If you could start all over again?

[Tuffnuggies]

If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:

Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated


What would you have done different?
Have any of you any regrets?

[softheart]

That is a tough one. I think I would have found a way to find a woman who was OK with me being bi. But being in the closet makes it hard to come out to anyone for fear of someone having power over you, or simply shooting off their mouths. I considered placing an ad for a bi girlfriend, but I just couldn't bring myself to do that. In my first marriage in my 20's my wife asked me if I was "fruity". I had my chance to confess, but didn't have the balls to do it.

My long term gay lover and I were both in jobs that kept us on the road, so we matched schedules when we could and got adjoining rooms were possible. We were so far in the closet the moths had names. Oddly, a couple of women, one a hotel clerk another a waitress figured us out. I don't know how that happened. I though we were totally cool. I suspect she read my submissiveness to his dominance and put two and two together. She was not far from the mark.

After all, we had been sharing sex for like 30 years. I was a manly man in public, and a submissive gay lover in private.

In private, he was boss. He loved that I was "girly in bed" and I loved to be "girly in bed. He liked me to wear lingerie when we were making love, and I loved to wear it. I always waited getting dressed since he often told me to wear panties out to dinner under my slacks.

The thought of me telling him: "Get on your knees and blow me" was not in my mental processes. When we were together, I kept my boy pussy clean and lubed, just in case. He even fucked me in his storage unit once when he called me to help with something heavy, and I blew him in his garage when his wife was in a leg cast and couldn't get in the garage! When daddy calls, honey delivers!

Anyhow, we both happened to get divorces at around the same time. I suggested we give our relationship a bit more footing and avoid looking for wives. He declined. I was more heartbroken as time went on. We both had the money to travel and do "gay things" out of town if we chose. He just couldn't get there. But we did keep traveling schedules synced, and we sucked and fucked our way to retirement.

In all my relationships with others, this is the only one I felt I could have dealt with.

[JimmieG]

I don't think I would do anything different. It's been all fun and enjoyable. I have no regrets. There's something special about being able to enjoy the best of both worlds.

[charles-smythe]

If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:

Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated

What would you have done different?
Have any of you any regrets?I would have started sucking cocks years earlier…

[chub-bi]

I would've admitted to several women that I enjoyed sucking dick as well as enjoying women.

[fredtyg]

My only regret was being scared of my sexuality, thus I passed up so many opportunities back in my 20s. For instance, one of the choices is "not turned down the opportunity for my first cock". I had a lot more opportunities than one. Had I been more comfortable with myself I could have taken charge and found a lot more than just one. I can think of guys I passed on that I might have been able to do it with but was too scared to expose myself as queer. I'm sure there would have been a lot more had I had the mindset I have today where I think of every guy I see as a potential cock to suck.

[sysper]

be more open to trying things with guys in college. probably the best time to try it. i bet i had so many opportunities i missed out on cause i didn't open myself to recognize them. it was the 90's it wasn't as open as it is now but even then it wasn't a huge deal. most of my friends would of been supportive or at least tolerant. not really a regret i honestly wasn't interested back then, but if i could be that young again i would try & look for it, be open to expand my horizons & seek some freedom. a great age & a great place to explore.

[jem_is_bi]

Given my present state of being, I would have started having sex with men much, much sooner than I did so that I would have enjoyed more of it. However, that is the me now wanting to change the me then. Even if that was possible, I doubt that would have made for more pleasure in my life. It very possibly would have had the opposite effect. Overall, I have had a wonderful life. So I is difficult to see how changes in my sex life would have made it better.

[SilkyHoseLover]

My regret is that I didn't pay attention to early hints that my love of nylons and lingerie, and my lifelong daydreams of being female also indicated that I was suppressing a desire to experience sexual contact with men as if I actually were a woman. I was approaching 60 years of age before this reality took root, and I have both acknowledged and embraced it. It's just the way I am, and I couldn't change it if I wanted to.

So, yes --- if I had to do it over again, I wouldn't kid myself about being absolutely straight for decades, and wish I had been honest enough with myself that I would have sucked my first cock during my 20s, rather than waiting until my late 50s to learn how much pleasure it can bring to two men.

[BiPaoulo69]

I would only settle for a woman that's sexually open and adventurous and fully accepst and respect my bi-sexual desires.

[singlebimale41]

I would have started sucking cocks years earlier…
[/LIST]

Being bi doesn't not mean I've cheated on anyone ever, I sought out my first bi experience because I was curious and I was single. Not sure why so many people assume bisexuality comes with dishonesty within a relationship. If you are single or exploring with the full knowledge and consent of a partner its not cheating.

