chipped_nail_polish
Sep 8, 2007, 2:53 PM
hello everyone!
i've just signed up, because i've recently run into the sort of problem that only a bunch of friendly bisexuals could help with!
i'm 21, female, from australia, and i've always identified as about a 6 on the kinsey scale, and been 'pretty lesbian' in the past. recently i've fallen in love with a man, which has been magical (this is the first time i've been in love, yay). so far, i am loving the sex we have, but i am also totally unable to orgasm. he can work his little heart out, but i won't budge. or else i'll get almost there and then it will die.
sure, not orgasming is a common issue, but i've been such a orgasm machine with girls in the past. similarly, when masturbating, i've pretty much always used lesbian fantasies when i want to get off (even though thinking about men during the build-up has been pleasant).
basically, i'm worried this really means i shouldn't be with a man.
what do you all think? i love him, and sex is great but not sensational; is it wrong to stay with someone you love if you would clearly be having better sex with someone else? is this a simplistic question not even worthy of attention? because love is all that matters? or is that the simple idealistic view?
i don't know.
maybe no one else can answer these questions, but i thought maybe someone out there functions in a similar way, or has some sort of experience they could share.
thanks xx.
i've just signed up, because i've recently run into the sort of problem that only a bunch of friendly bisexuals could help with!
i'm 21, female, from australia, and i've always identified as about a 6 on the kinsey scale, and been 'pretty lesbian' in the past. recently i've fallen in love with a man, which has been magical (this is the first time i've been in love, yay). so far, i am loving the sex we have, but i am also totally unable to orgasm. he can work his little heart out, but i won't budge. or else i'll get almost there and then it will die.
sure, not orgasming is a common issue, but i've been such a orgasm machine with girls in the past. similarly, when masturbating, i've pretty much always used lesbian fantasies when i want to get off (even though thinking about men during the build-up has been pleasant).
basically, i'm worried this really means i shouldn't be with a man.
what do you all think? i love him, and sex is great but not sensational; is it wrong to stay with someone you love if you would clearly be having better sex with someone else? is this a simplistic question not even worthy of attention? because love is all that matters? or is that the simple idealistic view?
i don't know.
maybe no one else can answer these questions, but i thought maybe someone out there functions in a similar way, or has some sort of experience they could share.
thanks xx.