Well i did it!!!!

[curious1048]

Last night i decided too come clean and tell my wife my feelings about being with another man. I have tried doing it for about a year but every time i chickened out. She took it very well and we have started talking about acting on this. Hopefully i will have some stories too share with you soon.

[Doggie_Wood]

Congratulations 1048 - The best of luck in the new phase of your life.

Always,

JD aka :doggie:

[shameless agitator]

That's terriffic! Doesn't it feel great to finally get it off your chest?

[Seasonschange]

Congrads, I recently finally told my g/f that I am bi. It's great that she is receptive and supportive.

[AdamKadmon43]

Last night i decided too come clean and tell my wife my feelings about being with another man. I have tried doing it for about a year but every time i chickened out. She took it very well and we have started talking about acting on this. Hopefully i will have some stories too share with you soon.

Well, good for you.....

I was not quite so fortunate. When I told my (now ex) wife about my possible proclivity for people of the same sex, she started throwing things at me and calling me all sorts of really horrid names. She left and went home to her odd-looking mother and filed for divorce.

She got lucky enough to get the proceedings conducted before some homophobic judge who sentenced me to years of community service, and a hugh amount of alimony. I am still to this very day paying all that alimony... I try to just consider it to be the screwing I get for the screwing I got.

I try to not be bitter about it, but I really think that I have been treated un-fairly. She has left me stuck with a great deal of bills, and this stupid, annoying cat who, in addition to having no respect for me what so ever, pisses all over my shoes, and spends most of her spare time staring at me as though I have stepped upon her baby or something.

My advise to everyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation would be to not volunteer any information that you do not absolutely have to. If she catches you in bed with another guy, just deny it, and tell her that she is having hallucinations which are the direct result of that South Beach Diet that you warned her about.

Thank you and have a nice evening...

Adam

[paukenplayer]

Wow, AdamKadmon43,

Upon reading your post my thought was "There but for the grace of god go I..."

I almost ended up in a similar situation, my now ex wierded out and left on her own before I had even contemplated telling her that i was bi.

Knowing her as I do, though, I am sure that if I had told her the situation would have turned out similar.

It is difficult...I admire the courage of those married folks who have mustered the guts to come out to their spouses - regardless of the outcome.

[LWynn4]

congrats, and good luck

[ambiSextrous]

Y'know, it's kinda funny...it seems that when a guy "comes out" to his wife about being gay or bi, she usually freaks. On the other hand, when a woman "comes out" to her husband about being gay or bi, well, he is generally soooooo happy that he's gonna get to realize his fantasy of making it with two women, and/or watching two women "doing it" that any misgivings (except for religious ones, I guess) disappear.

That having been said, I personally enjoy the 2 men with 1 woman scenario. You bet I'm selfish! Since women are (mostly) capable of more than one orgasm per session, it makes a lot of sense (and a LOT of fun). Besides, I get off on watching 2 guys go at it. And go at me, too:tong:

Anyhow...good for you, curious1048! Carry on, Seasonschange! And Adam, now that you're single....:suave:

[wannabebi]

That's terriffic! Doesn't it feel great to finally get it off your chest?

Yea.. But I still love it on my Chest!!!:bigrin:

[12voltman59]

Last night i decided too come clean and tell my wife my feelings about being with another man. I have tried doing it for about a year but every time i chickened out. She took it very well and we have started talking about acting on this. Hopefully i will have some stories too share with you soon.

Congrats Curious and good luck on all of this!!!!!

[wanderingrichard]

Last night i decided too come clean and tell my wife my feelings about being with another man. I have tried doing it for about a year but every time i chickened out. She took it very well and we have started talking about acting on this. Hopefully i will have some stories too share with you soon.
cool! here's hoping that you enjoy many years of fulfilling your wishes, and that you always have the love and support of your spouse...

[wanderingrichard]

Well, good for you.....

I was not quite so fortunate. When I told my (now ex) wife about my possible proclivity for people of the same sex, she started throwing things at me and calling me all sorts of really horrid names. She left and went home to her odd-looking mother and filed for divorce.

She got lucky enough to get the proceedings conducted before some homophobic judge who sentenced me to years of community service, and a hugh amount of alimony. I am still to this very day paying all that alimony... I try to just consider it to be the screwing I get for the screwing I got.

I try to not be bitter about it, but I really think that I have been treated un-fairly. She has left me stuck with a great deal of bills, and this stupid, annoying cat who, in addition to having no respect for me what so ever, pisses all over my shoes, and spends most of her spare time staring at me as though I have stepped upon her baby or something.

My advise to everyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation would be to not volunteer any information that you do not absolutely have to. If she catches you in bed with another guy, just deny it, and tell her that she is having hallucinations which are the direct result of that South Beach Diet that you warned her about.

Thank you and have a nice evening...

Adam

so, dude, get rid of the cat.. find another home for it if it's messing up your life like that..

[anne27]

Congrats! :bigrin::bipride:

It took me a little while to get used to it when I found out my hubby was bi. Of course, it would have went better if he had told me instead of me finding gay porn when I was cleaning out his car, but I digress *L*. We both now accept and support each other for who we are. When I realized a few years later that I was bisexual as well his understanding and support, since he had already gone through all the emotions and self searching, were invaluable to me.

I am one who believes honesty is always best. Mind you, I know some people are in situations where it's nearly impossible to come out to one's spouse, but if you can't confide in the one person in the world who's suppose to be closest to you, who can you tell?:2cents:

[querty]

well, I tried to but, no go. My wife (love her completely, totally) went down the path of "I am so inadequate (sp?) that he has turned to men". In retrospect, there were other things going on at the time that, my timing was bad.

So good luck - I hope she can embrace that side of you - and as I always say to folks, be happy, be safe, have fun!

[mannysg]

Last night i decided too come clean and tell my wife my feelings about being with another man. I have tried doing it for about a year but every time i chickened out. She took it very well and we have started talking about acting on this. Hopefully i will have some stories too share with you soon.


Glad she took it so well!

I told my wife many years ago about my bi-side. She accepted it very well, and even got turned on by the thought of seeing me with another guy. Unfortunately, she doesn't feel comfortable with me actually acting out my desires, so it remains (at least for now) as a fantasy for us.

[Not2str8]

Wow 1048 ! I am so thrilled that coming out turned out so well for you. I came out to my wife about 5 years ago. Fulfilling my worst fears, she freaked. We stayed together, but the next year was pretty tense, and I was certain that I was going to lose her. The pressure of hiding it was eating at me so badly, that I was willing to risk losing her, rather than remain closetted. Then one day she came to me and said, "Guess what ? I think I'm bi, too." She now credits me with permitting her to see her bisexuality in herself, and the courage to accept and embrace it. It's now a part of our everyday conversation and life. We've been to Pride Fest 4 times in a row now, and she has even participated in a MMF with me. I wish all coming out stories turned out like mine. I've never known such love and acceptance. I hope your path parallels ours, 1048.

[HighEnergy]

Adam,
I'm really sorry to hear your story. But, on a lighter note, can I borrow the cat? I have this ex....

[AdamKadmon43]

Adam,
I'm really sorry to hear your story. But, on a lighter note, can I borrow the cat? I have this ex....

Too late....

I took WanderingRichard's advice and killed the damn cat. She now resides in her new home in Cat Heaven.

Adam

[ambiSextrous]

Too late....

I took WanderingRichard's advice and killed the damn cat.

Adam
tooooo bad! i figured you'd be into eating 'pussy' :tong:

[mindfinding]

Congrats man, honesty is the best way to do it.

When I came out to my wife, she was very supportive and understanding, however I know I could never cheat on her. Even with her consent. That said, being here has been great. I have learned very much from those around me.

I even better understand the fleshly desires I have. Being here has helped a great deal.

Best to ya, and good on ya for being honest with your wife.

[redheadhoneycat]

Wow that is so great to hear!!!!!! It is awesome that you don't have to hide anymore...good for you!!!:) I am the wife and when my husband came out to me I was very happy for him. I just felt bad he had been keeping that for so long that it was a burden to him. He was so afraid that I would not be open to it but the fact was I feel even closer to him now.First he trusted me enough to share and second we have more in common than I once knew.I wish more people were open enough to accept this. :bipride:

[curious1048]

Thanks for all the great reply's i feel like i can tell you guys anything now.....

[ohbimale]

Good for you Curious1048. I am happy she took it well. I hope you have a joyfull life with her and a whole bunch of wonderfull experiences. :three::male::male:

[wanderingrichard]

Too late....

I took WanderingRichard's advice and killed the damn cat. She now resides in her new home in Cat Heaven.

Adam


HuhN? You did what?? ya know, if you go back and read what i said, it was, " get rid of the cat. find another home for it"... i am no fan of cats, or of destructive animals of any type [ includes us humans, too] but to outright kill the thing?? no, the most elegant way to remove it from your life would have been to hand it over to someone YOU didnt like, and let them deal with its [ pun intended] pissy attitude...

[sexyandhorny24]

Thats great to here, i came out and told my wife about me being bi she was upset that i kepted it from her for all the years we were married but things worked out great and then later on i learned she was also bi and her sister is pure lesbian. So now were working on finding girls for her to have her first girl to girl experince and guys for me, but it all works out good in the end, once again glad to here of ur good luck women are so hard to understand and to talk to but guys its a chance we need to take.

[simcoelonewolf]

I gave some weak hints and joking innuendo to feel her out first. It was obvious what her feeelings were and what her reation would be so I guess I'll stay closeted and hope anyone I meet is very discrete. Some say it makes me a cheater and others say I cannot deny myself so I guess I'm a cheater. Good luck Curious1048 and if you're looking for that 1st time with someone gentle let me know. Maybe we can work something out ;D

[BornBiSexual]

Congrats, I told my wife I was bisexual and she loved it so much, happily married now for 15 years. I wish more people were open to bisexuality. Especially guy on guy it can be very erotic.