ambi53mm
Nov 12, 2006, 11:04 AM
I belong to one other site besides this one that is a designated swinger site and have been a member now for about three years. My wife and I used it for two years because we wanted to experience first hand the “swinger lifestyle” in an effort to broaden our sexual horizons. We were listed as a couple and by the negative experiences of all talk but no walk on a previous site we chose to list our selves as male:straight and female:bi. We met many couples and enjoyed many experiences and I’d say perhaps 90% of the couples listed the females as bi and the males always straight.
When we had pretty much experienced everything we wanted to experience we decided to change our status to male:bi-curious and female:bisexual. Needless to say the invitations declined sharply but a few still came through on rare occasions usually by those that designated the male: * (meaning no preference) and the female bisexual.
Towards the very end of our time as a couple exploring, we finally listed ourselves as Male:bisexual and Female:bisexual. All invitations ceased. It goes without saying that bimales are discriminated against on this particular site if they are coupled.
The interesting part of this saga is that when I joined Bisexual.com we decided to end our
Couples profile and that I would simply list myself as a singe bimale with the hope of meeting another bimale local to my area. I changed the name to the one I currently use on here. I probably receive close to 10 invitations per week (many repeats) that list themselves as straight on their couples profiles. The majority want to meet on the sly and profess that they are really bisexual but their wives would never understand, others don’t want to risk their swinging lifestyle status by inviting the discrimination that bimales seem to endure on this particular site. I refer many to this site and know first hand quite a few as a result. I find the phenomena of married closeted bimales interesting and wonder just how many of us are out there (as I once was) living a life of secrecy so deep that not even those they should be able to be totally truthful with are able to share their innermost desires. I’m beginning to believe that Bisexuality just may be the most well kept secret out there. My curiosity is twofold One: How many males or females need to keep (or know of someone that does) their desires for bisex from their significant others? Two: How many of us are approached by other bisexuals where the desire to explore is there, but the need for secrecy is a prerequisite for one reason or another? I still fall into the latter outside of this board and doubt that will ever change until I'm retired and no longer need to earn a living. It sucks I know but then so do I on occasion :bigrin:
Ambi :)
When we had pretty much experienced everything we wanted to experience we decided to change our status to male:bi-curious and female:bisexual. Needless to say the invitations declined sharply but a few still came through on rare occasions usually by those that designated the male: * (meaning no preference) and the female bisexual.
Towards the very end of our time as a couple exploring, we finally listed ourselves as Male:bisexual and Female:bisexual. All invitations ceased. It goes without saying that bimales are discriminated against on this particular site if they are coupled.
The interesting part of this saga is that when I joined Bisexual.com we decided to end our
Couples profile and that I would simply list myself as a singe bimale with the hope of meeting another bimale local to my area. I changed the name to the one I currently use on here. I probably receive close to 10 invitations per week (many repeats) that list themselves as straight on their couples profiles. The majority want to meet on the sly and profess that they are really bisexual but their wives would never understand, others don’t want to risk their swinging lifestyle status by inviting the discrimination that bimales seem to endure on this particular site. I refer many to this site and know first hand quite a few as a result. I find the phenomena of married closeted bimales interesting and wonder just how many of us are out there (as I once was) living a life of secrecy so deep that not even those they should be able to be totally truthful with are able to share their innermost desires. I’m beginning to believe that Bisexuality just may be the most well kept secret out there. My curiosity is twofold One: How many males or females need to keep (or know of someone that does) their desires for bisex from their significant others? Two: How many of us are approached by other bisexuals where the desire to explore is there, but the need for secrecy is a prerequisite for one reason or another? I still fall into the latter outside of this board and doubt that will ever change until I'm retired and no longer need to earn a living. It sucks I know but then so do I on occasion :bigrin:
Ambi :)