Taking the big step

[Biintraining]

What was it that convinced you to take the big step and actually explore another man sexually not just fantasizing about doing it?

[cornholejoe]

well after sucking a cock and getting fucked in the ass in a 3some with a man and his wife decided to go 1 on 1 with a man i met on silverdaddies so ever since i have had sex with men and women

[Biintraining]

Being broken in by a couple would be easy and a fantasy come true.

[csreef]

I had been strongly Bi - curious since I was 15. I never explored it as I had no one to talk to about this. (Living in a small town that was bigoted and Homophobic.)

When I was 30, I met a woman who was openly Bisexual & also a Swinger....she told me to explore my sexuality, as not to have any regrets in my life....I took her advice, and by me meeting a man and exploring my sexuality, I became comfortable with my sexuality, my life became a lot more balanced, in a lot of different areas....

Do not have any regrets about your life !!!

[sysper]

i thought that when i 1st started to become bicurious. having a girl also involved could lighten the shock of doing things with the same sex. make it easier to accept i guess. but as i began accepting my feelings i became more ok with the idea of being alone with just another guy. plus i think i began to discover i'm usually not in the mood for both sexes at the same time. i wouldn't turn down an offer to spend the nite with a couple but if i had to choose for my 1st time i think i'd just want 1 guy. with a big cock lol.
Being broken in by a couple would be easy and a fantasy come true.

[BeachHound]

What was it that convinced you to take the big step and actually explore another man sexually not just fantasizing about doing it?

For me, one word..... TRUST! Being able to trust the man means more to me then anything else. That was the key for me to take that big step.

[sysper]

u must of been so stressed out! maybe even felt ashamed of urself. but i'm so glad u were true to urself & discovered opening urself up sexually to guys too was the right thing to do. and fun! u were so fortunate to meet someone who was......well i won't even say bi just openminded. ur words mean alot to me. i don't know what i would say on my deathbed about sleeping with a guy, in fact i think it's irrelevant. either way i wanna say i was proud i went for it.
I had been strongly Bi - curious since I was 15. I never explored it as I had no one to talk to about this. (Living in a small town that was bigoted and Homophobic.)

When I was 30, I met a woman who was openly Bisexual & also a Swinger....she told me to explore my sexuality, as not to have any regrets in my life....I took her advice, and by me meeting a man and exploring my sexuality, I became comfortable with my sexuality, my life became a lot more balanced, in a lot of different areas....

Do not have any regrets about your life !!!

[csreef]

1) I was never stressed out, just so confused as to who I was sexually.
2) I never felt ashamed of myself, I have always been proud of myself & my accomplishments.
3) soon after I became comfortable with my sexuality, I felt a lot more relaxed, confident, and people noticed it.


u must of been so stressed out! maybe even felt ashamed of urself. but i'm so glad u were true to urself & discovered opening urself up sexually to guys too was the right thing to do. and fun! u were so fortunate to meet someone who was......well i won't even say bi just openminded. ur words mean alot to me. i don't know what i would say on my deathbed about sleeping with a guy, in fact i think it's irrelevant. either way i wanna say i was proud i went for it.

[sysper]

glad it was pretty easy for u. along with confusion i have felt shame about my feelings but i've come a longway. pretty stressed too cause i'm so eager to know what it's like. in my mind it's hot! but i don't know for sure what to expect for real. i think the biggest thing i can be sure of is i'll feel relief. but maybe i'll feel guilt on some level? i really hope not, i want to feel totally free to explore this & allow myself to have pleasure with a guy. either way i do know i will be proud of doing it on some level. maybe things would go better with me & women afterwards that would be a big plus! :)
1) I was never stressed out, just so confused as to who I was sexually.
2) I never felt ashamed of myself, I have always been proud of myself & my accomplishments.
3) soon after I became comfortable with my sexuality, I felt a lot more relaxed, confident, and people noticed it.

[Asspussy302]

I guess I just felt ready to stop being curious.