[void()]

Being bi doesn't not mean I've cheated on anyone ever, I sought out my first bi experience because I was curious and I was single. Not sure why so many people assume bisexuality comes with dishonesty within a relationship. If you are single or exploring with the full knowledge and consent of a partner its not cheating.

BUMP!

[void()]

If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:

Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated


What would you have done different?
Have any of you any regrets?

Apologies. I not aware that I started as bisexual, or male by choice. I would not choose any other way to be but being myself. Seems life created meas a bisexual man. That's what I am.

Regrets? Yes, I regret society seems not keen to accept bisexual men. Society does seem more keen to accept bisexual women. So, I regret seeing that double standard and regret feeling frustrated by it. I regret so many see it as cheating when you have consent, acceptance of spouses and lovers, in all honesty. I regret you created such a listing of choices.

Excuse me.

[cuttin2dachase]

I discovered my mm desires at age 32. I wouldn't go backward from that point and do anything differently, but I am quite certain that if I had discovered mm sex at an earlier age, I would have enjoyed it just as much. There is no telling how many more men I could've and would've met! Now if I could do anything differently AFTER that point, I would certainly have never married my 2nd wife. I gave up meeting men, other women and couples/groups for sex and remained faithful to her for almost 10 years only to discover she'd cheated on me the whole time we were together. Although I didn't continue to act on my desires during that period, they remained with me. It was only a week or two after I left her that I began meeting men, women and couples/groups again. That was almost 7 years ago. Since then, I have had the freedom and opportunity to have sex with any woman, man or group who wanted to have sex with me and there have been many :) Again there's no telling how many more men, women and groups I could have had sex with had I not married her.

[Green Domains]

My biggest regret is spending so much time repressing my thoughts and feelings during college rather than exploring my sexuality. Who knows what would have been different if I allowed myself to have sex with another man at that time. Maybe I would not be married today? Maybe I would have "just went gay"? I guess I will never know.

[jimisbi]

I regret not being true to my sexuality when I was so much younger. I passed up so many opportunities to do what I really knew I wanted and to be who I really am.

[mtnmen2]

I had already had sex with a male at 14 so probably wouldn't started much younger, wouldn't have gone full gay because I love pussy to much. My only real regret was I had a girlfriend when I was in my late twenties that wanted me try some bisexual stuff with her but I was to scared to let her know that I already done that. Then there was my friend and roommate in college that I use to get mixed signals from that I wish I had the courage to see where that might have led but other than that everything has turned out about the way I wanted it.

[pole_smoker]

If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:

Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated

What would you have done different? Have any of you any regrets? Nobody that's actually bisexual has ever been really heterosexual or gay. Not all of us cheat on a partner/spouse, etc. :rolleyes: Personally both my husband and I would not do anything differently as we did date and have relationships with both women and men before we met and eventually married each other.

[jem_is_bi]

Nobody that's actually bisexual has ever been really heterosexual or gay. Not all of us cheat on a partner/spouse, etc. :rolleyes: Personally both my husband and I would not do anything differently as we did date and have relationships with both women and men before we met and eventually married each other.
That kind of certainty would kill a lot of great sexual fantasies for me.

[Tuffnuggies]

Being bi doesn't not mean I've cheated on anyone ever, I sought out my first bi experience because I was curious and I was single. Not sure why so many people assume bisexuality comes with dishonesty within a relationship. If you are single or exploring with the full knowledge and consent of a partner its not cheating.
After posting I did realize that it may not always be the case.
When single and Bi, vs married and Bi, and in your earlier years. Would you have changed course?

[Tuffnuggies]

When I think of the cocks that I could have sucked, and vice versa.. (Sigh)
Not to mention some of the pussy I've passed on.. Lol

[Outofthis99999]

I would have started at a younger age. I came out to my dads friend who is gay and when I was 18 I would have hit on him.

[bikurinpa]

If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:

Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated


What would you have done different?
Have any of you any regrets?

I would stay strait. Just too hard to find someone that wants friendship as well. All just want right NOWs or blo n goes

[a2smith09]

Oh I would have started even younger, gone all in much sooner, not turned done nearly as many potential sexual partners and searched much much harder for a bisexual female that enjoys watching two males have sex

[James1A1]

I would have started all types of sex at an earlier age. I would talk more openly to girlfriends that I enjoyed sucking and being sucked by guys. Hopefully finding a girlfriend that would actually enjoy watching us.

[nikkijones]

If given the chance to go back in time, I would like to think I could be open about my desires way sooner than I voiced my thoughts to my wife of many, many years, as she has stated she wished I told her sooner, saying I wasted all that time lol. I just told my wife, 6 months ago about my bisexual desires.. I have been feeling this for a long time, years.. I finally got up the balls to tell her about it. I want to share another hot guy with her so bad, I want to enjoy a nice cock with her and receive anal from him after watching him have intercourse with her. the thought of it drives me extremely crazy and it seems to excite her as well fantasizing about it, watching it and talking about it. We have had the best sex we have EVER had since this has come to light, but I feel even though she seems to be turned on by it, she still is understandably unsure of actually physically doing it. Id would love to get some advice on how to go about actually making this fantasy of my wife and I enjoying another hot guy come to light! I am also glad to now know I am not alone with this!

[LovingJacking]

I would have had more jacking sessions with my step-uncle. He taught me so much about what men sexually enjoy, especially since he was a big precum leaker. But I wish I had some oral good times with him!

[donttellnehismy]

I started VERY young. I have repressed and just been afraid of my sexuality for years. Just coming to terms now.

[69luvr]

I would have started sucking cock a lot sooner then 14.

[mjohn]

I have no regrets for I love my wife. However if I had to do it again I would have just went gay. But at the time I was in the military it was kind of hard to be gay in the military.

[12voltyV2.0]

Back when I was young and had did sexual stuff with other guys---my first sexual experiences were with other guys, I was coming of age as HIV/AIDs was also making its way into the world.

Once I started "getting lucky" with girls, I basically was only interested at that point in being with females---but I still had desires to be with other guys, but unless some situation presented itself to be with another guy, I really didn't know how to pursue doing so.

I looked around at the various "gay scenes" I saw in the places I lived or spent time and those scenes all put me off--making me feel that there was no place for me in in that.

It really was probably a good thing, because every single person I knew who came out gay, bi or whatever in those days---were among those first waves of those who died from getting full blown AIDS. so it was good I didn't pursue doing anything with guys other than the one "thing" I had with another guy that was a short term deal, "out of the blue" that I did not seek out--but just happened.

Once done with that--I didn't do anything with another guy for at least another decade.

I hate to admit it---but had I let myself go and have sex with other men at that time, I probably would not have practiced safe sex---being young and thinking you are immortal---so I would have stood a high chance of getting AIDS and going down thanks to that years ago.

In hindsight--I am sure that I missed out on some great sex since that was the time of life I was "in my prime"---but better I didn't do that because if I had--I probably would have checked out years ago.

Based on that--no real regrets

[charles-smythe]

If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:

Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated


What would you have done different? Have any of you any regrets?
…other than start earlier…not a damn thing….i might have changed something small like bought a polaroid camera (Pre-phone camera) & got a ton of pictures with all the guys I sucked’s dick in my mouth…

[borntosuckcock]

I think I was born a bisexual. When I was very young, my family lived in a trailer park with public showers and restrooms. I can remember being so fascinated by the older men's cocks in the shower room, but also afraid to say or do anything. I remember wanting to touch and suck their cocks. I think I was around 5 at the time. Then when I was 8 or 9, the guy next door invited me in to his house while his wife and daughter were gone. It was a very hot day and we were both wearinging baggy trunks. I had already been jacking off for years and thinking about the cocks I'd seen several years earlier. He offered me a coke and then sat down next to me. When he sat down, his trunks rode up some and I could see the tip of his cock. I so wanted to touch it, but was afraid to make the first move. He seemed to notice that I was looking and that I was trying to hide my little erection and that seemed to make his cock a little larger. He asked if I wanted to see some magazines and I said okay, he returned with a magazine and sat down closer to me. All the pictures were of men's cocks and most showed sucking and cum. He asked if I liked the pictures and I said yes. We both were rock hard by now and asked me to stand up in front of him, he slid my trunks down and sucked me. It was a wonderful feeling. My whole body shook when I came, I thought my knees were going to buckle. While he was sucking me, he had slid his trunks down and he was jacking off his huge cock. I wanted to suck his cock, so I sat down again and leaned over and started to suck him. It seemed so natural.wne he came, I like the taste, the feeling of his passion as he came and I swallowed his cum, I wanted more and couldn't wait to suck him again. I still remember how big his cock seemed, compared to my small mouth. I sucked him for many years. He didn't know it, but his daughter was the first girl I had sex with and I loved to lick her pussy and she loved to suck my cock.

I've always had an oral fixation with men's cocks and women's pussies. It just seems natural and right. I'm glad I started early, I have so many fond memories of the many men and women I've experienced. I've been married for 45 years, she has no idea of the pussy I've eaten and the cocks I've sucked over the years. She is totally straight. I have no regrets and wouldn't change a thing. From time to time, I've wished that she wasn't so straight, we could have shared so much more.

