Just Told My Parents...

[nothings5d]

I just told my parents I'm bisexual, and it went exactly how I expected...

They were both completely understanding. My dad felt a need to tell me he still loved me, and my mom tried to tell me several things about being "out" that I already knew.

I'm glad my parents are cool like that.

:bipride:

[bigirl_inwv]

Congrats!! It's always nice to hear that someone has come out and has the pressure of hiding it off of their shoulders. Even better when the family takes it as well as yours did.

[AngelOfTheMystic]

Horray for you! I am glad to hear that your parents took it so well. I wish that some other people in the world would be that accepting. Good luck in the future and again congrads!

[IanBorthwick]

I am as jealous as I can get...my parents are stodgy and not accepting of anything outside the norm.

[LoveLion]

Way to go!

Being there myself, I know that it is one of the hardest things anyone can do.

So glad you made that step! Its great to be openly bi.

[NorthBiEast]

Kinda jealous here. I came really close this weekend, but the timing just didn't seem right somehow. Should have just bit the bullet and gotten in over with. I'm even certain that they'll be cool like your folks were. Hard though. :eek:

[glantern954]

Congrats! It's a great feeling to be accepted by the ones you care most about.

[Herbwoman39]

I love happy endings like that! I'm so happy for you that things turned out so well!

[nothings5d]

Kinda jealous here. I came really close this weekend, but the timing just didn't seem right somehow. Should have just bit the bullet and gotten in over with. I'm even certain that they'll be cool like your folks were. Hard though. :eek:

That's what I did essentially. The way I started talking to my mom was, "There's something I've been wanting to tell you and I'd been waiting for the right time. But there really is no right time, so I'm just going to say it..."

I was thinking about it and couldn't think of any time that would classify as the "right time".

[amypoohbear79]

That's good you told your parents.I.m still to shy to tell my parents,even though they probable won't say anything.My dad is gay,so I know he won't care.Then on the other hand I think my mom already knows.Should I be ashamed or should I just come out of the closet like they say. please write back. :female:

[TorontoGuy2007]

hi nothing, congrats on telling your parents.. sometimes it can be a relief just to get it off your chest..

amy, sounds like you need to get it off your chest too. and if your dad is gay, and if your mom is understanding, might as well tell them.. it will be a relief for you..

[Green eyed girl]

That's good you told your parents.I.m still to shy to tell my parents,even though they probable won't say anything.My dad is gay,so I know he won't care.Then on the other hand I think my mom already knows.Should I be ashamed or should I just come out of the closet like they say. please write back.

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I feel the same way. I'm 27 years old already and still haven't told my parents. I love them and I'm sure they'd be the accepting kind of people. BUT... I guess it never seems to be the right time. My brother was diagnosed with schizophenia awhile ago... so there's this guilt in the back of my head that says- 'don't give them even more to worry about, it doesn't matter, it would be selfish etc...- especially since you've hidden it so long anyway'.
Sheesh. And to make things more complicated, i'm in a long term relationship with a man - they maybe wouldn't get why it's so important to 'get it off my chest'.

[NorthBiEast]

And to make things more complicated, i'm in a long term relationship with a man - they maybe wouldn't get why it's so important to 'get it off my chest'.

I think that's one of the key things holding me back too. :paw:

[LoveLion]

I love happy endings like that! I'm so happy for you that things turned out so well!

Dont you mean you love happy beginnings? :bigrin:

[wingnut]

I just told my parents I'm bisexual, and it went exactly how I expected...

They were both completely understanding. My dad felt a need to tell me he still loved me, and my mom tried to tell me several things about being "out" that I already knew.

I'm glad my parents are cool like that.

:bipride:

Just out of curiousity, why did you feel the need to tell your rents? I see from your profile that you're mostly straight, so what was the big deal? Are you seeing a guy? Do you see yourself settling down with one?

In my mind I could only see myself coming out to my parents if I was mostly gay. I'm not, so I don't see a point. I might as well just tell them that I like to be tied up and have my girlfriend peg me.

Anyway, that's my perspective, and I respect your decision, whatever your reasons, but I really want to know what compelled you.

[sexybicplinwv]

alway's be ture to yourself. I told my Mother and to sister 4 years ago and am so glad i did it was one of the best thing i have did for myself. :bibounce:

[Mrs. Taz]

dont be ashamed of it poohbear fallow your heart. talk to one or both of them about your bi side and see what they say about it. :)

[nothings5d]

Just out of curiousity, why did you feel the need to tell your rents? I see from your profile that you're mostly straight, so what was the big deal? Are you seeing a guy? Do you see yourself settling down with one?

In my mind I could only see myself coming out to my parents if I was mostly gay. I'm not, so I don't see a point. I might as well just tell them that I like to be tied up and have my girlfriend peg me.

Anyway, that's my perspective, and I respect your decision, whatever your reasons, but I really want to know what compelled you.


To answer the second question, I put that up when I first joined the site only a few days after accepting the fact that I was bi, I guess I didn't really realize then just how much guys turned me on, I'd been meaning to change that and just did...

As for why I told the "rents", my family has a policy of not bottling up things like that, my mom's family was very strict on not telling people your feelings and it has caused her a lot of problems, so we don't hold anything back. And after I told them I felt better about being me. Haven't you ever told someone something and had that good feeling from "getting the weight off your chest"? That's what my family is all about...

[welickit]

Interesting thread and it is good you had a happy ending. Most parents can't even talk to each other so they live a lie and ignore the needs of their kids. The old double standard routine.
We were always open and honest with our sons, so there was no shock when he expressed his opinion that he was bisexual. He was already aware that we were both bi and that we enjoyed recreational sex with others.
I wonder how many other parents have "come out" to their children or spouse. They say " For Better or For Worse" and then fail to communicate. That brings them the worse and little of the better. :2cents: