Friends, family and Co-workers

[Fuzzled_one]

Out of all of these people, who reacted the worst when you came out?

My dad didnt speak to me for like months, and hated when i brought girls home, ive only had a few friends unsure and weird about it though. I pretty much tell new people i meet when i trust them and want a friendship.

[deletetacount123]

Family - They were fine with it.... probably cause one of my brothers (have 3) is gay and has been out for years so the "hard part" was done lol

Friends - I have never heard so many "Ah! I KNEW IT!!!" in my life..... ah well.
I swear, at least two of my friends knew I was a lesbian before I did.

Co-Workers = Only 1 knows.... another may have guessed it from my Facebook tho..... but the rest don't know and if anyone else does know, they haven't said anything.

Tasha

[Herbwoman39]

My best friend freaked and didn't talk to me for 6 months. I haven't told my family due to timing issues and I have no co-workers because I own my own company.

I'm not looking forward to telling my Mom. She's going to gear. But so far my best friend was the worst.

[BreeIsMe]

I am only out to a few close friends and they have been very supportive. My family---not a chance. they are so conservative that this would probably lead directly to several deaths in the family from heart attackes!!! LOL at work, they would probably fire me...


Having said all that, I very much wish to come out to everyone. I hate living a lie and that is what I feel I am doing by not letting everyone know. I feel so much better when I am with people who know so I don't have to watch what I saw, how I dress, etc...


Bree

[innaminka]

Family - Parents? I'm mid-40's - they're 70's+ - Need to know? They don't.
Sister - Totally supportive - intrigued (wants details of what its actually like) even tho she's str8 as a ruler. First person I really came out to.
Husband? - Initially freaked, shattered his self-esteem. We worked things out over a period. Still doesn't want to know much. Still love each other desperately.

Friends - I picked my friends well. The male friends are far less enthusiastic than the girls. The single girls are totally supportive, and like my sister, subtly pry for "details."

Work Colleagues - Need to Know situation. Very few do - my sexuality is not their business as it doesn't impact on the work. My business partner, (female) couldn't care less.

Generally, I am open if asked by someone genuine, otherwise I just offer nothing.

[LoveLion]

Friends: Some better than others. Most were really good as I keep pretty open friends.

Family: Again, some better than others. My sister for example was great, and my parents were only ok, not as well as I hoped, but not awful

Co-workers: Only job I had since comming out was a very non-social job. Because of the nature of the job, non of the co-workers really got a chance to talk or get to know anyone. There was no one I even knew well enough to discus it and it never came up in the brief conversations that we managed to have. So really I have never told a co-worker

So Co-workers is out, but between the two f's: I would have to say some family took it better than some friends, and other friends took it better than other family.

[bisubbie]

A long time ago a girlfreind at the time at first didn't like it when I told her, but later joined me in bed with my boyfreind for threesomes. A later girlfreind turned cold as ice. I told my wife when we first got together and it didn't matter, she would actually like to watch me get a cock up my ass.

I've only told one coworker and he doesn't care.

Now for the salt in the wound syndrome. I told me ex 1 1/2 yrs before asking her to marry me, 2 1/2 before marrying. I never did anything with a guy while with her. At first it was ok, then but then she said "I don't care how bisexual you are, just don't do anything about it." Then when we separated before divorcing she told my parents, my three sisters and my brother. It didn't have any affect on my parents or sisters. At first I thought it didn't matter to my brother. He never liked me when we were growing up. When I went in the Army to be a paratrooper things mellowed between us. After I got out we used to party a lot. When my mom passed away his hatred towards me came out. I don't know that it has anything to do with my enjoyment of men as there is a lot of other baggage. Apparently the time of peace was just a truce.