Questions

[Toad82]

I don’t know what I expect from this, but I will ask my questions as if I know. I am at the most confused time of my life and I don’t know what to do, how to feel, or if it is even okay for me to love the person I am in love with. With that being said here are my questions:


How do you define love?

and

Is it a bad thing to love someone that may or may not want you to love them?

I have so many things I would like answered that I can’t even think right. I am sure within time I will work up the words to ask, but for now I just hope that someone will answer me. For what ever reason I have this want and need for as many to answer as possible. Something inside me just needs to know.


Thank you to whoever reads and answers.


RJ

[dans94]

Love means many things to different people at different times but here's what the American Heritage Dictionary says about it:
(sorry for the cop-out)

"love (lv) KEY

NOUN:

A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.

Sexual passion.
Sexual intercourse.
A love affair.
An intense emotional attachment, as for a pet or treasured object.
A person who is the object of deep or intense affection or attraction; beloved. Often used as a term of endearment.
An expression of one's affection: Send him my love."

As far as your unrequited love for someone goes, why not? The problem here is if you try to make more out of it by forcing or stalking or any other unwanted action towards the person. It's tough but all you can do is keep it to yourself and suffer through it. It will pass with time.

Good luck,
Dan

[Remetan]

Love, especially romantic love, can be one of the most exhilerating, comforting, and painful emotional experiences of our lives. It is terribly easy to define with words, but impossible to explain to someone how it feels. It is also a different experience for everyone, depending on the type of relationship it is and for how long it has been going on.

You are free, and should give yourself permission, to love whomever you love. However, you can't force them, expect them, or push them into loving you back.


Your feelings and responses are your own, you can't govern or regulate anyone else's.

Good luck.

[flexuality]

Love is a verb.

We tend to use the word 'love' as a kind of blanket statement for a wide variety of emotions we have going on and end up calling love a feeling....but in reality love is a verb.

As far as the feelings go, we all have the right to think, feel and believe whatever we choose to....feelings are not right or wrong, they just are.

How we act on those feelings is another matter.

So to answer your questions....is it okay to feel the emotions we call love? Yes.

Is it okay to act on that....to love someone.....that depends on what it is you're doing I suppose. The actions may not be wanted by someone, but that is entirely separate from the feelings.

[Toad82]

Thank you to those who answered.

RJ

[raistkit]

i know this sounds trite. and it's been printeted on thousands of tee shirts. the first time i read it i was about 13 yrs old, and it struck a chord within me.
"if you love something set it free"
"if it comes back it's your's"
"if it doesn't it never was"
for me love is unconditional, and total acceptance of who and what i am.

the second part of your question is much harder to answer. don't think loving anyone is wrong. where you have to draw a line is when it starts hurting you. hence back to my quote take a step back, i know it's hard, but set both yourself and the one you love free.
hope things work out for you kit

[m.in.heels&hose]

Hey There Toad

Im kinda in the same boat you are

1st answer, love is unreasonable

and i iwsh i could give you an answer for the second, but i cant, mainly because im asking he same question!

sorry i couldnt be of more help!!

MIHH

[arana]

To me love is passion, pleasure, forgivness, and pain.

You can love anyone you want and they don't have to love you back ...It becomes more tricky if you become a stalker and have a restraining order put on you. :tong: