Another resource for married bisexual men:

[playful808]

I found another resource for married bisexual men:
https://members.how-support.org/

HOW = Husbands Out to Wives

“an international on-line support group for gay and bisexual men who are married to women and are out to (or working toward coming out to) our wives.”

Discussion forum only, not for pickups or sexy pics or hot stories. The tone is often supportive and somewhat sober, as some of the guys are having a hard time and need support. Guys feel safe being honest there, much like the old shybi-guys.com


Can anyone recommend other discussion forums welcoming to bi guys?

[CurEUs_Male]

@playful808, I am on several support groups... HOW being one of them. Perhaps we should try our next gathering at your home state?

It greatly depends on what you are looking for, and as you note HOW is not about hookups, pics, and such. It is a support environment for Out men, or those that are planning on being out.

MMOMW = Making Mixed Orientation Marriages Work is another resource for those of us in such marriages. This is not bi specific, nor specific to non-straight spouses. There are also some straight spouses on that group looking to make things work. https://mmomw.groups.io/g/main

HUGS = Hope, Understanding, Growth and Support - this is for couples, both have to join. Again it is for those in MOM's looking to work toward continuing as a couple, and of course being open to each other about such things. https://groups.io/g/HUGS3

Bi specific is a challenge, and often depends on where you are.

If you are near DC - CenterBi+, a meetup.com group, is a great choice. Socials, Discussions,...

Bay area? Look up BABN Bay Area Bisexual Network. They have a presence on an old email server, and it's pretty quiet, but check out Meetup... In fact there was a recent San Francisco Bi Conference (SFBiCon).

I actually compiled a long list or resources for Bisexuals from my travels over the years, and shared it on a couple of the above boards. I share that here now for those looking for something a little more support focused:


Social activities
https://meetup.com, great to find some local people for both social and community support via discussion groups. Bi groups are hard to find, depending greatly on which area one lives in. DC Area? CenterBi+ is a great example.
HOW ( https://members.how-support.org/ ) is a good online support option with some social events, again depending on where you are.
SF Bay area, https://www.bayareabisexualnetwork.org/
New York Area Bisexual Network (NYABN) A great place to learn about New York City's vibrant bisexual community. The New York Area Bisexual Network keeps an updated calendar of local groups, meetings and events.
Bisexual Resource Center The homepage of Boston's pioneering Bisexual Resource Center. Boasts very extensive listings of Bi-related web sites.
Bisexual.org / bi.org The online presence of the late Dr. Fritz Klein's Bisexual Foundation. Bisexual.org aims to be "your Internet guide for everything Bisexual."
http://www.americaninstituteofbisexuality.org/ which includes bi.org and other materials
http://biresource.org/
Facebook, if willing to deal with privacy and security ... https://www.facebook.com/BiBloggingCentral is one group, likely more...
Podcasts, because these are my favorite form of intake
https://thebicast.org/category/podcast/ been pretty quite, but older episodes are available
https://www.comingoutpod.com/ not bi specific, one of the hosts is, and they cycle through some interesting celebrities
https://anchor.fm/hellogoodbis This is a new one, they are a little younger...
https://ourlgbtstories.com/ Mostly LG, but they did some Bi specific focus around Bisexuality day
https://joy.org.au/triplebipass/ Bi's from the land down-under, they have a regular radio show! Music and discussions, and cool accents
https://twobiguys.com/ - could be my new Bi Podcast Hero's! One was Bi in a straight looking marraige, one was gay identified... both are now bi identified and I love this show.

Books and reading (I have not read them all... yet) , some of the online writings have fallen off over the years, but remain online without updates

https://happybisexual.com/

http://www.lgbtmap.org/file/A%20Closer%20Look%20Bisexual%20Older%20Adults%20FI NAL.pdf

https://www.bimedia.org/

http://www.markbentleycohen.com/ Mark wrote the book
Confessions of a Bisexual Husband ... https://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Bisexual-Husband-Bentley-Cohen-ebook/dp/B00GWWOF4M

What is Bisexuality? Who is Bisexual? A quickstart, "Cliff Notes" primer on what bisexuality is.

Bisexual Resource Guide (4th Edition) edited by Robyn Ochs (2001) An incredibly comprehensive listing of bi resources, including an international directory of bisexual and bi-inclusive groups. This is an essential guide for plugging in to the bi community.

The Bisexual Option (2nd Edition by Fritz Klein, MD (1993)This landmark book is a good place to start reading about Bisexuality; The author was a pioneering leader in the Bi community.

The Bisexual's Guide to the Universe: Quips, Tips, And Lists for Those Who Go Both Ways by Nicole Kristal and Mike Szymanski (2006)

Bi America: Myths, Truths, And Struggles Of An Invisible Community by William E. Burleson (2005)
Is there a bisexual community? What are commonalities and differences between the experiences of bi men and bi women? What is the special relationship between the bisexual and the transgender communities? Burleson answers difficult questions like these with great insight.

Getting Bi: Voices of Bisexuals Around the World edited by Robyn Ochs and Sarah Rowley (2005)

Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way edited by Ron Jackson Suresha and Pete Chvany (2005)

Blessed Bi Spirit: Bisexual People of Spirit edited by Debra R. Kolodny (2000) Bisexual people speak for themselves about their spiritual inheritance.

Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life by Marjorie Garber (2000) An interesting analysis of bisexuality from psychological, historical, literary, and pop culture perspectives.

Bi Lives: Bisexual Women Tell Their Stories edited by by Kata Orndorff (1999)

Bisexuality: The Psychology and Politics of an Invisible Minority edited by Beth A. Firestein (1996) A collection of essays by scholars and researchers comprehensively reviewing political and psychological aspects of bisexuality. A more academic approach than the above titles.

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out edited by Lorraine Hutchins & Lani Kaahumanu (1991) Groundbreaking collection of 75 essays and autobiographical narratives by Bi-identified people from across the United States.

https://sexedforbiguys.tumblr.com/tagged/sex-ed-for-bi-guys

Might also be worth checking out ...
https://bisexual-books.tumblr.com/

Reddit.com is a newly growing social media that looks like old systems from the early 90's. Each topic or 'subreddit' has a /r prefix (reddit) and users have /u. Some of the members are younger, others are middle aged and trying to figure things out, much as we are, later in life.
https://www.reddit.com/r/MarriedAndBi/
https://www.reddit.com/r/accidentalbisexual/
https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/
https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexualadults/
https://www.reddit.com/r/BisexualMen/

[zbi73]

I still miss Shy Bi Guys :(

[csreef]

I know this may be off topic, but if you have an LGBTQ Center in your area, and they have Bisexual support group, the facilitator of the group may also have local support for you.

[DD788Snipe]

I still miss Shy Bi Guys :(

Me too but I've found another forum that's kinda like it that I've been hanging around at. I've made a few friends and enjoyed reading a lot of the post. It's a huge forum and it takes some time to navigate and find the bisexual and gay sections of the forums but it's been worth it. www.hipforums.com

[cbb83]

I know this may be off topic, but if you have an LGBTQ Center in your area, and they have Bisexual support group, the facilitator of the group may also have local support for you.

Avoid that if you're in the USA. Most the lgb+ centers here only care about homosexuality and gender dysphoria and honestly look down on and snub bisexuals, especially bisexual males. They also typically push a very polarized political agenda and consider you human filth if you're of a different mind. The whole LGB+ scene here (California) has become a politicized mess looking only for press coverage.

My advice is just make good friends you can talk to about anything and avoid those damned incestuous pits of shrewery.