Getting Caught by Wife [Archive]

tenni

Mar 29, 2015, 2:34 PM

You are not really giving enough information to get a more detailed response. Sadly, there will be posts condemnation on you by monogamous zealots. Remember that is not everyone here.

Most will advise you to disclose your interest in same sex activity and your attraction to other men to your wife. If she has caught you in a sexual act with another man, you will have a difficult time. Open and honest communication is the common suggestion. Reinforcing that you do love her. This is something about who you are. She may think that you are gay. Try to explain the difference.

Your same sex partner will understand unless you have been deceitful about your status.

bi4asplay

Mar 29, 2015, 3:07 PM

Have you been caught going at it by your wife? Where were you and what was going on? How did your same sex partner react?

I have. She walked in and saw us. Walked by went to our room and got her strap on came back and told me to get on all fours and keep sucking that dick. what had happened was that he got there early and she got there late. It was the first time I had ever played with another guy when she was not there at the start of things. We had been playing with him for years. I would never put myself or her in the situation you were asking about.

Cutiliae

Mar 29, 2015, 10:41 PM

cfr50s

Mar 30, 2015, 3:41 PM

My wife has walked in while I was having sex with another guy and also another woman. It doesn't present a problem because my wife is also bisexual. One guy I was sucking went immediately limp when she walked in the room. Once he became aware she wasn't upset things went back to normal. He feared there was going to be a big fight or something when she walked in. He actually got turned on when she sat on the floor next to me to watch. It became a weekly event as the three of us watched the NASCAR races.

pole_smoker

Mar 30, 2015, 4:06 PM

No, and if I did get caught with another man I'd be single. She would not tolerate being married to a man that loves to suck dick as much as she does. It will never happen....she's not into that type of guy. She does not think they are "real" men.
Why would you even stay married to a bigot like this? You might as well just get a divorce and have sex with all the men you want and find a male or female partner instead who accepts you for who you are...instead of being totally closeted and cheating on your wife.

Cutiliae

Mar 30, 2015, 9:12 PM

Why would you even stay married to a bigot like this? You might as well just get a divorce and have sex with all the men you want and find a male or female partner instead who accepts you for who you are...instead of being totally closeted and cheating on your wife.

She's not a bigot and she also understands that homosexuality exists and has no problem with that. It's just that she would not want to be married to a man that likes to suck men's cocks.

pole_smoker

Mar 30, 2015, 9:15 PM

She's not a bigot and she also understands that homosexuality exists and has no problem with that. It's just that she would not want to be married to a man that likes to suck men's cocks.
That's biphobia/homophobia on her part. With someone like that you're better off just getting a divorce, and getting them out of your life since you are bisexual.

tenni

Mar 30, 2015, 11:06 PM

She's not a bigot and she also understands that homosexuality exists and has no problem with that. It's just that she would not want to be married to a man that likes to suck men's cocks.

hmm I think that it is a fine line as to whether she is a bigot and biphobic. (give up on the label homophobic in this situation as it involes a man and a woman..not homosexuals). Biphobia is an aversion towards bisexuality and bisexual people as a social group or as individual. Biphobia is a source of discrimination against bisexuals and may be based on negative bisexual stereotypes or irrational fear.

In this case, there seems to be insufficient information to determine whether your wife is biphobic. You write that she is ok with homosexuals and understand that they exist. Fair enough but she is not ok being in a relationship/marriage with a bisexual man?

Is she rejecting the bisexual man just because he is bisexual and she considers him and all bisexual men as bad marriage material? If so, she is biphobic.

Is she rejecting a bisexual man because he may want to have sex with other men? If so, she is biphobic and unwilling to address her real fears...justified or unjustified. This would take a lot of communication. A willingness on her part to set boundary guidelines for any bisexual man that she might marry. A willingness to examine her fears and attempt to overcome them.

If she is rejecting a bisexual man because she has tried to set boundaries with him and he still breaks those rules, she is not unreasonably fearful and is not biphobic.

my $5 view.. :)

Cutiliae

Mar 30, 2015, 11:20 PM

hmm I think that it is a fine line as to whether she is a bigot and biphobic. (give up on the label homophobic in this situation as it involes a man and a woman..not homosexuals). Biphobia is an aversion towards bisexuality and bisexual people as a social group or as individual. Biphobia is a source of discrimination against bisexuals and may be based on negative bisexual stereotypes or irrational fear.

In this case, there seems to be insufficient information to determine whether your wife is biphobic. You write that she is ok with homosexuals and understand that they exist. Fair enough but she is not ok being in a relationship/marriage with a bisexual man?

Is she rejecting the bisexual man just because he is bisexual and she considers him and all bisexual men as bad marriage material? If so, she is biphobic.

Is she rejecting a bisexual man because he may want to have sex with other men? If so, she is biphobic and unwilling to address her real fears...justified or unjustified. This would take a lot of communication. A willingness on her part to set boundary guidelines for any bisexual man that she might marry. A willingness to examine her fears and attempt to overcome them.

If she is rejecting a bisexual man because she has tried to set boundaries with him and he still breaks those rules, she is not unreasonably fearful and is not biphobic.

my $5 view.. :)

Biphobia? A new antihomo term I guess. Does it really matter? Bottom line is she does not want to be married to a bi, fag, or effeminate guy. She likes a "man" and in her opinon real men don't have sex with other men. I'll take my chances and deal with what comes. I have to admit that she's a real woman and give her credit for not wanting to be associated with faggy guys. There are many women out there that don't mind the homos, they just don't want to be married to one.

pole_smoker

Mar 31, 2015, 12:52 AM

Biphobia? A new antihomo term I guess. Does it really matter? Bottom line is she does not want to be married to a bi, fag, or effeminate guy. She likes a "man" and in her opinon real men don't have sex with other men. I'll take my chances and deal with what comes. I have to admit that she's a real woman and give her credit for not wanting to be associated with faggy guys. There are many women out there that don't mind the homos, they just don't want to be married to one.
So you're gay then? Or at least your bigoted like her since you call gay men slurs "fags", "homos", and "faggy". :rolleyes:

As I posted earlier you might as well just get a divorce since eventually she'll know you've cheated on her and divorce you.

tenni

Mar 31, 2015, 1:23 AM

Cut
Ok...I see that you are not familiar with the term biphobia. I also see that you state that you are a 1 on the Kinsey scale. You seem to enjoy fem dressing at the same time time. Are you grappling with the concept of masculinity and femininity? Your references to "real man" etc. makes me wonder. You seem to have more self discovery to work on. Good luck.

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Cutiliae

Mar 31, 2015, 11:10 AM

Thanks for all the psychobabble you guys...LOL. It's a good thing I don't take you guys seriously.

pole_smoker

Mar 31, 2015, 12:26 PM

Thanks for all the psychobabble you guys...LOL. It's a good thing I don't take you guys seriously.
That's nice. LOL I don't take bigoted homophobic men who lie and cheat on their wives who they claim to "love", and yet put on women's clothing in secret seriously. :tongue:

tenni

Mar 31, 2015, 8:47 PM

Rodman Why do you ask this question? Is this happening to you?

PhilipAHuebner

Apr 27, 2015, 9:30 AM

I once was caught by mi wife having sex chat with a dude on http://www.latestrip.com and she was preety excited about this. She joined and we all had a nice time. After that we started to have more online fun.

centillini

Apr 27, 2015, 11:55 AM

Guys wife walked in as her hubby as sucking me. She stopped shocked, then she left, i started to go limp. Then she came back watched and usex and egg vibrator, and put ber finger to mouth telling me nkt to say a word. He had no idea and i became real vocal, she came and i stood and came all over his face.She snuck out. Weeks later her and I fucked as he was gone, she said it made her hkt and he still doesnt know

Bi_Rocker

Apr 28, 2015, 7:28 AM

Biphobia? A new antihomo term I guess. Does it really matter? Bottom line is she does not want to be married to a bi, fag, or effeminate guy. She likes a "man" and in her opinon real men don't have sex with other men. I'll take my chances and deal with what comes. I have to admit that she's a real woman and give her credit for not wanting to be associated with faggy guys. There are many women out there that don't mind the homos, they just don't want to be married to one.

Use the word " fag" around me and you might get punched in the face.

Bi_Rocker

Apr 28, 2015, 9:21 AM

I guess I shouldn't have said that, but that word is really offensive. Especially to people who put up with being called a faggot every day

cangi.j

Apr 28, 2015, 10:45 AM

yes...i was in the garage with a very large erect penis in my mouth. that was my first wife

ramonaman

Apr 28, 2015, 10:01 PM

Early in our marriage my wife was out on the town with her friends, I was buck naked stroking my cock wihile pumping my ass with a 12" dildo, looking at gay porn and never heard her come in the room, needless to say I was involved and when she asked what I was doing, I shoved the dildo deep hoping she wouldnt see it . I had a raging hard on and she like what she saw and then reached down and found it buried deep inside,did't know what to say other than it feels good, I always remember that night!!!

Cutiliae

Apr 28, 2015, 11:43 PM

pole_smoker

Apr 28, 2015, 11:48 PM

I have to laugh because me and my wife were watching some stupid tv show tonight where two guys were kissing each other and she made a gagging sound along with "gross." I have to admit that seeing two guys kiss is not very attractive. Now, two hot chicks is a different story.
What would your bigoted "wife" do if she knew you put on women's clothing and sucked cocks with the mouth you kiss her with? Cut off your balls?

Cutiliae

Apr 28, 2015, 11:52 PM

What would your bigoted "wife" do if she knew you put on women's clothing and sucked cocks with the mouth you kiss her with? Cut off your balls?

LOL...probably yell, "Pack your shit and get out, fag!" And I would reply, "I'm not a fag, I just like to suck cock."

pole_smoker

Apr 29, 2015, 12:01 AM

LOL...probably yell, "Pack your shit and get out, fag!" And I would reply, "I'm not a fag, I just like to suck cock."
Does living with her cause you a lot of stress? Or is it not fun at times?

Has she ever found women's clothing you put on? Or any gay porn or sex toys you happen to have?

Cutiliae

Apr 29, 2015, 12:14 AM

Does living with her cause you a lot of stress? Or is it not fun at times?

Has she ever found women's clothing you put on? Or any gay porn or sex toys you happen to have?

No stress and I don't have clothes (Thigh high stockings on occasion, wife's thong) and I don't watch/like gay porn or have sex toys. We both watch straight porn on occasion.

charles-smythe

Apr 29, 2015, 2:28 AM

…I’m really disappointed…no one had an really good ‘caught by wife’ stories….

justafella

Apr 29, 2015, 8:35 AM

Evidently a good number of us are doing a good job at keeping the wife in the dark. I, hope to keep it that way.

monaohio

Apr 29, 2015, 9:00 AM

thing is just watch where you do it at

cuttin2dachase

Apr 30, 2015, 8:21 PM

My 1st wife watched and helped me suck many cocks. In fact she was who turned me out as a cocksucker after hinting, coaxing, suggesting and wanting to share me with the men I was sharing her with. 3somes became so much hotter and intimate than they'd been before I became a bi cocksucker.

One night, actually about 2 or 3 in the morning, wifey was completely spent from wine and several hours of 3way sex. She more or less passed out in delirium in our bed. Our guest and I went to the den and ended up continuing to play. He even put on the panties and heels my wife had worn earlier. It was during our play that he french kissed me as were stroking each other's cocks. It was electrifying and just as exciting to me as the 1st time I took a man's cock into my mouth. We ended our mm play sucking each other off. It was so late and we'd all been drinking so I asked him to just come to bed with me and wifey. She woke up in the morning to two horny men licking and fondling her. We both ate and fucked her again, then she made breakfast for us and then he got dressed and left. I was not going to tell her about what he and I had done after she went to sleep, fearing what she would think about me playing without her and especially about kissing a guy who was wearing her things. Unbeknownst to me, she had gotten up to pee and actually perved on us and played with herself a bit before falling back into bed. She knew everything ! She teasingly told me how she'd watched me and our guest go at it and asked if I wanted to marry him now LOL. We had done separate room swapping with other couples before and there was a time or two before when I passed out and she kept going without me, so she was cool with it especially because it inspired him and me to ravage her again in the follow-on 3way that morning. So, I was caught, but she let me off on my good behavior after my 'crime' LOL

ErrolWatkin

Dec 16, 2015, 12:10 PM

That is nice. My first wife caught me watching a guy on http://gayreign.com and the second day she filed out the divorce papers. Not a pleasent reaction.