[sysper]

that's tough dealing with aids & other std's. but u gotta consider everything. but it's still possible to explore just gotta be safe.

[Realist]

If I could start all over again, I would return to 1962 and move back in with the husband and wife I lived with, when I was in the Army. Even tough it was my most unconventional relationship, ever, it was also the best!

[man4girlgirl4man]

If I could do it all again I would have followed my gay desires more often. More cocksucking more getting fucked. But we all would do things differently if we could. I'm very satisfied with my sex life in total

[jimtom56]

think I would have started earlier in life instead of latter

[Jim Handy]

got my first BJ at puberty, returned it a few minutes after, for the next 5 years, was all m/m sex, oral, anal, jo..whatever. At the 5 year mark was seduced by a 46 year old female friend of my dad's. knew then, for penetration, my cock belonged to women, but my mouth and ass still loved the attention of men....During those years, I met the girl I would eventually marry. She was the oldest of 7, and I the oldest of 6. She obviously was sexually active same as I.

Before marriage, we sat and talked and put everything on the table, and resolved that my having a boyfriend,would not interfere with the marriage, we decided to go ahead and "getter done." She was open to having a boyfriend, or boyfriends too.

My boyfriend died after a 30 year relationship. Drank himself to death. Wife had 12 boyfriends over our 53 year marriage. All of our extra curricular activities were done separately, never a 3 way...never he and me, just me and my friends, and she with hers...worked about as perfect as one can be....so what would I change ? I wish I did not have to grow old and become less attractive to the multitude of hard cocks seeking relief...but it has come to pass....:(

[BiCuriousVAN]

Good question. I was always a bit curious about gay sex starting in my early teens, but was in denial about my sexuality, until I knew I had to finally do something about it in my early 40's. If I could do it all over again, I would experimented in my teens. I likely would have realized then that I was bi. I probably would have dated a few guys. I doubt I would have decided to exclusively be with guys, but I would have made sure I had a lot of sex with guys. The one biggest thing I would have loved to have done in the pre-AIDS era is taken a fucked as a top and bottom bareback. There is no way I would try that now.

Even missing that opportunity, I had a lot of guys come on to me in my early 30's, most of whom were extremely cute. I was in serious denial, so never did anything about it, but I sure would have taken them up on their offers.

I would also have wanted to find a female partner who is more open to my bi side and who wanted to be part of the fun.

[Oztrich]

I would have enjoyed it more, and found women who were more sympathetic or found a polyamorous relationship.

[guywholikesboth]

if i had to start all over again I would have willing taken his big cock into my mouth and suck it dry ratheer than him forcing it into my mouth and fucking it till he came

[chub-bi]

I wouldn't have wasted my twenties trying to fuck every woman I met just to prove to myself I wasn't bi.
Not that I didn't enjoy straight sex but many times guys came on to me and I turned them down.
I now wish I would've let those guys suck my cock and sucked theirs.

[sysper]

I wouldn't have wasted my twenties trying to fuck every woman I met just to prove to myself I wasn't bi.
Not that I didn't enjoy straight sex but many times guys came on to me and I turned them down.
I now wish I would've let those guys suck my cock and sucked theirs.
looks like u got some catching up to do with guys, at least it forced u to have alot of sex with women which i'm sure u regretted lol! doesn't mean u gotta give them up though! just go out there & fuck if ur lucky it will turn to making love :D

[Shelby57]

I received my first BJ at 15. I spent the next 40 years trying to deny how much I enjoyed it and regretting not reciprocating.
I have only recently started to actively explore my bisexuality and while I loved every minute of the women I have been with, It would have been a lot of fun to have been able to enjoy both sides of my desire all that time. I do think things work out how they are supposed to. The guy that gave me my first BJ has long since died of Aids as have a few other "opportunities" I passed on out of fear over the years. So, would I do anything differently, yeah, I probably would have reciprocated that first night but since we didn't know about Aids 40 years ago, I can't say I would have wanted for anything else to be different as the chances that I wouldn't be here now could have been significant.

[whispering]

My biggest regret is shyness and fear of embarrassment. I played with a friend before and at puberty, and one day he called me a homo and stomped off--I was afraid to show interest in boys my age after that. Then my next encounter was with a teacher, and of course I had to be secret and couldn't tell anyone.

Today, it's so much more acceptable to play with other boys and to be bisexual, it doesn't have to be a secret among friends and that's really great. When I think of all those beautiful cocks that I could have played with, and didn't, it makes me sad.

[al_atlanta]

I passed up on a lot of stuff in my teens, mostly young guys wanting to blow me, and a few who wanted me to suck them. When I was 17 I started to be with older couples, and learned to love the husbands oral attentions. I didn't get into going down myself until much later, only in the last few years. So now I would change a few things.

[lucky.cucky]

If I really had a choice I would have NOT gone down this road. I was abused by older boys/men when 4 and later from about 6 to 8, or so. Once that period of my life was over, all was ok for a while. That is until later in life when it led to problems for me. Don’t get me wrong, there were a lot of “fun” times there also. But when I look back on the serious problems incurred during my life vis-a-vis career, family, friends, judicial, etc.; I would have chosen a different path in life. I see straight people among family and friends and admire their sense of honesty and openness. That’s my honest 2 cents. :2cents:
WTF - Life is hard and then we die.

[Joboo]

You and me both. I passed up on so many opportunities but times were so different back then. I only had just the one guy and we were deep undercover right in the open. He was gay an found a mate and I just continued with the ladies. I was thought of as very good looking and probably got hit on by at least one a month..funny many of those times I was buying clothes or shoes. A few were guys like me and they just seemed to know that I might be open to it. Finally at 28 or so a guy that I had known since we were 12 or so took advantage of a situation. We had stroked each other one night when I was 14 or so, fate found us alone together when I was married and so was he. That was an interesting night. I don't get many opportunities anymore. Missed on one in L.A. When visiting there years ago in my early fourties. We were in a business situation and he just seemed to know that I would. First time I was ever actually attracted to another guy in a normal setting. Hard to explain, but we had made plans to meet after dinner and he would slip into my room. But he ended up missing dinner, wife had work emergency and they had a young child, he had to leave. Really the only one I was ever attracted to, during the meetings I would get hard sitting by him. I had only ever done oral but I might have been receptive if he had wanted more.

[Joboo]

It seemed I was always attracted to the penis and not the guy. My guy from when we were young for instance. We had played with each other and jerked each other off for two years at age 12-13. When we met up again I had no intention of sucking him, I just thought we would jerk each other. When I saw how long and fat his cock had gotten I was excited. When he held them together and stroked us he was so much bigger than me and it just did something. Next thing I know I'm sucking him and trying my best to make him come. We fooled around for five more years on the sly. Then he was gone. The other guy is a long story but I see his half hard dick which is also way bigger than me and I can't quit looking at it, I got rock hard and instantly wanted to suck him. Passed on many fully clothed guys, if they had only showed me their cocks. Lol!

[billy ball]

I would have started hrt.

[JimmyNewJersey]

I would have started much sooner. I didn't start sucking cocks til I was about 50. I could have kicked myself for not having done it sooner once that first cock was in my mouth. It IS the best of both worlds!!!

[travelmanNW]

If I could go back I would have sucked more cock in my younger years. I had a friend in Alaska that loved to show off his cock it was big cut with big head I always wanted to suck him off and I believed that's what he wanted. I regret missing that opportunity to suck his cock

[bi_prepper_wa]

If I could go back in time, I'd be the youngest boy whore in history. ( bet I'll get a lot of "don't bet on it's" from that one!! )

[oldoralman]

I wish I could of sucked many more cock,s in all the years I didn't and would have enjoyed many more cock,s in the years I did.

[Fzmr9t]

I honestly don't know what I'd do. It's so secretive (since I'm married and no one knows) , but at the same time I love the feeling of another mans body almost as much as I love how a woman feels next to me. If I'd of started earlier, before getting married, I'd probably be dead by now because I was married in the 70's and the whole HIV thing was still just getting started

[csreef]

If I could start all over . . . I still would be Bisexual.

After becoming fully Bisexual, and becoming comfortable with it, I try to seize each opportunity to comes along my way!

Carpe Diem !

:flag4: A.

[The Galion]

Exactly what JimmyNewJersey said above! I wished I'd started WAY earlier!
"If given the choice as a bi man. Would you have:


Just went gay
Not turned down that first opportunity to take a cock?
Stayed straight
Never cheated"

Just went gay? No way, I like women way too much!
First opportunity for cock? I MAY have had a chance and did nothing out of respect for my wife. Big mistake. I should've hinted/asked that guy. God, I was attracted to that flaming fella!
Stayed straight? Can't, not wired that way. Like cock too much.
Cheating? I'd prefer to NOT cheat but when there's no way to get the wife on-board anything sexy, fun and what I might NEED? Well I cheat sometimes.