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Dec 5, 2007, 2:27 AM
Hi guys,
I'm new here, I just found this site after searching for resources to help me with my problem. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this, and was hoping someone on here could help. Maybe someone has had a similar experience?
Growing up I always had more crushes on girls than on guys. Granted, these have been for girls I didn't actually know, so the crush might have gone away had I gotten to know them. I'm a very shy 23 year old and my relationship history pretty much consists of two long-term relationships with men. During these relationships I was totally head-over-heels in love and lust with them. But both times I eventually lost my passion for them and ended the relationship. I think it was a number of things which led to this, namely: long-distance, the relationship not being fresh anymore, and my attraction to and curiosity about women. I have also in the past been really into gay porn, but find now that I gravitate towards lesbian porn (anyone seen VivThomas' stuff?).
SO, I'm just trying to figure out if I'm straight, bi, or gay. I know you're probably thinking that no one can decide that but me, but I have been wracking my brains over this for the past year and still don't know. It's probably because I've never actually experienced anything with a girl, so I just don't know if I'll like it or if it's just a fantasy. I know a lot of straight women fantasize about being with another woman.
I guess I'm wondering if you guys can give me your best guess, from the description I provided, as to whether you think I'm straight/bi/gay at this point. I'm hesitant because I don't know for sure, and don't want to be one of those straight girls giving bisexuals a bad name, or a gay girl using bisexuality as a temporary thing.
Anyway, if anyone could offer any advice (or personal stories) I would really, really appreciate it!
I'm new here, I just found this site after searching for resources to help me with my problem. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this, and was hoping someone on here could help. Maybe someone has had a similar experience?
Growing up I always had more crushes on girls than on guys. Granted, these have been for girls I didn't actually know, so the crush might have gone away had I gotten to know them. I'm a very shy 23 year old and my relationship history pretty much consists of two long-term relationships with men. During these relationships I was totally head-over-heels in love and lust with them. But both times I eventually lost my passion for them and ended the relationship. I think it was a number of things which led to this, namely: long-distance, the relationship not being fresh anymore, and my attraction to and curiosity about women. I have also in the past been really into gay porn, but find now that I gravitate towards lesbian porn (anyone seen VivThomas' stuff?).
SO, I'm just trying to figure out if I'm straight, bi, or gay. I know you're probably thinking that no one can decide that but me, but I have been wracking my brains over this for the past year and still don't know. It's probably because I've never actually experienced anything with a girl, so I just don't know if I'll like it or if it's just a fantasy. I know a lot of straight women fantasize about being with another woman.
I guess I'm wondering if you guys can give me your best guess, from the description I provided, as to whether you think I'm straight/bi/gay at this point. I'm hesitant because I don't know for sure, and don't want to be one of those straight girls giving bisexuals a bad name, or a gay girl using bisexuality as a temporary thing.
Anyway, if anyone could offer any advice (or personal stories) I would really, really appreciate it!