Finally Came Out to Wife

[Grant_Norman]

Well I finally did it! Came out to my wife. I had come out to my kids a few months back and they were cool, but I have hit my daughter with a lot of oversex talk and pictures but she is cool with it. However, this weekend I outed myself to my ultra conservative Trumpster antivax wife. Safe from her reach in Ecuador I outed myself via emai. Ecuador won't let antivax into country.

I was probably a bit to graphic with her but I wanted to make sure she understood I was truly bi. Not just a few random cocks over the years, but well over 100+ and 200+ loads of cum swallowed.

She probably won't be able to handle it and divorce me because I made it very clear if I do come home I will be bisexual and having men over for sex.

Side note: Thought I'd celebrate with some nice cock to suck, but here in Ecuador it is not that common to find. So another first yesterday was at 72 I had my first ever prostitute. She was a sweet 20 something and I truly enjoyed eating her pussy and sucking her tits. Been over 10 years since my wife put out so it was super nice. I'll do her again Thursday. I've also talked a lot about sex and being bi with cab driver ( he set me up with girl) and the young hotel manager who said the working girls are quite common here could help find more pretty ones. Though I have offered them blow jobs the culture here is plenty of working girl sex but not really into MM sex. I figured I'd try to take it slow with them and see if I could work up to blow jobs. I was just going to ask them to masturbate alone but catch their cum in a cup for ne. I would still have cum to drink down and they won't be "gay" threatened. After a few times I will ask them to no contact watch and work up to them just shooting their load into my mouth. Again no contact. After several times watching I'll ask to put my mouth on the head when they cum. Before you know it I'll have worked up to giving them blowjobs.

Again, thankfull I'm not gay and now have sweet young pussy to fall back on. Did tell her I'd like to eat some cum out of her so hopefully she'll have recently fucked when I see her next. Was so nice to bury my face in her pussy after 10 years+ of nothing from my wife. Only thing that could made it better would be her showing up with cum dripping out of her.

I wasted a bunch of money buying a car for my wife that she just lets sit in garage...over 15 years now.. For same money I could eat this young girl's nice pussy 90,000 times. What a waste.

[GayGuy04]

Well that's gotta be a relief for you but maybe not for her but it's whatever makes you feel comfortable about yourself

[marine20]

you will have to give us some future reports on how everything is going. i was about 68 when i came out to my wife , but luckily she was ok with it.

[Grant_Norman]

For first couple days she emailed me questions and criticisms but now it is silence. OK with me. Probably divorce on horizon but I really don't care.

[Grant_Norman]

For super conservative NPD Trumpster antivaxx homophobic I'm sure it is hard but she's determined to be who she is. After eating pussy again Monday a d really seeing what she has deprived me from for 10 years, I really don't care

[KDaddy23]

The truth is a motherfucker and then some and a truth that a lot of women just can't handle or accept and more so when they're the reason why you have sex with men. They refuse to take any blame in this even though they are intelligent enough to see the role they played in this or, factually, refused to play. I understand them losing their desire for sex but I also understand that many women are of a mind that when they don't want to have sex anymore, the men with them won't want to still have sex... and some of us will take to other men to get it.

[csreef]

Good for you , live your life the way YOU want. I'm glad you are going to get rid of her.

[Grant_Norman]

I can understand that as women age, some just don't want sex. That's fine and I do respect their wishes. But as a loving wife they should also understand that many of us men get even hornier and want sex almost as much as a charged up teenager. So in their denial of sex they should also support the man's desire and agree that he may have sex with other women and/or other men. Sex of several variations is core to who we are and should not be denied. That's my position and I shall for the remainder of my life have sex with men or other women to my satisfaction.

Grant

[Neonaught]

I can understand that as women age, some just don't want sex. That's fine and I do respect their wishes. But as a loving wife they should also understand that many of us men get even hornier and want sex almost as much as a charged up teenager. So in their denial of sex they should also support the man's desire and agree that he may have sex with other women and/or other men. Sex of several variations is core to who we are and should not be denied. That's my position and I shall for the remainder of my life have sex with men or other women to my satisfaction.

Grant

You hit the nail on the head here! To a man, all the regulars I have known over the years have been married men who unilaterally brought their sex lives to an end.

[Neonaught]

You hit the nail on the head here! To a man, all the regulars I have known over the years have been married men who unilaterally brought their sex lives to an end.

That should have read "who's wives have unilaterally brough their sex lives to an end."

[Grant_Norman]

Not trying to justify MM sex, I love it no matter what. I just don't understand the logic of older women who completely shut down, why would they be surprised if their husbands found other women or men? It is really stupid. I'm currently eating pussy and sucking cock as much as I can, and certainly don't plan to stop. Oral is my focus (cock is ED)Sorry I waited so many years to come out.

[RisingBi]

Seriously, I don't know why guys stay in a sexless marriage when they want lots of sex themselves. I know there's lots of complications about divorce, and who am I to say, never having been married. But why go through all the effort, and perhaps moral agonies, to live a hidden life by finding sex outside the home? Just leave the wife, and get the freedom you deserve. Fuck the money! Fuck the other aspects that you like about the marriage! Fuck the bad reputation by divorcing your wife! Fuck hurting people through divorce and breaking up the family! It's way better than hurting people if they found out you're cheating, especially with other guys. Get out of that non-marriage and have all the cock and pussy you want, and then some.

And certainly with you specifically, Grant, it sounds like you're fine if she divorces you. So if she doesn't divorce you, divorce her! Say goodbye to the marriage as quickly as you can! None of us know when we're gonna die. We may die today.

Sorry about the rant! I just keep reading over and over again in forums like this about bisexual guys in sexless marriages. And they stay. And cheat. If they love their wife still, then why risk hurting her, should she find out they're cheating with MEN. It would devastate her and pretty much destroy her life, no?

[Rest85]

Not trying to justify MM sex, I love it no matter what. I just don't understand the logic of older women who completely shut down, why would they be surprised if their husbands found other women or men? It is really stupid. I'm currently eating pussy and sucking cock as much as I can, and certainly don't plan to stop. Oral is my focus (cock is ED)Sorry I waited so many years to come out.

I would love to have a regular pussy to lick along with a regular cock to suck (working on that). I'm curious about if you have a woman from outside the marriage to lick? I have advertised on Doublelist for just that but the only two responses I've gotten have not panned out. Sure wish I could find a nice clean pussy to lick on the regular.

[Sparky]

I don't post much here even though I've been around for a long time. These responses reflect many of the thoughts I have. Been there. In my life, it has been that way for years until last year when my wife granted me a permanent hall pass. Not sure that she realized the complexities of what she was doing, but her decision let a lot of the tension and anger leave me to the point that I haven't even used the hall pass yet. But there's some background. She left her first marriage because her then husband was extremely low libido. Met me and early on swore that if I ever cheated on her it would be over. Then mid-menopause attacked me unprovoked saying we would never have sex again and that I could not get any outside the marriage either or she would divorce me. She knew by that time I had bisexual interests. We had even pegged. After many, many discussions and attempts to work around her issues, we agreed to no sex. But that didn't resolve my issue. One day I explained it to her this way. "It's ironic to think that you left your ex because of no sex and now here we are. You're a carnivore, right?" "Yes." "What would you do if I decided to be a vegetarian and insisted you become one as well, that we could not have meat in the house?" "I would not, could not do that." Then explained that I didn't really like porn, saying "It's like sitting outside a restaurant when the steaks are being cooked and all I can do is smell. Can't eat it. Can't enjoy it." About a week later she came back to me and said she had thought about it, then graciously gave me a hall pass with the understanding that she wasn't leaving me and I wasn't leaving her. We haven't worked out the details, and likely she just doesn't want to know. But I do feel a lot better about it.

Maybe this can give others some way to discuss the end of a sexual relationship with their spouses.

[csreef]

I don't post much here even though I've been around for a long time. These responses reflect many of the thoughts I have. Been there. In my life, it has been that way for years until last year when my wife granted me a permanent hall pass. Not sure that she realized the complexities of what she was doing, but her decision let a lot of the tension and anger leave me to the point that I haven't even used the hall pass yet. But there's some background. She left her first marriage because her then husband was extremely low libido. Met me and early on swore that if I ever cheated on her it would be over. Then mid-menopause attacked me unprovoked saying we would never have sex again and that I could not get any outside the marriage either or she would divorce me. She knew by that time I had bisexual interests. We had even pegged. After many, many discussions and attempts to work around her issues, we agreed to no sex. But that didn't resolve my issue. One day I explained it to her this way. "It's ironic to think that you left your ex because of no sex and now here we are. You're a carnivore, right?" "Yes." "What would you do if I decided to be a vegetarian and insisted you become one as well, that we could not have meat in the house?" "I would not, could not do that." Then explained that I didn't really like porn, saying "It's like sitting outside a restaurant when the steaks are being cooked and all I can do is smell. Can't eat it. Can't enjoy it." About a week later she came back to me and said she had thought about it, then graciously gave me a hall pass with the understanding that she wasn't leaving me and I wasn't leaving her. We haven't worked out the details, and likely she just doesn't want to know. But I do feel a lot better about it.

Maybe this can give others some way to discuss the end of a sexual relationship with their spouses.

Good for you! I hope you find someone nice.

[Long Duck Dong]

I don't post much here even though I've been around for a long time. These responses reflect many of the thoughts I have. Been there. In my life, it has been that way for years until last year when my wife granted me a permanent hall pass. Not sure that she realized the complexities of what she was doing, but her decision let a lot of the tension and anger leave me to the point that I haven't even used the hall pass yet. But there's some background. She left her first marriage because her then husband was extremely low libido. Met me and early on swore that if I ever cheated on her it would be over. Then mid-menopause attacked me unprovoked saying we would never have sex again and that I could not get any outside the marriage either or she would divorce me. She knew by that time I had bisexual interests. We had even pegged. After many, many discussions and attempts to work around her issues, we agreed to no sex. But that didn't resolve my issue. One day I explained it to her this way. "It's ironic to think that you left your ex because of no sex and now here we are. You're a carnivore, right?" "Yes." "What would you do if I decided to be a vegetarian and insisted you become one as well, that we could not have meat in the house?" "I would not, could not do that." Then explained that I didn't really like porn, saying "It's like sitting outside a restaurant when the steaks are being cooked and all I can do is smell. Can't eat it. Can't enjoy it." About a week later she came back to me and said she had thought about it, then graciously gave me a hall pass with the understanding that she wasn't leaving me and I wasn't leaving her. We haven't worked out the details, and likely she just doesn't want to know. But I do feel a lot better about it.

Maybe this can give others some way to discuss the end of a sexual relationship with their spouses.

Love the way you handled the situation and reasoned it out in a way that is hard to disagree with......

And I also respect your wife for listening to you and agreeing to the hall pass......actually sounds to me, like she was frustrated that she lost her own sex drive and interest, because of menopause, and the idea of you getting some and enjoying it, did not sit well with her.........

anyways, you handled it well and I love the NO divorce rule she put in place....lol......

[Grant_Norman]

I don't post much here even though I've been around for a long time. These responses reflect many of the thoughts I have. Been there. In my life, it has been that way for years until last year when my wife granted me a permanent hall pass. Not sure that she realized the complexities of what she was doing, but her decision let a lot of the tension and anger leave me to the point that I haven't even used the hall pass yet. But there's some background. She left her first marriage because her then husband was extremely low libido. Met me and early on swore that if I ever cheated on her it would be over. Then mid-menopause attacked me unprovoked saying we would never have sex again and that I could not get any outside the marriage either or she would divorce me. She knew by that time I had bisexual interests. We had even pegged. After many, many discussions and attempts to work around her issues, we agreed to no sex. But that didn't resolve my issue. One day I explained it to her this way. "It's ironic to think that you left your ex because of no sex and now here we are. You're a carnivore, right?" "Yes." "What would you do if I decided to be a vegetarian and insisted you become one as well, that we could not have meat in the house?" "I would not, could not do that." Then explained that I didn't really like porn, saying "It's like sitting outside a restaurant when the steaks are being cooked and all I can do is smell. Can't eat it. Can't enjoy it." About a week later she came back to me and said she had thought about it, then graciously gave me a hall pass with the understanding that she wasn't leaving me and I wasn't leaving her. We haven't worked out the details, and likely she just doesn't want to know. But I do feel a lot better about it.

Maybe this can give others some way to discuss the end of a sexual relationship with their spouses.


Glad you were able to work out with your wife. Told mine from now on I'm bisexual and truly think she could never accept. I would immediately get smart ass cracks about sucking cocks. No thank you...not something I'm going to be ridiculed for.

Grant

[Grant_Norman]

I would love to have a regular pussy to lick along with a regular cock to suck (working on that). I'm curious about if you have a woman from outside the marriage to lick? I have advertised on Doublelist for just that but the only two responses I've gotten have not panned out. Sure wish I could find a nice clean pussy to lick on the regular.

For 22 years I was faithful and no pussy. On the other hand not faithful when it came to cock, probably well over 100 plus. Still,now that I've resumed eating pussy I found just how much I missed it. First time I ever paid for it, but it is a little different here. Many women sell sex to support their families. My girl has 4 kids and is really a kind person.

Grant

[Sparky]

Love the way you handled the situation and reasoned it out in a way that is hard to disagree with......

And I also respect your wife for listening to you and agreeing to the hall pass......actually sounds to me, like she was frustrated that she lost her own sex drive and interest, because of menopause, and the idea of you getting some and enjoying it, did not sit well with her.........

anyways, you handled it well and I love the NO divorce rule she put in place....lol......

Thanks, guys. Appreciate the support.
LDD, you always have a great introspect and nailed it here. She had been frustrated as it was a pile on of menopause, general loss of interest and lichen sclerosus. there was a lot of anger on both sides, but we hung in there. And CSR, to your point, yes, someone nice that she will eventually get to know.