Can the marriage stay together when both are bi

[othamble2]

I was wondering are there any married couples in this community that both are bi. If so, how long have you been married and what is secrete to keeping it together. Maybe this isn't the best topic to be discuss in a forum! If any one care to respond via messaging its ok with me.

[canuckotter]

We're both bi and we've been together for nearly ten years now, going on four married. Doesn't seem to be a problem for us... I guess the secret has been open communication and honesty. We're also just naturally very compatible people.

[diamond_tether]

We're coming up on our first Anniversary in a few days and we're both bi. We were open and honest about our sexual preferences when we got together, we accepted and were perfectly okay from the start. We both enjoy seeing our partner with members of both sexes, so we don't forsee it becoming any kind of problem either. :three:

[angelicvalkyrie]

I was wondering are there any married couples in this community that both are bi. If so, how long have you been married and what is secrete to keeping it together. Maybe this isn't the best topic to be discuss in a forum! If any one care to respond via messaging its ok with me.


I think the key is communication. If you both entered the relationship with open minds and you trust and care for each other there should be no problem. Remember, there is nothing worth keeping secret from someone you love :2cents:

[amigan]

We are both bi, pushing 60, in a relationship for 3 1/2 years, and married for almost a year. We both consider sex as play rather than sacrament, and in consideration of each others' sensitivities we decided to only play together, with other bisexuals. It keeps things more considered and careful, and hopefully much less likely to result in health or gossip problems.
We sort of came to the realization/agreement that trying to eliminate (or celi-bate? Is that a verb?)... set aside our gay sides would eventually lead to problems, so we are quite open about fantasies and finding suitable play partners.
We aren't really polyamorous, just in love with each other, and just both happy to keep a few bi friends with benefits handy. Jealosy hasn't occured, no one has fallen in love with us to complicate things. Our life feels nice and stable, and we seem to be reading each others' minds and emotions pretty easily.
Both of us have been married before and felt stifled or closeted sexually, raised kids, and learned a few things the hard way, so this one we are going to do right.

[justafriend]

Seems to me the best match for a Bi person is another Bi person. Not only a good match, but a lot of fun too, if you play it right.

[TheThreeOfUs]

I was wondering are there any married couples in this community that both are bi. If so, how long have you been married and what is secrete to keeping it together. Maybe this isn't the best topic to be discuss in a forum! If any one care to respond via messaging its ok with me.

I dont know that there is a secret to it or not. We have been together going on 13 yrs and married going on 7 yrs. I think because we were honest enough to each other when we first got together about each other being bi we knew we had a lot of trust in each other. My mom always told me the key is to never go to bed mad and always give a kiss and say you love them even if they (the man) lol did something really stupid.

We just keep the doors of communication open. Thats a big thing. We discuss everything no matter what it is. It used to be only my husband and I but now we have a third to our family. We still discuss everything. Just always be open and honest and never keep anything form the other person. Love one another.

Not sure if it helps but the very best of luck goes to you! :)

[TheThreeOfUs]

We're coming up on our first Anniversary in a few days and we're both bi. We were open and honest about our sexual preferences when we got together, we accepted and were perfectly okay from the start. We both enjoy seeing our partner with members of both sexes, so we don't forsee it becoming any kind of problem either. :three:

Happy Anniversary!!!! :)

[othamble2]

Thanks to all who responded. I wish you all continued success.

[the mage]

Certainly it can. So can open sex and swinger relationships too.

Sex should not be the cornerstone of your love life. It should be a wonderful addition to it. It is play, excitement and exploration as individuals that support each other in love and really important, safety that makes you want to grow old together.

[rissababynta]

we have been together for 4 years and we are both bi. we have an agreement with each other that if he wants to be with a man and i want to be with a woman, then it's ok, as long as we are open with each other about it instead of going behind each others backs to fool around. the honesty and the communication really make a difference.

[dibbspixie]

i will answer for my wife(sriad) and myself. we are both bi and have been together 17 years and married for 15 years this august 1st. With out any doubt the only way is to be completely open and honest with each other. We also have rules that we both agreed on, and it works well for us.

[deletetacount123]

Im not bisexual but I was married.......

At first the marriage was fine.... I do believe its ANY MARRIAGE....
HONESTLY AND COMMUNICATION IS IMPORTANT.

My ex didn't want to communicate with me at all.... soon I realized he was using my being deaf as an excuse for not having to talk to me.
Thats one of the BIG reasons we got a divorce... I wanted someone I can talk to and who talks to me as well.
He didn't... and I didn't like it that he was using my being deaf as an excuse. :(
I told him.... got a "so ??" response before him turning back to his game.

When it comes to bisexual people and marriage.... I believe it'll even stronger work in the honest and commuication department.

A lot of divorces are the result of the 2 people not being able to be honest to each other and lack of communication.

I also believe being both bisexuals in a marriage can last.... just make sure you both talk throughly with honestly and commuications....

[Fire Lotus]

My husband and I have known each other for a few years. For almost a year, we have been married. We knew of each other's sexuality right from the start. And while the fact of us both being bisexual helps in us understanding each other, the most important thing (I Think in any relationship) is what others have already pointed out. Constant openness and communication are the key factor.

Both of us being bi does certainly have it's fun advantages. But good sex isn't everything that makes up our relationship. We are also each other's best friends. :)

[bearisbare]

Both of us being bi does certainly have it's fun advantages. But good sex isn't everything that makes up our relationship. We are also each other's best friends. :)

Yes, indeed we are! :)

Before Fire Lotus and I hit it off, we knew each other already from another chatroom for a couple of years, so the acknowledgement of bisexuality was quite clear from the first time we talked. Fast forward to this year and we are married for just under 11 months now and getting ready for our first Pride as a married bi couple, taking part in various things over next week together and separately (marching together in a parade, bi women's and bi men's brunches).

[bigulfcpl]

We are both bisexual, and Chrissy was the first woman I was open about it. We discussed it the first week we were together. We were both swingers also. We have been together almost 3 years now, and engaged to be married in 2009.

I think it works for us because we don't have that strong desire to just go out and meet bisexual people. We prefer to meet people that share the same interests we do, and develop a connection, before we get to the hot, bisexual sex part!

We are a committed couple, and we only play as a couple, never apart. When we have our bisexual contact, it is always together, since that is the biggest turn on for both of us, watching each other with the same sex.

So, to answer your question, yes, absolutely. Like someone has stated, communication is the most important thing, and if you have that, it will work!