ex's are a pain

[dangerous_unicorn]

Ok some of you my bi sexual family know that my ex joined here after i did so yea he's a copycat (he knows who he is) but our three year relationship went down the drain and i get the blame for it and really it's so funny as i wasn't the one who was looking at porn all the time and going to dating sites and saying on the profile that i was single.
Now the thing is, he was holding me back in life as soon as he left i got a job that i love and it's awesome money have friends and my bi sexual family you also know who you guys and girls are.
Now as i see it and i have been told i am so much better off away from him and i thank you my family who supported me threw this i love you all.

:-)

[Long Duck Dong]

maybe if you let sleeping dogs lie, then there would be peace for all

I shared the house with you and ya ex, and there were times i wanted to kick ya both up the ass and tell you both to wake up and smell the coffee

your relationship failed, now move on, be proud of the progress you have both made in your lives, and smile

[486Master]

Thanks Long Duck Dong, I plan to do just that move on and think no more.

[Rocsteady]

maybe if you let sleeping dogs lie, then there would be peace for all

I shared the house with you and ya ex, and there were times i wanted to kick ya both up the ass and tell you both to wake up and smell the coffee

your relationship failed, now move on, be proud of the progress you have both made in your lives, and smile

WOW talk about a close bi family. Long Duck Dong I love your response I just had to tell ya

[dangerous_unicorn]

people need to move on and forget about there past SOME people just can't move on.

[Nara_lovely]

Looks like you both copy-catted LDD to me...or is it copied-cat???

*ring the bell* to your corners!

LDD...on ya! (coffee??? Did someone say COFFFFEEEEEEEEE!!!) :drool:

[486Master]

you can't forget you can only move on. Thats how life works.

[dangerous_unicorn]

some people have no idea but then they lie and think everything is gonna be fine moving on is easy forgiving what happened is not as i have moved on and are happy i have learned that forgetting is better then forgiving and i thank those of you who no what i mean.

[flexuality]

some people have no idea but then they lie and think everything is gonna be fine moving on is easy forgiving what happened is not as i have moved on and are happy i have learned that forgetting is better then forgiving and i thank those of you who no what i mean.

Forgiving is NOT absolving someone. Forgiving is not for someone else - it is giving up one's own resentment, bitterness and blame so that we CAN move on.

To simply forget is to invite history to repeat itself.

Just my 2 cents :2cents:

[486Master]

I agree with flexuality

Forgiving is not for the other person, but for yourself, until you forgive you then it is hard to move on to a new relationship.

I have forgiven all my ex's for things that they have done, may be not in person, but none the less i hold no grudges with any of them.

I make a point not to go into another relationship with out first doing this.

Make it a point, not an excuse.

[darkeyes]

Never forget. Forget and we learn nothing. But with forgiving, it is relatively easy to forgive another if we really wish to..but htf do we forgive ourselves?

[486Master]

by accepting what we may have done in the relationship, that caused pain or for the relationship to end. This might sound hard to some people but in fact it isn't, it just takes for you to look inside yourself, and think about what you did or didn't do, that caused the relationship to fail.

[Solomon]

i don't believe that relationships fail because of what we do :2cents:

[Tommy2020]

Broken vases are never mended with regrets....

IMHO
This thread could lead into dangerous, shallow waters.
Tommy2020

[darkeyes]

by accepting what we may have done in the relationship, that caused pain or for the relationship to end. This might sound hard to some people but in fact it isn't, it just takes for you to look inside yourself, and think about what you did or didn't do, that caused the relationship to fail.
That brings acceptance of fault Master..not forgiveness of self. Trust me.

[darkeyes]

i don't believe that relationships fail because of what we do :2cents:

No? Wish u wer rite... believe me..they do!

[darkeyes]

Broken vases are never mended with regrets....

IMHO
This thread could lead into dangerous, shallow waters.
Tommy2020

Who wants to mend a broken vase with regrets if at all. And glue doesnt work on relationships!

[Tommy2020]

Who wants to mend a broken vase with regrets if at all. And glue doesnt work on relationships!

God.... some people just want to be net bullies. Darkeyes... I have read your postings and up until now, I have had much respect for you and your opinions. As you are a 'senior member', I would think that you and other members could just let the comments stand on their own merit(s). It was just my opinion. I have been through a disastrous divorce that left everyone scarred. Me, forrmer wife, 3 children. All with pains that were present years and years later. We tried to mend the relationship by saying we were sorry more than once. But as you have noted so wisely, 'who wants to mend a broken vase with regrets if at all'. Some of us simply made mistakes by trying. I observed that IMHO dragging a broken relationship onto this forum could be a mistake in letting two persons, who were engaged in a relationshipm duke it out in 'public'. Someone in here knows these two people personally and will certainly take sides and then the fight is on.
I was not trolling for a parade of differing opinions nor was I looking for a fight. If I offended you, a 'senior member', I certainly apologize for whatever I said to set you off.
Have a great day,
Tommy2020

[darkeyes]

Tommy u didnt offend me at all..seems like I have u though and it wasnt meant to. I have also suffered the anguish of recent break up and all I was trying to say in my own cackhanded way is that it takes more than a little sticky paste and regret to repair a relationship, and in the end sometimes do we really want to? You have obviously tried and I am sorry it didnt work out. I am not a bully though and am sorry u may think so. Possibly the flippant nature of my post helped u think that. If I do have a fault it is an excess of flippancy Im afraid often at the worst of times. I hit a raw nerve with u and Im sorry. I try not to be insensitive but sometimes I just make a pigs ear of things and sound it. So the apology is mine to make and I hope you can accept it in the spirit it is offered.

Next time I will just keep me big fat gob shut!

oops almost forgot..mite say senior member but me not old battleax me hopes.. lol. Jus says that cos me posted more than sum!

[Tommy2020]

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TOMMY2020

[biwords]

Darkeyes wrote: oops almost forgot..mite say senior member but me not old battleax me hopes.. lol. Jus says that cos me posted more than sum![/QUOTE]

Yes, I was startled to find "unofficial community leader" affixed to my username, even though I'm new to this and still don't know which end is up. Then I realized it must be a software thing related to the # of posts. I guess it's better than "Compulsive Typist, Has No Life"... :)

[TorontoGuy2007]

i'm not gonna stick my nose in the personal business of those here on this thread, but i will just point out that in general, it amazes me how ex partners always want to try to remain in contact. after a break up, sure it would be nice to stay in touch with an ex and even remain friends, but usually, time is needed for one or both parties to get over the wounds of the break up. i always advise to takea 6 month waiting period before getting in touch with an ex to to try to rekindle any type of friendship or commincation. otherwise, the bitterness will escalate and lead to further fighting and resentment.

[12voltman59]

Pardon my English here folks--but what the fuck is going on here at this site in recent weeks--

We've got ex's fighting over their unresolved issues and such and people who can't seem to stand most of their fellow human beings because they don't live up to some person's narrow standard of what is good looking...

Give me a motherfucking break folks!!!!!!

:soapbox: :soapbox: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: :yikes2: :yikes2: :yikes2: :yikes2: :yikes2: :yikes2:

We all do seem to be just bit pissy!!!!!

Can we please all just take a fucking chill pill??????