[monaohio]

I thought about the guy I lived with and how good he felt in my mouth and ass and going all out for lots of cock and cum

[Christopher South]

I knew I was bi as a teen but never did anything. Got married young and had plenty of hetero sex. But as I got older and my wife was no longer interested in sex I decided to go from curious to active. So for me the driving factor was sex (or lack thereof).

[thatcher29]

It happened about 15 years ago and it was certainly a big step for me. This had always been something that excited me but actually performing oral on a man seemed like such a huge event. I was married at the time and had regular sex with the wife. So it wasn't because I was horny. I think what finally made me go through with it was all the desire that had been building up for years--all the fantasies and jerk off sessions to gay porn. Once there was a cock in front of me it quickly became a very natural, comfortable thing and all the nervousness vanished. But at the time it seemed like I was leaping off a cliff.

[whistle1]

This is a good question. I have only been curious for a few years. There are many reasons I have not acted on it.

For there to be even the slightest chance of me acting on my curiosity, I would have to get to know the other guy, feel comfortable with him and trust him.

Even then, I don't know if I could pull the trigger.

Although, as one person said, it might be different once you have that cock dangling in front of you...

[stonebow]

I had been strongly Bi - curious since I was 15. I never explored it as I had no one to talk to about this. (Living in a small town that was bigoted and Homophobic.)

When I was 30, I met a woman who was openly Bisexual & also a Swinger....she told me to explore my sexuality, as not to have any regrets in my life....I took her advice, and by me meeting a man and exploring my sexuality, I became comfortable with my sexuality, my life became a lot more balanced, in a lot of different areas....

Do not have any regrets about your life !!!

Closely parallels my own experience. As a teen, I'd often fantasize about sex with guys. So I'd masturbate only to be wracked with shame as soon as I'd cum. The cycle of excitement/guilt went on for years and contributed to a failed marriage. All that changed when I met my current lady. She freed me to explore without guilt....that and the words of another friend who said "Don't die wondering." I'm at peace with my identity now and enjoying life much more.

[sysper]

i need to hear this everytime helps thanks :)
Closely parallels my own experience. As a teen, I'd often fantasize about sex with guys. So I'd masturbate only to be wracked with shame as soon as I'd cum. The cycle of excitement/guilt went on for years and contributed to a failed marriage. All that changed when I met my current lady. She freed me to explore without guilt....that and the words of another friend who said "Don't die wondering." I'm at peace with my identity now and enjoying life much more.

[csreef]

Good to hear that you are enjoying your "New Life"


Closely parallels my own experience. As a teen, I'd often fantasize about sex with guys. So I'd masturbate only to be wracked with shame as soon as I'd cum. The cycle of excitement/guilt went on for years and contributed to a failed marriage. All that changed when I met my current lady. She freed me to explore without guilt....that and the words of another friend who said "Don't die wondering." I'm at peace with my identity now and enjoying life much more.

[Jimmy Splash]

I am 44 and yet to take the big step. I am still in fantasizing stage. I guess I am quite nervous to take the step as I've got it in my head that it's wrong to be with another man. However, I cannot stop the thoughts. In a bit of a muddle I guess. I visit this site, I look at Craigslist m4m section and answer ads but nothing comes of it, I watch bisexual videos and masturbate afterwards.
Maybe one day

[sysper]

omg i can relate to u pretty good. about same age & also yet to take the big step. love to fantasize about guys too! also pretty nervous. i remember when i 1st started to become curious about guys, i felt so embarassed, guilty, ashamed. that was in my early 20's. now i'm 43 still kinda working on it but i know for a fact it's allright for me to have sex with guys......& like it! but still pretty confused about the whole thing. still learning i guess.i checkout craigslist too. most add's never reply & those that do are either just not right for me or they eventually stop responding. although it really looks like i might have some success soon. i agree its a big step at least it seems like it! can be kinda scary. but i know i wanna try this & on some level i know i have to try this. i hope u find the right guy for u soon. if ur curious enough u got the right to seek it, in fact u really owe it to urself. u should work through ur confusion & see what it's like in real life. make safe & sane choices of course. also something i need to remind myself too.
I am 44 and yet to take the big step. I am still in fantasizing stage. I guess I am quite nervous to take the step as I've got it in my head that it's wrong to be with another man. However, I cannot stop the thoughts. In a bit of a muddle I guess. I visit this site, I look at Craigslist m4m section and answer ads but nothing comes of it, I watch bisexual videos and masturbate afterwards.
Maybe one day

[tr1024]

I also have yet to take "the big step". But I also agree with what some have said about trust. I would prefer to get to know him, and for him to know me. If it looked like things would be right, then "the big step" could be taken. Having said that, sometimes the anticipation in my thinking and in fantasizing is too much. But I'm trying to be patient, and use masterbating as a release.

[csreef]

I also have yet to take "the big step". But I also agree with what some have said about trust. I would prefer to get to know him, and for him to know me. If it looked like things would be right, then "the big step" could be taken. Having said that, sometimes the anticipation in my thinking and in fantasizing is too much. But I'm trying to be patient, and use masterbating as a release.

The first man that I was ever sexually involved with, it took a long time for me to actually have sex with him, because I needed to feel comfortable with being with him. Once I did become comfortable with him, and becoming comfortable with my new found Sexuality, God Almighty, I became a Porn Star in that man's bed.

[sysper]

lol the anticipation get to me sometimes too.......
I also have yet to take "the big step". But I also agree with what some have said about trust. I would prefer to get to know him, and for him to know me. If it looked like things would be right, then "the big step" could be taken. Having said that, sometimes the anticipation in my thinking and in fantasizing is too much. But I'm trying to be patient, and use masterbating as a release.

[sysper]

i hope to get to that state sexually. even if it's without the same sex.
The first man that I was ever sexually involved with, it took a long time for me to actually have sex with him, because I needed to feel comfortable with being with him. Once I did become comfortable with him, and becoming comfortable with my new found Sexuality, God Almighty, I became a Porn Star in that man's bed.

[csreef]

i hope to get to that state sexually. even if it's without the same sex.

Don't worry, you will . . .:bibounce:

[delpark]

What was it that convinced you to take the big step and actually explore another man sexually not just fantasizing about doing it?

The opportunity presented itself the first time, I was asked. I enjoy it so much I have come to prefer it.

[Jimmy Splash]

There is a steam house/room/sauna place about 40 miles away which I'm trying to summon up the courage to go to. I'd probably start off in the swimming pool, then sauna and if something 'comes' of it then probably go for the glory hole room which they have! That's a way into opening up my experience I guess

[csreef]

There is a steam house/room/sauna place about 40 miles away which I'm trying to summon up the courage to go to. I'd probably start off in the swimming pool, then sauna and if something 'comes' of it then probably go for the glory hole room which they have! That's a way into opening up my experience I guess

Ahhh , please be careful, as you may get an early Christmas Gift that may not go away. . . i.e. a Sexually Transmitted Disease.

[querty]

All of the posts below touch on where I was or how I was at some point in my journey to "the big step". I actually had never met the guy (Chris) I took the step with before that night. I was however with a dear dear friend and swing partner. She and I had talked about my desires and fantasies alot before that night. She was dating Chris at the time. We all got together one night and talked over drinks about his experiences. He was very laid back and I felt no pressure what so ever. I vividly remember the moment where I decided to go for it. I asked him to lay on his back, I moved up and slide his cock into my mouth. It was exactly what i thought it would be like, yet nothing like what I thought it would be like (if that makes any sense). I was instantly comfortable with what was happening. The next morning, I felt no regret what so ever, only excitement that I was on my way, knowing that though I still had more to learn and more to figure out, there was much more in my future. It was a great first step experience.

My advice to all who have yet to get there is simply to be comfortable with the person and the situation, whatever dynamic that is for you.

[sysper]

u were lucky to be friends with someone who knew someone who would be great for ur 1st experiance. u were also lucky to have a friend who was so supportive. i'm glad u had a good 1st experiance & discovered something new u enjoy. i wish such a good eyeopening experiance for me & everyone else on this, sometimes exciting sometimes confusing journey.
All of the posts below touch on where I was or how I was at some point in my journey to "the big step". I actually had never met the guy (Chris) I took the step with before that night. I was however with a dear dear friend and swing partner. She and I had talked about my desires and fantasies alot before that night. She was dating Chris at the time. We all got together one night and talked over drinks about his experiences. He was very laid back and I felt no pressure what so ever. I vividly remember the moment where I decided to go for it. I asked him to lay on his back, I moved up and slide his cock into my mouth. It was exactly what i thought it would be like, yet nothing like what I thought it would be like (if that makes any sense). I was instantly comfortable with what was happening. The next morning, I felt no regret what so ever, only excitement that I was on my way, knowing that though I still had more to learn and more to figure out, there was much more in my future. It was a great first step experience.

My advice to all who have yet to get there is simply to be comfortable with the person and the situation, whatever dynamic that is for you.

[csreef]

All of the posts below touch on where I was or how I was at some point in my journey to "the big step". I actually had never met the guy (Chris) I took the step with before that night. I was however with a dear dear friend and swing partner. She and I had talked about my desires and fantasies alot before that night. She was dating Chris at the time. We all got together one night and talked over drinks about his experiences. He was very laid back and I felt no pressure what so ever. I vividly remember the moment where I decided to go for it. I asked him to lay on his back, I moved up and slide his cock into my mouth. It was exactly what i thought it would be like, yet nothing like what I thought it would be like (if that makes any sense). I was instantly comfortable with what was happening. The next morning, I felt no regret what so ever, only excitement that I was on my way, knowing that though I still had more to learn and more to figure out, there was much more in my future. It was a great first step experience.

My advice to all who have yet to get there is simply to be comfortable with the person and the situation, whatever dynamic that is for you. This sounds very similar to what happened with me...

[OlderBC1]

I have only memories at this point. But...three weeks ago tomorrow, I got my new left hip. wow, does that feel and work better. I should be able to walk well, maybe even without a cane, at my #2 son's wedding this July. Physical therapy at home through next week is helping. Can't wait to be able to fuck again. Love to fuck my wife's pretty lil pussy and that pretty ass again. But it'd be nice if one of you buds could let me suck you hard so you could fuck me in the ass while I fuck that curvy ass of hers. After talking with you guys, I'd feel a bit more comfortable with one of you in a threesome. Now if she'd just go back in time a bit to where she liked two guys...and promised me another girl. Still waiting for that.
I always seemed to feel like a hard dick in my mouth was so natural. Just because I'm a man, not gay or bi. Like a popsicle on a hot day when we were kids. I really wanna suck off a handsome hard, wet dick again. After getting a deep, thoughtful ass fucking. Just fuck me like you really want me to feel good. Then pull out, rip off the rubber and cum all over my lips and in my mouth. Then all three of us kiss and share some thick, warm cum. If it ever eventually happens, even between two of us...I hope you like an uncut moaner.
Anyway, The first time I got a finger tickling my asshole, my dick jumped up hard in a second flat! Another second or two, and it was dripping. I never thought a guy could make my 13 year-old dick do that so fast? I could've spent at least an hour fucking his curvy little ass easy. He liked us watching each other jack off naked. He had a nice size dick too... too bad he didn't wanna suck it. Even then, it was a thick 5" plus. Then, while in the hospital a couple weeks ago, I got bored and took a few pics with my phone in the recliner next to the bed. 4620146202
Excuse the blurry stuff. Hard to take a pic at that angle with a Galaxy J3 when you can't see what angle real well. Weight slowly going down now that I can move around, quit smoking and hard liquor.