Living in two worlds...

[John67]

I am stuck living in two worlds. Two this day I have been hiding my preferences for both men & transgendered people along with women.

How do you begin to be honest enough to find what your actually looking for, the thing that will make you truly happy and satisfied with your life?

Any suggestions or comments would be greatly appreciated. :2cents:

[Lorcan]

How do you begin to be honest enough to find what your actually looking for, the thing that will make you truly happy and satisfied with your life?

Slowly. That's how. I didn't tell anyone for about a dozen years after i knew. Just coming here and admitting it is a first step.

I think you should first figure out what thing will make you truly happy.... it's different all of us.

I would suggest posting ads to all the bi-friendly dating sites. That way you can be honest up front, and you don't have to deal with rejection when you tell them because they already know what you want cuz you wrote it in your profile.

[Herbwoman39]

One day at a time, sweetie. That's how many of us do it. If you just throw yourself out there in traffic, you're gonna get hit by a Mack truck.

I read. I read everything I could get my hands on. Then I took what felt right to me from my reading and made it mine. I've got 7 books on different aspects of bisexuality sitting on my shelf. My copy of "Bi Any Other Name" is on loan to my best friend's 16 year old daughter who has identified as Bi for about 6 months now.

Just take your time. Find out what feels right to you. Ask questions. There are plenty of us here who are more than happy to answer and share our experiences.

Take care.

[codybear3]

...a journey of a thousand miles begins but with one single step...And so it shall be so with you to, John...Your key word is in your thread...If you give yourself enough of it, things will begin to fall into place...

Each person is different and so each suggestion or comment will be different...Hopefully, you will find what you are looking for... :paw: :paw:

[Tynary]

My approach was when I stopped trying to look for what I thought I wanted I force myself and kid myself it got easy. I just relaxed sat back and waited for some hot person to catch my intrest. they did both men and women and I acknowledged my feelings, excepted them and got on with life. I still have issues but my issues and me like each other, we're geting along great. stop trying and just chilax. ;)

[Doggie_Wood]

As far as my immediate family is concerned, I don't discuss my sexuality. As far as I am concerned - I am not really looking for a mate or life partner at this point of my life. I have other, more pressing and far more important agendas on my table to deal with.
If, during my travels, I happen to meet new friends or meet up with other I know, and sexual encounters are enjoyed - then it is real good.

But later in life when I am ready for a significant other in my life - again I will not be looking for that person - our meeting will be by chance, but we shall meet. As fate will have it's way.
:doggie:

[John67]

I certainly appreciate the kind words of those who have taken the time to answer.

While I am not gainfully seeking anyone I find it hard to find someone who will accept this side of me. This makes it very confusing.