Neonaught

Dec 16, 2015, 1:14 PM

This doesn't really count as "caught" as she knew he was going to be with me. He was running late for our meeting and she came home just as we were getting naked. She just smiled real big and jumped in the middle! My girl!

sysper

Dec 16, 2015, 7:27 PM

what a cool wife!!!! someone who is there for u & understands what u enjoy & support u.

coolbreeze69

Dec 17, 2015, 3:17 PM

No. Never caught but I was separated with the wife when I encountered my first experience and loved it! When we decided to get back together. She told me things and I told her about my experience. She was intrigued and wanted to join in on a mfm experiment. I must have been so excited, because she renigged on me and started calling me a queen and gay! After about 4 months of it, I asked for a divorce and left her and my son at the house, we called home. I was severely depressed and wanted to take my own life. Then I talked to several family members who were very comforting. I am now engaged to a woman who understands my desire and wants to join in with me and another guy. She is a wonderful woman!

Oztrich

Dec 19, 2015, 7:23 PM

Never been caught, but she has been there during sex with another man. She was not really into it, but was into having sex with other men herself. I miss those days!

Oztrich

Jan 17, 2016, 5:16 PM

Since my last posting, my wife has seen me having sex with another guy and in the past week she has had sex with my FWB three times. She is excited to see him again soon. Never would have thought it, but hey!

xp243

Jan 19, 2016, 5:32 AM

After being married for over 25 yrs wife found a text of mine that said I want to suck dick until completion. So I told her about my past such a relief.

Outofthis99999

Jan 19, 2016, 12:09 PM

After being married for over 25 yrs wife found a text of mine that said I want to suck dick until completion. So I told her about my past such a relief.
Is she ok with you doing that?

centillini

Jan 21, 2016, 8:46 AM

I have had a close call and a watch. First one was at a guys house who was very fem. He was sucking me off on his knees and his wife came home and went through the house and we was in a den with door semi closed, he didnt know and she didnt see anything. The second was getting a nicr slow blow job on this guys couch and his gf came in and stood around corner and was stunned, seen her turn and I bega to go limp, as he was getting ready to ask me what was wrong, she walked into kitche naked and sat in a chair and let her hands explore and watching , needless to say I became hard, she came quietly and S I shot all over his face, she got up and went and got dressed and came in after we was decent, was her and I secret for while until

nafiens

Jan 25, 2016, 11:53 AM

That is so hot. I wish I was that guy.

Outofthis99999

Jan 26, 2016, 9:24 AM

When I met my gf I told her I was bi. She said she understood but her thinking is I'm over it now that I'm with her. I still like men and still have desires. Someone hacked my cell and sent her conversations to her FB about my bi life and how much I love being w a guy once in awhile. CAUGHT! Not sure what to do.

madwolf

Jun 27, 2016, 5:52 PM

i was caught getting my dick sucked on the beach here in texas by my best friends daughter. about 4 years ago. i'm so glad she was cool she helped him suck me off. we have hooked up a few times after that but never with anyone else. and i once walked in while my daughter was bent over the table getting her pretty little ass fucked. that was so cool. it was so hard for me to say i'm next. call me a pervert but i would have nail her ass or let him nail me. but it didn't happen. and after he left we never spoke of it again. but it wasn't because i didn't want to. i just respect her enough not to say anything.

DMercator

Jun 27, 2016, 9:39 PM

Worse. I got caught by my Mother. Needless to say it didn't go well.

lizard-lix

Jun 28, 2016, 8:30 AM

Got caught my my parents too (we'd taken Polaroids and forgot to put all of them away, dad found a great shot of me face fucking my BF). All 4 parents freaked (of course mine had to tell his), but this was the early 70's and they were trying to be 'modern.' They told us not to do it again and we were back at it the next day.

Now, my wife doesn't want any details, so I keep up my end and it's not where I could get caught.

(Oh! For those who've known me here for all these years, we finally worked it out, she gave me the hall pass and it has been working out, I finally got to have sex with a guy again, and she is cool with it).