Ok. Where do I belong?

[CuteDomLithonia]

Hello everyone! Newbie here and I have a question to put out there.

I'm a female. I take on a dominant or masculine role in bed. (Strap on, etc)--I'm mostly placed in the butch/femme community to be with other lesbians, etc. I USED to be in a hetero marriage--(have two teenagers!)--hated it! (But to add--my hetero husband was open to anal sex with him--he just wouldn't agree to add a woman to it!--Oy!) My lesbian femme "wifey" didn't want to add a guy to us, either! Another girl she'd agree--but I wanted a guy! Now, I hate being in a relationship with JUST a female too!

I want a guy--(Versatile btm..I can do it all, he can get it all etc!), and a female--(same instance). All of us together! So, am I bisexual? Where do I belong? Do you know any other dom indentifed females that want a MFF relationship--or am I the only species of this you know of? :eek:

Help. and thanks!

[shameless agitator]

Sound pretty normal to me Dom.

[Tynary]

Darling you sound wonderful. A dominant, kinda masculine bisexual sounds heaven to me. If you crave women when you're with just a man and you crave men when you are just with women then it is my opinion that you are a bisexual (I may be incorrect) because I went through that going bk and forth stage a while back.
If you are dom would you like to be with a femme bi and gay woman/bi or st8t male/a male and a female.

You sound not normal to me I would say superior to normal. You sound like a wonderful and exciting induvidual who should embrace what they are. cas I think you sound great!

[anne27]

Mmm, I'd agree with Tynary. A Dom who likes strapons and guys...yummy :tong: .

I think being normal is highly over rated. You sound incredibly interesting. That beats 'normal' any day!

Welcome to the board!

[CuteDomLithonia]

Thanks guys! :bigrin: I feel way more confident in finding the 2 that will make this happen!

I love submissive males! It's just something more intriguing to me about a bi-threesome than a hetero-threesome! Been in one of those. BORING! I got behind the straight guy and he jumped 20 feet into the air! :eek: "You're not supposed to go back there--he said!"..I said "Why not?" :tong:

I would love it were anything goes! Everyone free to touch, kiss or whatever/wherever! I guess I am a bi, dom female! :cool:

Hmm..next step? Well, I dunno actually. Guess I'll parlee the guy's clubs. :cool:

[little clown]

Welcome to this site CuteDomLithonia!

I don't know if you're bi - that's up to you to decide - but I do know that you seem completely normal to me! :)

I hope you'll find a fun guy and gal and that the three of you will have a lot of strap-on fun together!

Take care,
Dani

[DiamondDog]

you sound fine to me.
I personally want to be the 3rd in a m/f or m/m relationship.

[happyjoe68]

... If you crave women when you're with just a man and you crave men when you are just with women then it is my opinion that you are a bisexual (I may be incorrect) because I went through that going bk and forth stage a while back ... You sound not normal to me I would say superior to normal. You sound like a wonderful and exciting induvidual who should embrace what they are. cas I think you sound great!

I would agree with this sentiment too. I know that just one (m or f) would never be enough, I would always want the "other" as well ...

For me, bisexuality is not just about physical contact. I feel emotionally androgynous, seeing both sides of me and wanting to seek out others. I feel I'm halfway there, having met someone special.

[Tynary]

I think that when I'm older it wud be bliss to be in a relationship with a man and a woman. perhaps that is something u should consider doing. :bigrin:

[happyjoe68]

I think that when I'm older it wud be bliss to be in a relationship with a man and a woman. perhaps that is something u should consider doing. :bigrin:

Double the trouble or twice as nice?

To quote a famous playwright, "ay, there's the rub"

[julie]

Double the trouble or twice as nice?

To quote a famous playwright, "ay, there's the rub"

giggles.... see, thats why i am so fond of you sweet happyjoe!
:tongue: xxxx

[happyjoe68]

giggles.... see, thats why i am so fond of you sweet happyjoe!
:tongue: xxxx

and I am fond of you too :tong:

[open2both]

You're fine!
C'mon out to California. We have a lot of just what you're looking for and we could always use one more!
:bipride:

[mistymockingbird]

What is normal anyway? Who gets to write that description in the dictionary? If you're looking for a label to attach to, try polyamorous. There's a lot of information on the poly lifestyle out there. Read up and see if it resonates with you. It may and it may not. Regardless, you sound fine to me. More than fine, because you know what you want.

[FalconAngel]

You are, without a doubt, Bi and you seem to know what you want and are comfortable enough with it to be honest about it. It sounds as if there may also be a polyamorous side to you as well. Perhaps looking for other Bi Poly folks might help you in your situation.
It might or might not do any good, but it is an avenue to explore and may turn out to be something wonderful for you and any prospective partners you will find there.

[coyotedude]

I think being normal is highly over rated.

I think that should be the quote of the week!

If you aren't satisfied with one gender, and really want both genders, then I think you have answered your own question. I'm just a guy, but I suspect you've got lots of company.... And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Peace

[suegeorge]

Well, you certainly belong here....
And you should certainly be able to get friends too through BDSM and Poly sites too. On the other hand, perhaps the "straight" lesbian scene is not the place for you!

Bisexuality and beyond (http://suegeorgewrites.blogspot.com)

[Lyon1369]

CDL,
Have you tried your local BDSM community? I am a member of the Denver area community and your dynamic sounds like some Dom ladies I know.
Yes you are a Bisexual, and it sounds like a Top Dom as well. If your ever in Denver, Look me up and I will introduce you around.
Best wishes,
Bi4now
Lyon :bibounce:

[Avocado]

am I bisexual?

Yes. :)