I need a hero

[retrowordsmith]

I’m being discriminated against because of my sexual orientation and worldview allow me to elaborate. I’m recently divorced based primarily on the fact I’m coming to terms with my bisexuality and the realization I live in a godless universe. I’ve suffered from debilitating anxiety attacks and severe depression all my life because my christian upbringing reinforces the dogma that my biological predisposition is evil and unnatural. Now my ex-wife has openly made the decision to isolate me from my son in order to protect him from a father who is “driven by demons”. In essence my son is being raised to believe I’m under the influence of demonic forces because of who I am and what I believe. I want my son to know who I am and what I believe but simply don’t have the resources or legal savvy to bring this to fruition. I can’t help but feel my son will suffer the same fate as me if I’m unable to express to him homosexuality is a part of nature and evolution is a rational alternative to the god concept. He is currently attending a born again church where anti-homosexual dogma is molding his opinion of me. I use to call my ex-wife once a month to talk her and my son to find out how he’s doing. Unfortunately I honesty express to my wife I was coming to terms with the fact I’m a bisexual living in a godless universe. Since then she’s refused to take my phone calls to the point the police showed up at my door with an order for me to cease and desists all phone calls to her. Regrettable at the time of the divorce I was misdiagnosed as bipolar and the meds I was given made me suicidal. When I singed my divorce I wasn’t mentally or emotional competent and now have deep regrets for not protecting my relationship with my son. My ex-wife had verbally agreed to the monthly phone call but because I haven’t been “delivered from my demons.” She has severed the only connection to my son. Needless to say I’m distraught over the situation. I’m planning to move closer to my son at the end of the month but I’m not sure how I’m going to reestablish ties with him. I’ll be moving to the Kansas City area and hope to find an advocacy group. If any know of an advocacy group for homosexuals/bisexuals as it relates to parental rights in the Kansas City area please contact me or post the information. Also if you’ve been in a similar situation your feedback and advice would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely-
Michael Strappe

[kcunderwhere]

Micheal - I really feel for you...as a father, husband and bisexual. You have experienced the worst nightmare of every father...

I can't vouch for the legitimacy of this site, but they seem like a good organization and have a list of support groups for gay parents (thus the name Gay Parent Magazine...):

http://www.gayparentmag.com/29181.html

I sincerely hope you good luck and good fortune.

[jo69guy]

Michael, I also feel for you. It sounds like your ex has some issues of her own, and has allowed her religion/church to totally control her life. It could be she is so hurt by your divorce that she is using this issue for justification for her actions.

It could also be that she is fighting her own demons.

God's peace, and good luck!

[gina42]

Michael, I also feel for you. It sounds like your ex has some issues of her own, and has allowed her religion/church to totally control her life. It could be she is so hurt by your divorce that she is using this issue for justification for her actions.

It could also be that she is fighting her own demons.

God's peace, and good luck!

well put jo69guy....

micheal,
i truely feel sorry for you dear...i hope bye you moving closer it will help you with seeing your son...i really dislike people who judge others,it is the person within you that matters and not what is in your bed..
you had said in your post that ..."I’m a bisexual living in a godless universe "
this is how i feel about that statement..iwas raised to believe that god loves everyone...and you may not think so right now but you are loved my friend and i hope you find a group that will help you threw getting a bond with your son again ,also i hope your wife seeks alittle help because i feel she has a few issues of her own...and keep in mind when you are closer and the ex hassels you on seeing your son,that is what courts are for,being bisexual does not make you a bad father at all....
any time that you are in chat and im there and you want to chat...send me a pvt. message ok my friend...take care and i'll say a prayer or two for you.
hugs,gina42 :2cents: :)

[Mrs.F]

:( Michael..
I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you. I can't say that I totally understand the Bisexual thing either. I'm straight with a bi husband. But that does not change the person he is. He is an excellent husband and an excellent father to our son. Your ex, like everyone else here, obviously has her own issues and it may not be all you, but she's blaming ONLY you. Easier for her to say it's all your fault and your problem then for her to deal with reality!! In the long run, your son will be the one to suffer and she is not seeing that at all. Her fear is taking over. I wish you the best of luck to get through this. As I have heard many times over "God doesn't give you what you can't handle". I think sometimes He really pushes the limits but you will get through it.

Take care... :)

[Mrs.F]

ok, in what I just wrote. I didn't mean that everyone on this site has issues. My fingers got away from me. What I meant was, I agreed with everyone else who wrote above saying that your wife is the one who as issues.

Oops! :tongue:

[arana]

Michael, I am so sorry for what you are going through. Not knowing you or your wife and the situation from an unbiased perspective I can only say I hope the best comes from your situation and that your son gets what he deserves out of this mess. He is the one that will suffer the most in the end from all the terrible things he hears and see's during all this and he will be the one that losses out if it continues to remain an ugly fight.

Good luck with your endevors,
Arana