Vibe from friend

[Tristate275]

My fishing buddy is having marriage problems. We were fishing and he gave a scenario that if we were a couple I wouldn?t treat him the way she does. I?m married and he?s married and I?m not leaving my wife but I was like .. is he telling me something. We text a lot but nothing sexual but we vibe together and since I?ve found my BI side and look at him differently, I would so go there. Im just going to ride the wave of life and see where it goes . Any suggestions would be nice.

[GayGuy04]

Sounds like your friend is giving you hints on being with him just take it slow and see what happens down the road

[DD788Snipe]

My fishing buddy is having marriage problems. We were fishing and he gave a scenario that if we were a couple I wouldn?t treat him the way she does. I?m married and he?s married and I?m not leaving my wife but I was like .. is he telling me something. We text a lot but nothing sexual but we vibe together and since I?ve found my BI side and look at him differently, I would so go there. Im just going to ride the wave of life and see where it goes . Any suggestions would be nice.
Tread lightly. I would bring up different thoughts I guess about sex with your wife. Ask questions about his sex life with the wife then slowly take the subject to bisex and gay sex. Watch his reactions and listen to his thoughts. Like I said Tread lightly. I speak from experience. If you're close friends you don't want to alienate or loose him. Good close Friends are worth their weight in gold and once gone, they're gone for good. But a FWB is very awesome. I've had that only once and it was fantastic while it lasted.

[chtampa]

My fishing buddy is having marriage problems. We were fishing and he gave a scenario that if we were a couple I wouldn?t treat him the way she does. I?m married and he?s married and I?m not leaving my wife but I was like .. is he telling me something. We text a lot but nothing sexual but we vibe together and since I?ve found my BI side and look at him differently, I would so go there. Im just going to ride the wave of life and see where it goes . Any suggestions would be nice.
Tell him you heard about this site and send him here. If he joins then you know he has committed.

[jjourneyman]

Tread lightly. I would bring up different thoughts I guess about sex with your wife. Ask questions about his sex life with the wife then slowly take the subject to bisex and gay sex. Watch his reactions and listen to his thoughts. Like I said Tread lightly. I speak from experience. If you're close friends you don't want to alienate or loose him. Good close Friends are worth their weight in gold and once gone, they're gone for good. But a FWB is very awesome. I've had that only once and it was fantastic while it lasted.

I agree with DD788Snipe... If you guys are really close friends you could be risking a lot by telling him that you're bi and that you find him attractive. I know it's 2023, but not everyone is okay with same sex relations. Plus, the fact that you are both married is another complicating factor. Even if your wife knows and is alright with it, his may not be, and, if she ever found out you two were seeing each other and having sex, it would likely end his marriage and "out" both of you. I think you might be better served putting your thoughts and feelings aside for now. At least until you get a better fix on what's going on in his marriage and his views on bisexuality.

[fredward]

Tell him you're not going to give him a blowjob either (laugh) ... unless he asks nicely (laugh again, he can interpret it how he likes and maybe persevere with that convo).

[DD788Snipe]

Tell him you're not going to give him a blowjob either (laugh) ... unless he asks nicely (laugh again, he can interpret it how he likes and maybe persevere with that convo).

:-)) LMAO

[KDaddy23]

The "if we were a couple" thing would have (a) startled me a bit and (b) had me asking him what he meant and what, if anything, he was suggesting... because I'm just direct like that. Any time a close friends comes up with a "what if" scenario that has someting to do with the two of us, I want to know what's up... because I hate (a) guessing and (b) not knowing what's really going on in his head. I've been in this situation before and I got them to e tell me that, um, if we were to do something, that wouldn't be a bad idea... would it? No, it wouldn't but let's talk some more about this and, from there, see what happens.

The key to this is "knowing" if you can broach the subject with him; is he hinting at something or really saying something about how well the two of you get along and very unlike how he and his wife aren't getting along. I know what I'd do.... but should you ask him what he meant by that and being able to do it without outing yourself unnecessarily? My paternal grandfather used to say, "If you don't ask, you won't know... but if you really don't want to know, don't ask." Flip a coin.

[Pinktoes]

I had a friend who I thought was into Bisex, and one time while we were riding (motorcycles) we stopped for the night at a hotel in Wawa. We had dinner, and a few too many beers. We got back to the hotel room, and I made some wise crack about Harley's falling apart every 300 feet. He laughed and said "Blow me". I replied "Whip it out". He got that look on his face when he is about to dare me to do something, and he pulls his cock out. I just dropped to my knees and blew him.
We were FWB, orally only unfortunately, for over a decade until he passed. That was a pretty obvious hint he gave, but if the hints are anything other than obvious, do not do it!

[KDaddy23]

I had a friend who I thought was into Bisex, and one time while we were riding (motorcycles) we stopped for the night at a hotel in Wawa. We had dinner, and a few too many beers. We got back to the hotel room, and I made some wise crack about Harley's falling apart every 300 feet. He laughed and said "Blow me". I replied "Whip it out". He got that look on his face when he is about to dare me to do something, and he pulls his cock out. I just dropped to my knees and blew him.
We were FWB, orally only unfortunately, for over a decade until he passed. That was a pretty obvious hint he gave, but if the hints are anything other than obvious, do not do it!

Yep - I've been "joking" with a friend and they say, "Blow me!" and I've said, "Okay!" Then it's, "Are you serious?" and me saying, "Are you serious?" and if they are... jackpot! Still, there were and still are guys who'd say something like that I I just know that they're aren't serious; one might say, "Aw, man, fuck you!" and I know it's not a hint or "invitation" and I'll say, "You're not my type!" or "You wish!" and the ribbing continues from there. It's just hard to tell, with some guys, if they're hinting about something or... they're just speaking their mind in some context. It's always better to err on the side of caution but like I said, if you really want to know what he meant by that, ask him.

[Tight1-4u]

I have found that in banter if you really want to know what they are meaning by something they said,, is to put the ball back in their court.. give them an open ended remark that is leading but has inviting innuendo’s.. they then have to choose whether or not to keep going or laugh it off.. you can always be very leading and have the out of laughter to get out of it., if he goes along with it then go with it.. ya never know...

[KDaddy23]

I have found that in banter if you really want to know what they are meaning by something they said,, is to put the ball back in their court.. give them an open ended remark that is leading but has inviting innuendo’s.. they then have to choose whether or not to keep going or laugh it off.. you can always be very leading and have the out of laughter to get out of it., if he goes along with it then go with it.. ya never know...

Spot-on and I've done this very thing myself. If I'm of a mind that I really wanted his dick, oh, boy, I will inuendo him "to death" but, in the OP's situation, if I wanted his dick and he said what he did, sure - I'd want to know what he meant by it and, yeah, if I ask and he asks why I wanted to know, I'd tell him that I simply didn't know what he meant by what he said that day and, well, what did you mean by it? I found it to be interesting and I do like that you feel that way about our friendship - and, I'd think, putting it this way doesn't "out" you. That puts the ball back into his court and now he's either going to explain the statement or... he won't. Or even "play it off" in some way. And, yeah, either the two of them will laugh it off or...