it took a lose to give me a hard wake up call

[gina42]

This is very hard for me to write... :(
i can not stress enought the importance of a will ~
to let family members know what your wishes are and also to have a life insurance policy as well.....
On monday nov.6th,2006,my youngest sister took her own life,i still have 5 other siblings and i had a brother take the right away from us other 5 to say good bye to her b4 he had he cremated and told us what would be done ..the bottom line is because there was no will,myself and my 4 other siblings went to see a lawyer on fri morring to fight to get her ashes so we could have some kind of clouser.
Roseann was the youngest of 7 children, and never got over our parents passing and had long wished to be with them and i have come to some clouser know that she is now with them...she was only 27.
We have a small part of Roseann,she left us two beautiful nephews 7 and 2 and there father and my brothers and sisters will keep her memory alive in them...

I'm not lookinmg for anyone to feel sad for me and like i said this hard for me ive been wanting to write something and both mihh and i have started healing from this....
BUT PLEASE..i dont want what i had to go threw fighting for my sisters remains to happen to any of my friends....plz...do a will with your wishes and get a life insurence policy....
Thankyou for listening to me ramble on...hugs to all our friends


:angel: sleep with the angles baby sister,i'll always miss you :angel:

[LoveLion]

My god. I am so sorry for you loss. I dont really know what to say, but you have my condolences.

[littlerayofsunshine]

You are an amazing woman Gina. My heart goes out to you and your loved ones. ((((((hugs)))))).

[gina42]

My god. I am so sorry for you loss. I dont really know what to say, but you have my condolences.


There really is no easy words and i am hoping bye this tread that my friends will know the importance of a will being in place because no one should have to fight for a loved ones remains ........
i never want to see friends hurting the way i had this week and still am alittle each day is getting easier...

[Mrs.F]

Oh Sweetie....Gina, I'm so very sorry for your loss!

I totally understand your pain right now. Losing my dad to a tragic accident was horrible, watching him fight for his life in a induced coma and having no idea what he was feeling and finally having to shut life support off......SO HARD!

You are right when you say that there are NO WORDS to explain how you feel. It's an emptiness, a hole, like part of you is gone, like you can't get your head on straight. Somedays it's as if everything is normal and fine and then BOOM, it hits you that things are not normal and never will be again! :(

Myself and Flounder are very guilty of not having a WILL in place. Have thought about it many times and just keep putting it off. It know it's so important and we need to do it NOW! Before we had our son it wasn't that big of a deal but it is now. However, we both have life insurance so that's not a problem.

I'm sending HUGS your way...for you and for MIHH...Please take care! :grouphug:

[csrakate]

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Gina! I know this is a terrible time for you and bless you for wanting to inform others through your own personal pain!

Take care and know that you and MIHH are loved!

Hugs,
Kate

[Mrs.F]

This is very hard for me to write... :(
i can not stress enought the importance of a will ~
to let family members know what your wishes are and also to have a life insurance policy as well.....
On monday nov.6th,2006,my youngest sister took her own life,i still have 5 other siblings and i had a brother take the right away from us other 5 to say good bye to her b4 he had he cremated and told us what would be done ..the bottom line is because there was no will,myself and my 4 other siblings went to see a lawyer on fri morring to fight to get her ashes so we could have some kind of clouser.
Roseann was the youngest of 7 children, and never got over our parents passing and had long wished to be with them and i have come to some clouser know that she is now with them...she was only 27.
We have a small part of Roseann,she left us two beautiful nephews 7 and 2 and there father and my brothers and sisters will keep her memory alive in them...

I'm not lookinmg for anyone to feel sad for me and like i said this hard for me ive been wanting to write something and both mihh and i have started healing from this....
BUT PLEASE..i dont want what i had to go threw fighting for my sisters remains to happen to any of my friends....plz...do a will with your wishes and get a life insurence policy....
Thankyou for listening to me ramble on...hugs to all our friends


:angel: sleep with the angles baby sister,i'll always miss you :angel:


As I read this again it just infuriated me to no end. WHY would your one brother feel the need to just take over and not let the rest of you have closure? Who cares if there was not a will, you all as a family have a right to everything and anything decided. At a time like this is when family should be coming together. I see her husband and is still alive so where was his voice in all this? I am so sorry Gina....Time does heal all wounds...some just take alot longer to heal. Thank you again for stressing the point of a will...it is very important. :(

[arana]

Gina, it's just like you to think of others during your time of grieving. It's very true that a will makes things so much easier for those left behind as far as what you want to be done. Especially when there are children involved (mrs f & flounder lol). I've seen a lot of ugliness after several family members have died and there is no excuse for it. I'm glad in the end your family got to give Rose a civil and loving goodbye, Gina.

