]

In Houston (and other cities in America) there is a place named Midtown Spa. It is a place for men only. You can rent a locker or small room. You are required to take off your street clothes and be dressed only in a towel, or nothing. There is a pool, steam room, weight room, TV room and porn video room. There is a maze of dark little rooms, some with glory holes, prison bars and benches. You can go in with a friend and get a room for private sex or strut around and have sex with anyone willing.

[NEBiGuy]

Hot damn! Works for me!

[NEBiGuy]

Crap... none anywhere near me. Still looking for suggestions then...

[pole_smoker]

Hot tubs, pools, gyms, and spas are public places, and not the type of place to have sex at.

Just go to a hotel or motel.

[Hypersexual11]

Well, I have a conversion van. I meet my suck bud in a large parking lot usually around 10 in the morning. People bustling about. I have full window coverings and we don't move around much in a 69 position. Never been bothered. Not for everyone, but my wife and I like to have a van for overnight fishing trips so it serves a double duty.

[AGuyIKnow]

Well, I have a conversion van. I meet my suck bud in a large parking ...
I've been meeting a guy in his conversion van, every week. He edges me for a half hour then let's me cum and we part. We've been doing this for almost a year now.

It's actually a Park-n-Ride. The sounds of buses, cars and people are just outside. Nobody's ever bothered us. I always park next to him, leaving one car space in between. I figured maybe it was less obvious what we were doing.

One time, in the middle of utopia, I heard a car pull in the between space. It paused there for ten seconds and the pulled out. Fourth time it pulled in, I got worried and focused on the edge of the drapes. It was a young girl, having her driving lesson. LOL The dude sucking me said I came the most that day.

[cuttin2dachase]

For me it's dangerous and increases your chance of getting an STD to cruise public places for men. Bath houses, adult bookstores, public parks and gay bars and random hookups are just not viable for me. In addition to the pervs, weirdos, gaybashers or psychos you might meet, there is also the possibility of police surveillance/raids/drug crackdowns etc. That being said, I would consider going with an established bud or trusted new hookup partner to a clean, reputable bathhouse or a very remote park area. Everywhere you go there are plenty of men ready to play, but there is a shortage of men who can safely and discreetly host. I used to live in a rural area and there were any number of private outdoor places where the chances of being seen/caught was not a big risk. Now I live in a major metro Atlanta suburb and wish there were places I could go to meet a bud or an online prospect for car sex or outdoor sex. Most of my buds and prospects are married and can only play for less than 2 hours, but there are no hotels around here that rent rooms by the hour. It would be cool to have a bi real estate bud who would give out the lockbox combination to get the house keys to vacant homes for sale or rent.

[Hypersexual11]

I understand being paranoid about this stuff. Paranoia helps keep us alive. I was meeting guys for hookups thru the internet for about 15 years. I met around a hundred guys for oral sex. 99% of the time we would start with a beer or a hit or both and chat. No freaks, weirdos, psychos, plenty of pervs of which I am one i guess. Mostly good experiences. Not a single std after all that slutting around. May be luck but I think it's because I don't do anal.

Concerning the police raids, a few months back I read an interview with the owner of one of the local ABSs. He was fully aware of the glory holes and what was going on in the booths. He was asked point blank what would happen in a police raid. It has never happened. It won't happen. This is a private business and what you do in your business is your business. I live in an ultra conservative area so that may be a local law but something less to worry about. There is a gay B&B a half mile from where I live. They advertise "bi-married group" on Friday and Saturday from 11 to 3. No fear of police. Everyone there is there because they want to be. Their ad in craigslist usually is a hardcore pic of a guy coming all over another guy. No secret what is going on there.

There is a lot less hate for sexually liberated people. It's a PC country so most hate is kept to ones self. I also feel most people realize they are pretty fucked up themselves so why judge. Donna Reed is dead.

[andynctx]

I'm fortunate enough to live near a large, publicly accessible lake. I keep a boat at one of the marinas, and use my boat, and various secluded locations on the lake for encounters.

There is something wildly erotic about these encounters - a combination of being outdoors, in a semi-public place, combined with the privacy of the boat, anchored in a cove is an enhancer.

It is also convenient, as there are several lakeside places to pick up a partner arriving by car, then cruise out to one of my favorite coves for a couple of hours, then back to drop off.

While the possibility exists that game warden, sheriff patrol, or other law enforcement might stop by, it is a controlled risk, and the sound of an approaching boat is distinctive. The relatively temperate climate offers pretty much year-round access, and it beats hotels, cruising bath houses, or more public venues.

[NEBiGuy]

Just to clarify for those concerned for my health & safety (which I appreciate, don't get me wrong) - while places like Midtowne sound interesting to visit, what I'm talking about here are places where two guys who have already established each other to be reasonably sane, can go if neither can or wants to host at their own residence. I'm not into random pickups, although the concept sounds fun, the potential cost is extreme. I mention hot tub places because there's one near me that seems properly set up for such meetings, including hygenically. I'm just wondering if, other than that or a hotel, if there were other options, considering I don't have a van ... or a boat (and I live where it gets cold outside!):)

[LeeNorCal]

My (married) buddy and I (also married) like to meet up at Steamworks (a gay bath house) in Berkeley. Weekday afternoons are the only times we can get together, and this place is always open. The price is right at $23 for a small room. Just because there's plenty of anonymous sex available, that doesn't mean you have to indulge (but watching the goings on does get both of us "in the mood.")

[NjbiGuy01]

A motel is safe if nobody has an apartment or private office...cruising or meeting at steam rooms or bath houses is risky..public play in cars (other than a van or RV with locked and covered windows) is dangerous. I know I would not want to explain getting arrested for something sexual, man, woman or otherwise.

[AGuyIKnow]

I know I would not want to explain getting arrested for something sexual, man, woman or otherwise.
It can be scary and exciting at the same time.

[Sonofwolfie]

God you guys are turning me on!! I grew up in a very small town and we had one gay bar and one place to cruise. I used to love cruising and sucking anonymous cock

[Oklalola]

These semi-private places are dangerous as are automobiles. If your state or locale has a sex offender registry you are jeopardizing a listing. In my state taking a whiz out back behind a bar can potentially land you on it, and the public won't know what earned you a spot unless they bother to read the details.

If that happened they may assume you are a rapist or child molester unless they bother to read the details, and many people in this culture view consensual homoerotic encounters with similar disdain.

One alternative could be a registered motorhome, but check the laws in your locale. I'm not a lawyer but I do think a motorhome parked in a campground is treated similar to a house regarding intrusions by law enforcement. Parking lots might cause you trouble though.

[cuttin2dachase]

I don't judge or condemn those who enjoy picking up strangers and getting off in public or in other risky places. I'm just sayin' it's not for me. I meet my potential partners online then chat with them and vet them before I agree to meet. I guess since I've never them face to face, they could techically be classified as strangers, but if I feel comfortable about them and I know a bit about them, I will take a calculated risk and meet them. I usually only meet a guy in real time when I am able to host. I am able to host only when my family is away for the day or night and that occurs 1 to 2 times per month. I meet him at a nearby sports bar or my neighborhood tavern for a beer and if we hit it off, he follows me the short distance home to my bedroom and we play. Of course if I have already met and played with a guy, I invite him to come straight to my house, where I usually greet him naked at my door. Still I don't get to play nearly as much as I want to. My problem is not in finding guys who are want to play, it's in not having a place to play when we are both horny and available. There are tons of ads online from guys who are looking to host, but most never answer my replies. Most of the ones that do reply raise red flags when I chat with them (ie. they are pushy, they are too impatient to even chat a little first, they live in shady neighborhoods, they are just plain weird). I would be begging to be robbed, or worse so I ditch them and move on and try to find someone nice, decent and sincere who can host.

I am out of ideas as to finding alternative meeting places. Where there's a will, there's a way, so keep them suggestions coming, guys!

[whistle1]

Even though I have not had any ... encounters... with another man, the venue for such a meeting has always concerned me.

You would obviously be most comfortable at your own place, but who wants a complete stranger knowing where you live? Your living arrangement (room mates, family, etc.) may also preclude that.

Meeting at his place is problematic too. You're going to a stranger's house and you don't know what to expect. It could be some gay-basher who has a bunch of his frineds in another room just waiting to jump out and beat the crap out of you. Even if physical safety is not a concern, you don't know if he's got cameras hidden there waiting to record all the activities and then post them online for all the world to see.

Hotels and motels generally require that you provide I.D. and use a credit card - you're leaving a paper trail. Who knows what type of video surveillance they have too.

Meeting in public obviously has its own set of concerns - from getting caught by people passing by to getting caught by the authorities. The last scenario can find you in a heap of trouble. In addition to the legal issues, you'd then have to worry about the local media posting your name and other details of your encounter.

I guess the bottom line is to first find someone with whom you feel completly comfortable...

[pole_smoker]

Some people posting in this topic are way too paranoid.

[Cutiliae]

I have done what cuttin2dachase has done a few times with success, having a guy come over so we can play. I have also gone over to a guys house.... these hookups were from Craigslist meetings. I have always established a bit of a relationship first and met in public. I probably won't do it anymore though because I don't want my luck to run out. However, there is a porn book store in town with a small theater and a few private bootth video arcade. It works well one to sit and the other to stand and receive their blowjob. Otherwise, a cheap hotel is my favorite.

[julyguybill]

God you guys are turning me on!! I grew up in a very small town and we had one gay bar and one place to cruise. I used to love cruising and sucking anonymous cock
I also love meeting a nice then sucking his cock like this so much

[julyguybill]

yes I can be but to me this is the very thing that makes it so hot I did get caught once by a cop. I was sucking a guy he told me not to go there anymore and do what I was doing .my new buddy had just came we just left.
It can be scary and exciting at the same time.