Kissing in a nightclub

[Cathy]

hello everyone, question: what do you do when your best friend turns around in the heat of the moment in a night club and kisses you on the lips? Then says the next day she had a few drinks and it was a mistake? She wants to dance every week, and usually we go, and she pushes into me, dancing, likes when I hold her. Someone actually asked me how long we'd been together. I was shocked by the question. Is that how it looked I wonder? She laughs and turns to the guy and says "1 year".

Same friend, different scenario: 2 weeks ago:
She has a dinner party, invites boyfriend, my husband, several friends. I leave the table, go in the kitchen to help her serve dinner and she gives me a hug that goes on far too long. She's just holding me, rocking me, then laughs nervously and pulls away. I stand there, heart racing, and almost drop the casserole dish. She walks back in the room like everything is normal. I hate this crazy behavior. Is she bi or what??

[innaminka]

Things that happen at nightclubs - music, euphoria, booze, funny smoke, wafting hormones etc, etc. Probably doesn't count.
We've all done mad things at nightclubs.

As to the dinner party - sounds more like lonliness to me. I think she may need a good friend.

For the moment, my :2cents: would be to just stay a friend. Don't jump to conclusions.

[cchalmer]

In your second scenario you don't mention whether there was alcohol involved or not. If there was there are two ways to look at it.

The first involves "in vino veritas"....which loosely translates to truth with alcohol. She could be bi and either not really know or hasn't dealt with it yet. I know it's frustrating but if you try to "push" her it may damage your friendship if she's not ready to deal with it yet.

The second way is that this woman just can't handle her booze. I've known many people over the years that as soon as they get a couple of drinks into them they are all touchy feely but when they are sober wouldn't dream of it.

I know this doesn't really answer your question but then again she is the only one that can really answer it. But if you find yourself being dragged off to bed...I would say the answer is yes!!! LOL

:2cents:

[csrakate]

LOL CC..a woman who can't handle her booze..so very true....LOL
but I will tell you this...I can handle mine LOL...oh wait a minute..maybe not...no yes..I can.... ohhhh never mind!!!

[johnnie2]

My wife claims she's not bi at all but, when she's out clubbing, she acts the same way as your friend. She said she just likes to do that to tease the guys who watch them dance. But her and her girlfriends are all over each other out there on the dance floor big time.. She's said it's a big turn on to do that but, she would never do anything with another women.. So she says..

As for in the kitchen, Was she drinking? Don't know what to say there. My wife had one girlfriend that was very touchy and kinda sounds like your friend. One day when my wife was bringing her friend home the girl was holding her hand and rubbing it with her other hand and my wife told her she's not bi and not into that stuff.. The girl laughed and said she's not either. She said she's Puerto Rican and they are very touchy feely.. They both laughed about it but she never heard from that girl again.. We still don't know what to make of that..

[showmeguy]

LOL CC..a woman who can't handle her booze..so very true....LOL
but I will tell you this...I can handle mine LOL...oh wait a minute..maybe not...no yes..I can.... ohhhh never mind!!!

LOL. Lucid, concise, and to the point.

[codybear3]

Things that happen at nightclubs - music, euphoria, booze, funny smoke, wafting hormones etc, etc. Probably doesn't count.
We've all done mad things at nightclubs.

As to the dinner party - sounds more like lonliness to me. I think she may need a good friend.

For the moment, my :2cents: would be to just stay a friend. Don't jump to conclusions.

...or as innaminka says, she may be lonely and in need of a good friend...

Be there as a friend and do not start thinking or believing that she may have tendencies of being anything except your friend...If in the future things change (and who knows how it will change if it does) then you need to do whatever needs to be done according to the situation you and your friend find yourselves in... :paw: :paw:

[alleycat]

Cathy, is this the same friend that you cuddle with all night that you wrote in your last post? If so, then I would begin to think that she has feelings for you. If you also have feelings towards her and are willing to take a risk, then by all means next time you are cuddling and get the urge to take it further -ask her. That's what I would do. Good luck! Alleycat

[DiamondDog]

I think she's into you but doesn't know how to say it.
Why not just ask her?

[Cathy]

Cathy, is this the same friend that you cuddle with all night that you wrote in your last post? If so, then I would begin to think that she has feelings for you. If you also have feelings towards her and are willing to take a risk, then by all means next time you are cuddling and get the urge to take it further -ask her. That's what I would do. Good luck! Alleycat

Hi, actually it isn't the same friend. But good point-I should have clarified that. Things are very open and relaxed with my "cuddling" friend. She is straight, but likes the closeness of me. I can live happily with that.

[Cathy]

In your second scenario you don't mention whether there was alcohol involved or not. If there was there are two ways to look at it.

The first involves "in vino veritas"....which loosely translates to truth with alcohol. She could be bi and either not really know or hasn't dealt with it yet. I know it's frustrating but if you try to "push" her it may damage your friendship if she's not ready to deal with it yet.

The second way is that this woman just can't handle her booze. I've known many people over the years that as soon as they get a couple of drinks into them they are all touchy feely but when they are sober wouldn't dream of it.

I know this doesn't really answer your question but then again she is the only one that can really answer it. But if you find yourself being dragged off to bed...I would say the answer is yes!!! LOL

:2cents:

Hi, the dinner party situation didn't involve booze actually. Just a glass of wine at most. Well, the point that most have made is that I just need to ask her directly what she wants...this is hard because i truly don't want to hear the answer. It will hurt me too much. Oh well, must ask :(