why finding a compatible bi friend is so hard?

[bsiexualcenter]

do you agree with that? I broke up with bi partner 2 year ago. Ever since then, i began to search for a new bi friend who can share the common interests and passion together. but it is so hard. i tried many bi sites, like bicafe, bisexualcenter and so on. people there are so hidding. it makes deeply depressed.

[FalconAngel]

We do agree.
Finding compatible people is difficult. Most of that is because many of us have a need to stay under the radar. Most of the folks like that have a very real need to do so, but some do it just out of fear; whether real or perceived, of being found out.

Some of it is also finding someone that fits in with what you are looking for. Compatibility is always the biggest issue in developing any relationship, no matter what the sexuality of the people involved.

[Johnny Reb]

do you agree with that? I broke up with bi partner 2 year ago. Ever since then, i began to search for a new bi friend who can share the common interests and passion together. but it is so hard. i tried many bi sites, like bicafe, bisexualcenter and so on. people there are so hidding. it makes deeply depressed.

I'm assuming you a same gender bi friend? Finding one can be very tough. I have on bi friend, but it is a female friend and see lives 1700 miles away (used to live in the same town)

As Falcon said, it is because people often have to hide. I do. I was sort of accidently outed recently by my friend that I told you about. She sent me a letter and mentioned my bisexuality in it. My mom found it. I left it carelessly sitting around, so it was mostly my fault it happened. My family is very religious...not a good combination. I had to tell her it was just a phase and that I am not bi for keep the peace. It was do that or be on the street. What choice did I have?

I wish I could be more open, and others could be more open, so that we could find friends for mutual support if nothing else.

[DiamondDog]

I find it easy.

However, I go out of my way to meet new people.

I'm out and it's not a secret, and I don't hide myself.

I personally don't like sites like MySpace or other ones and I perfer meeting people face to face.

Also I can tell if someone is gay/bi very easily.

[Johnny Reb]

I find it easy.

However, I go out of my way to meet new people.

I'm out and it's not a secret, and I don't hide myself.

I personally don't like sites like MySpace or other ones and I perfer meeting people face to face.

Also I can tell if someone is gay/bi very easily.

How can you tell if someone is bi or gay, by mannerisms and what not? I suspected someone of being bi a few years back and was right. They came out the their spouse last year. For me it was just sort of a sixth sense. I sort of sensed it, but couldn't explain how I did.

[onewhocares]

Yes, I can agree with your comments. Hubby and I have been on this site for two years and in that time we have met many wonderful people. I guess that I am one of the lucky ones here, as I have met so so many people in person. 30 or so. More whom I someday hope to meet in person as they have become important parts of my life. In the time spent here I have had two really wonderful relationships. The first has changed its form from a romantic physical one to a more emotional friendship one....He wants to journey down a road to a new gender and I support him in his quest and do all I can for him. The second, we met on line here now over a year ago and found that we have so much in common and our thoughts are similar that our relationship has taken a new direction and I can not be happier. Even my hubby, my soul mate and love of my life has said I am a much happier person since I have him in my life. I am the lucky one.

But often I think that I am the exception to the rule. Most are not so fortunate as I am told. But like DD, I am always out there trying my best to be a good contact and I really do enjoy chatting with people. I have not met any one who is other than what they said they were. I have never pretended to be anything than what I am....a kind and caring six foot tall curvy blonde with a nice personality. A tad naive and daft at times. I tend to make friends easily and I am grateful for that.

Perhaps I am naive in my opinions and thoughts on the people on this site. I guess I see no reason why people should present themselves as something they are not. Say what you want, what your level of desire is and stick to it. No head games. I think it would make meeting people easier. But first, I think we all have to really ask ourselves what we want from this site. Once you find that answer then start your journey to meet someone.

Just my thoughts...

Belle

[DiamondDog]

How can you tell if someone is bi or gay, by mannerisms and what not? I suspected someone of being bi a few years back and was right. They came out the their spouse last year. For me it was just sort of a sixth sense. I sort of sensed it, but couldn't explain how I did.

That's exactly what it's like. Having a 6th sense or telepathy.

It can even be argued that it is telepathy.

My ex boss and I were talking about that and he's hetero but we agreed that gay/bidar or the ability to read people is telepathy.

It doesn't have anything to do with mannerisms as stereotypes don't always hold true, most GLB people don't fit into them, and people do a lot of projecting of themselves upon other people.

It also doesn't have anything to do with if the person is openly or subconsciously cruising or flirting with you.

That being said I'm pretty good at it, and I can sometimes tell before the other person knows this about themselves or accepts it. I can also tell in public or if we're in a non gay/mixed crowd environment like I have seen people in public places like wal mart or other places.

I have also had people pick up on me and we'll talk that way.

[parkwings]

HaaHaa Diamond, I really enjoy your posts..they are refreshingly upfront with no bs, it just makes me laugh..in a good way :bigrin:

[jamiehue]

just grabbed the keys.... off to walmart!!!!!

[Johnny Reb]

HaaHaa Diamond, I really enjoy your posts..they are refreshingly upfront with no bs, it just makes me laugh..in a good way :bigrin:

I enjoy what he has to say too, now that I am able to lurk again lol

[DiamondDog]

just grabbed the keys.... off to walmart!!!!!

Eh you don't want him.

He was married and on the DL.

He complimented me on my apperance and said I got him all hot and bothered and I said thanks and then he ran off!

Anyway it's not a big deal as I just took it as a compliment and I have met gay/bi men in all sorts of environments.

[CHOCOLATECITY32]

i totally agree with what everyone is saying.....on this site some are lucky to meet some gr8 ppl and some are not so lucky...i have been on other sites and they tell you the exciting stuff just to buy their membership and a lot of ppl don't respond which is pathetic.....i have this girl that i came out to and she's very cool but i can see and feel the rejection block between us.....i also had a cousin that i came out to recently and she went behind my back and told my brother...can't tell her a damn thing again.....yes my trust is limited 2 a lot of ppl and u have akward ppl who have never came across or even met a l.g.b.t person in their life.truth is that we have to be patient even if we don't wanna wait but in time or as time passes we will find a good friend who we r compatible with..my thing is that new years is coming up real soon i refuse 2 be single and alone for the tear 2008......