BTW: Gina didn't mention this, but she was in a nice little car accident several hours before she got the news of her sister as well as dealing with some health issues of her own so this woman is truely a strong and amazing idividual. You know we're here when you need us Gina! :grouphug:

[chook]

Hi Gina, We just want you to know that our prayers and thoughts are with you and MIHH. If at any time you feel that you would like to talk to anyone please remember that we are here for you and MIHH. With sincere smypathy

Chook & Aussie Blonde

[curious married m]

Gina, Just know that thoughts and prayers of friends and family will ease the sense of loss your feeling. Add me to that list of folks that are keeping you in their prayers. CMM

[gina42]

As I read this again it just infuriated me to no end. WHY would your one brother feel the need to just take over and not let the rest of you have closure? Who cares if there was not a will, you all as a family have a right to everything and anything decided. At a time like this is when family should be coming together. I see her husband and is still alive so where was his voice in all this? I am so sorry Gina....Time does heal all wounds...some just take alot longer to heal. Thank you again for stressing the point of a will...it is very important. :(


Mrs F....
my sister was divorced but they loved each other still very much and he was with us and even helped us with getting her remains..
As far as my one brother is concerned he has to live with himself....



thank you to all for your support but plz get your will done....
hugs gina

[gina42]

Gina, it's just like you to think of others during your time of grieving. It's very true that a will makes things so much easier for those left behind as far as what you want to be done. Especially when there are children involved (mrs f & flounder lol). I've seen a lot of ugliness after several family members have died and there is no excuse for it. I'm glad in the end your family got to give Rose a civil and loving goodbye, Gina.

BTW: Gina didn't mention this, but she was in a nice little car accident several hours before she got the news of her sister as well as dealing with some health issues of her own so this woman is truely a strong and amazing idividual. You know we're here when you need us Gina! :grouphug:



Shhhhhhhhh.Sis! i can only do 1 thing at a time :) :grouphug:
love you sisxx

[holybane]

Oh gina! I don't know what to say but... *HUUUG!* We all love you!


Roger

[Bi_Jay]

oh im so sorry, I know I dont know you at all but I had a very good friend who took his own life, I know how hard it is. But things will look up, it will never be the same as it was but it will get better then it is.

[allbimyself]

(((((((((((( gina ))))))))))))))

I know some will find this hard to believe, but I am always at a loss for words when trying to convey my sympathies. I just want you to know that you and your family are in my heart and thoughts.

Allbi

[onewhocares]

Dear Gina,

I have had to take a couple of days to read and re read your posts and to also come to terms with a recent death. What helped me was the strength from family and friends, be they real, or be they you on line family. We share your sorrow and our thoughts and prayers are extended to you and your dear hubby.

Yes, a will is very important as are the custodial care forms for your children if you are injured and not able to speak for yourself. Guardianship is a priority. In addition, a living will is a really good thing. My dad had a cerebral hemorage the morning after my brothers wedding and for us, his family left behind, it was a god send having his wished in writing. For as much as we knew what we wanted, it was his wishes the doctors went by. In the end he made his own choices.

Just know you are not alone, and we, your family and friend on line, are always here for you.

Belle

[codybear3]

My deepest condolences, Gina...My thoughts and prayer go out to you, MIHH and the rest of your family... :paw: :paw:

[Michael623]

I am so sorry Gina. A big hug to you and M.I.H.H.. You are in my prayers.

[m.in.heels&hose]

Hello, and thank you all for your (more than kind) words

that 1 brother of gina's came into my work today (he is a local freight truck driver) and he didnt even look at me, or attempt to say anything to me which is very unusual for him (he & i were good friends in school) and was just very quiet in general

its my hope he knows & understands what he did to the rest of his family
and i have to say, its hard for me to be impartial towards him, i saw (as an outsider) the greif and anguish he caused his other brothers & sisters and it didnt sit well with me

the whole family felt this should be all about rose, and not "one upmanship" amongst siblings


THANK YOU ALL AGAIN

MIHH

[Mrs. Taz]

our thoughts and prayers are with you both, we love you and are here whenever you need us. hugs n kisses

[animalat54]

This is very hard for me to write... :(
i can not stress enought the importance of a will ~
to let family members know what your wishes are and also to have a life insurance policy as well.....
On monday nov.6th,2006,my youngest sister took her own life,i still have 5 other siblings and i had a brother take the right away from us other 5 to say good bye to her b4 he had he cremated and told us what would be done ..the bottom line is because there was no will,myself and my 4 other siblings went to see a lawyer on fri morring to fight to get her ashes so we could have some kind of clouser.
Roseann was the youngest of 7 children, and never got over our parents passing and had long wished to be with them and i have come to some clouser know that she is now with them...she was only 27.
We have a small part of Roseann,she left us two beautiful nephews 7 and 2 and there father and my brothers and sisters will keep her memory alive in them...

I'm not lookinmg for anyone to feel sad for me and like i said this hard for me ive been wanting to write something and both mihh and i have started healing from this....
BUT PLEASE..i dont want what i had to go threw fighting for my sisters remains to happen to any of my friends....plz...do a will with your wishes and get a life insurence policy....
Thankyou for listening to me ramble on...hugs to all our friends


:angel: sleep with the angles baby sister,i'll always miss you :angel:
Gina,I'm animialat54,Believe me sweetie,I know of your loss and thank God I didn't have to go thru your problems.I do under stnd the importance of a WILL.My wife passed at the tender age of 48.Thank god we had things in order for the most part.Which by her passing made a whole lot easier,for the simple fact that things happened a whole simpler,which made it easier for friends & family to move on in thier lives.I totaily feel for you Sweetie,If there is anything I can do drop me a line.Lot's o LOVE7 HUGS animalat54

[texasman6172003]

Hey Gina,I want to say how sorry i am for your loss. Losing a family member is allways a tough thing to go thru. But it shouldnt be made to be any harder to go thru than it should be. You and Mihh know i love you guy's. My thoughts and prayer's are with y'all.

[gina42]

i just wanted to say thank you to you all for all your kind words it means alot to MIHH and i....group hugs to all our friends :grouphug: :grouphug: