1 down, 6,602,224,174 to go

[naive]

no, i'm not really planning on coming out to the whole world but i have finally made my first step in the right direction :bounce:

it was almost as bad as i thought it would be. i really didn't want to make a big deal of it, but when i broke down i couldn't help hide the fact that it was really weighing on my mind. and it was again a case of bad timing but i knew that i had already backed out for that excuse before so i couldn't let that stop me or else i would have never gone through with it. my sister's boyfriend had come over for his birthday and i didn't want to ruin her night by drawing her focus away from their celebration. but i just couldn't wait another day.

i had already asked the question "what would u think if ur son's were gay/bi" so i did get to gauge a better response. i had no idea how to say it. "i like boys and girls" sounded so juvenile so i settled for "i'm bi". i'm glad she heard it because it came out so weak after breaking down before i could get it out. the standard questions of "how long have u known" and "what made u come out, ru with someone" were asked.

i should've expected the dichotomous question "how do u know ur not just gay" because even for gay friendly folk, bisexuality is a whole other area. still uncomfortable from the fact that this was the first ever "sex talk" i've had with her, all i could muster is that i'm still attracted to girls. she even went so far as to say that she thought she was bi curious too but i think that was just to stop me crying :rolleyes:

i left soon after because i didn't want to have to deal with it in front of the boyfriend and my nephews and so tomorrow is the aftermath. hopefully it gets less awkward. i dunno if anybody wanted this much detail, but its there if it helps anyone else.

[HighEnergy]

Good for you. It's obviously been weighing on your mind. Now you can get on with your life and see who accepts you, who doesn't, and therefore who's worth your time and energy. I do hope your family steps up to the plate and supports you. If not, lots of folks have what you call a family of choice.

[Skater Boy]

Well done amigo!!! Doesn't it feel strangely liberating?

Btw, don't feel obliged to tell the other 6,602,224,174 people... You only need to tell the people that are important enough to you that you actually WANT them to know.

[Germanicus]

Listen, there are probably few people who have had a perfect coming out confession/statement, so dont beat yourself up about it.

I came out to my sister whilst my mum was in the next room and was worried that my mum might overhear (I wanted to tell my sister first to guage her reaction - she laughed thinking it was one of my stories to wind her up). Some months later I told my mum and I got the "so you're gay then" question and had to explain to her the difference, but at least she accepted that, though I know she doesnt understand how I feel, she at least respects my "difference". I've yet to come out to my dad and thats probably where the purient questions will start once his shock has worn off.

As to your sister's statement about her bicurosity, take it at face value - her tears may have been for herself, not for you.

Any how, its out now and in the open, to one person at least, so its done. Quite what you do, if anything, after this is up to you.

[Herbwoman39]

Congratulations!! Believe me, it *does* get easier with each person you come out to.

[shameless agitator]

OUTSTASNDING! I'm proud of you. As Herb Woman said, it does get easier from here on out. Feel free to drop me a line if you need support, to vent, or just somebody to talk to.

[Seasonschange]

Great first step..it's hard and theres all kinds of conflicting emotions when you tell another soul something as personal and sacred as the words "im bi" or im gay".

The next day after I came out to my g/f I felt soooo great.. almost like I was "myself" for the first time in a LONG time. I think what everyone says is true, it does get easier. The people who matter most dont care "what" you are, they love "who" you are.

[JulianSWarren]

Well done, I know is hard to tell this to your family and friends and sometimes they don't react well to it, but is worst to hide it. once is out you feel free. I came out to my mom and she wasn't happy, she didn't even understand it because she was a die hard catholic so that was impossible but in the end she accepted it. She is no longer with me but I'm glad I told her.:bipride:

[stormalong]

I'm pretty much closeted. But I would have to move and everything if I came out. I tell folks who ARE in the know, that I'm about 96% straight, but that the other 4% is there...I don't worry too much about it.

[dafydd]

Well done amigo!!! Doesn't it feel strangely liberating?

Btw, don't feel obliged to tell the other 6,602,224,174 people... You only need to tell the people that are important enough to you that you actually WANT them to know.

why not tell the other 6,602,224,174 people?
why not?

d

[Skater Boy]

why not tell the other 6,602,224,174 people?
why not?

Well, maybe as an eventual goal. But there's no hurry to tell the WHOLE WORLD just yet. Take your time. once you're out, you can't really go back in.

[naive]

Well, maybe as an eventual goal. But there's no hurry to tell the WHOLE WORLD just yet. Take your time. once you're out, you can't really go back in.

i thought there were some people that have tried to go back in. i could always correct myself by saying "just kidding!" :bigrin:

[jedinudist]

Congratulations.

You've taken your first step into a larger world.

Welcome out of the closet - it's nice "out" here :)

[shameless agitator]

i could always correct myself by saying "just kidding!" :bigrin:Not nice lol

[NYRangersFan]

congrats.... i have told most of my friends...and a few fam members.... i will be telling my folks in like 2 weeks...when i go to see them... tell who you are ready to tell. :) :bipride:

[phoenix11664]

Congratulations.

I know it wasn't easy. I applaud your courage and I applaud you for being true to yourself

You are now one of my heroes. I admire everyone who is out, especially to their family.

I have made a promise to myself that I will come out to my family by October a year from now. (I figure October is appropriate because it's coming out month.) Right now, I'm working on building up to the level of self-esteem, confidence, and inner strength I'd like to have when I tell them.

Plus, I'm still so dazed after my recent break-up, I don't feel like I'm in the right frame of my mind to come out yet. Even though a part of me really wants to.

Well, congrats. I look forward to reading more about your progress. I wish you blessings and love.

[naive]

why not tell the other 6,602,224,174 people?
why not?

d

great to hear from u again d, coming out to everyone isn't for everyone, just like "eating cum" :bigrin:

a side note about my "just kidding" joke, i'm not too good with words and i was trying to describe my humour to my friends. is it basically sarcasm? can it be called anything else? it's depressing to think my humour is the "lowest form of wit".

as for me being a hero. that's a bit of a stretch. the same goes for waiting over a year. i couldn't even last 1 month. don't feel like u need to wait till october if it is really eating at u.

[shameless agitator]

a side note about my "just kidding" joke, i'm not too good with words and i was trying to describe my humour to my friends. is it basically sarcasm? can it be called anything else? No I appreciate good sarcasm. I thought you were taking a cheap shot at Cake, which was still funny, just not nice.:bigrin: