My Problem...

[AngelOfTheMystic]

Alright first off if this thread offends anyone I wish to say that I am sorry. I normally don't talk about my sex life to anyone, but I really would like some advice with this.
Me and my husband have a healthy sex life, but I have noticed that when I am the one on top I am not able to acheive an orgasm. My husband prefers me on top and I would like to be able to do that for him more, but I want to get mine while we are at it to you know! Do any other girls have this problem?? Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can remedy this?

[NorthBiEast]

I'm actually the opposite, I don't get anywhere from the bottom, unless there are toys involved. Fortunately for me my hubby also likes me on top. Its really frustrating, and kind of a turn off when you know that you aren't going to get anywhere for a while. :banghead:

[Herbwoman39]

Alright first off if this thread offends anyone I wish to say that I am sorry. I normally don't talk about my sex life to anyone, but I really would like some advice with this.
Me and my husband have a healthy sex life, but I have noticed that when I am the one on top I am not able to acheive an orgasm. My husband prefers me on top and I would like to be able to do that for him more, but I want to get mine while we are at it to you know! Do any other girls have this problem?? Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can remedy this?


Switch positions. Make sure he has his fun with you on top, then change positions so that you get yours, too!

[innaminka]

Everyone's plumbing and wiring is different. I'm 100% opposite to you - actually I can't actually orgasm without a little extra help.
Do I worry?
Not on your Nellie! :)

The fact that you said you and yours have a healthy sex-life sez it all.

take turns - compromise, experiment. ENJOY!

Don't ever judge a sexual encounter by how many orgasms you have. Its not a contest.

[meteast chick]

Well honestly it's been QUITE awhile, but when I was with my husband, I had trouble achieving orgasm without being on top, or when he was down below, if you get my drift.

My suggestion is to switch it up. Try toys, try different positions, try porn, whatever works for you, try it. Turn up the thermostat, and rev up your sex life.

Good luck
luv and kisses,
xoxoxoxoxoxo
meteast

[kitten]

Try changing the angle of your position. Is he laying flat? Have him prop up with some pillows or against the headboard. Whatever will get the angle so that your clitoris can rub most directly on his pubic bone. That's what usually works for me! Extra stimulation from my fingers or his, or a "mechanical device" is good, too. It doesn't always happen but we know that in the grand scheme of things it all balances out so that we are each pleased. Most of all relax and love him with all your might and heart and the orgasms will cum. :)

hugs-

[FerociousFeline]

Hi yall,
I know I can't speak from first hand (lol) experience here, but with my women I have learned that the biggest variable here is your abdominal tone on the physical side and self confidence about her body on the mental side. While it is certainly true that all women are built uniquely, you CAN say that all women with good abdominal muscle tone will have a similiar sexual response cycle. What do I mean more specifically? I suppose you'd have to specify whether you were talking about trying to achieve clitoral or vaginal orgasm. Clitoral orgasms do require much more contact based on body position because of the obvious fact that they need to be touched in such a way as to become highly stimulated without being overstimulated. But there are many other variables here. Some women won't like being on top because they are not comfortable with the way they look to their partner, and this dampens their sexual response. If the woman is confident in her appearance to her partner (OR to her partners acceptance of her regardless of her perception of her appearance) then she will come to orgasm much more easily. Vaginal orgasms by comparison are more of a body orgasm and reflect a high degree of muscle tone. While on top, make sure all your abs are taught. If they aren't, then arch your back until they are. Think of your body as a piece of string. If you hold a piece of string between two points loosely, you cannot EVER make it vibrate like a guitar string. The key to a womans orgasm lies in her ability to get into whatever position is necessary for her to pull those abs tight and let her body sing with the vibration of her pleasure.

Enjoy
FF

[NorthBiEast]

FF- Are you sure you're a guy? :tongue: You hit it spot on!

[FerociousFeline]

FF- Are you sure you're a guy? :tongue: You hit it spot on!


LOL! Thanks. It is my hope to be nearly equal parts male and female. I wish to develop my feminine side spiritually and mentally not only so that I might better understand women, but also because I believe that the feminine side of my personality has something of value to offer both women and men.

[mikeiam4]

My wife usually gets her orgasm the best when she is on top. However, there were times during the pregnancy that I was simply too long for her, and the head of my dick was rubbing her cervix. This hurt her, therefore chasing away any chance of an orgasm. Like FF stated, this position normally works because I can arch my back up, pressing my abdoman against her clit during sex. But when I can't be fully inside of her, then there goes the rubbing of the clit, without toys, fingers, and some care on my part not to press too hard, too directly! So if your man is too long for you to be comfy when he is fully inside of you, then being on top may have some issues.

[Spicy]

Switch positions dear. You have your fun first then he gets his! It's give and take after all, and you know that!!!

Spicy

[Chaia]

When you are on top, try to lean forward so that your body is almost parallel to his. Then you are almost in the same position as you are when he is on top and, theoretically, your g-spot can be stimulated in the same way. Also, change how you move your hips and maybe you can find the way that stimulates you the way you need/want. Doesn't hurt to have your breasts brush his chest, either. Good luck.