Gender Roles Essay

[badkittyamy]

Just a link to a research paper I did on Gender roles in today's society, I figured it might interest a few people here.

http://www.freewebtown.com/badkittyamy/genderroles.htm

I wrote this for my final in my non-fiction writing class. Luckily I have an awesome teacher who goes through the trouble of participating in the day of silence even when she has classes to teach (she writes on the chalkboard) So I was able to do an essay like this. Though that was the only thing I thought would pertain to this site you can find the rest of my ramblings at

http://www.freewebtown.com/badkittyamy/writings.htm

Hope some of you enjoy it you can leave comments and opinions about that or any of the other things on my site.

-Amy

[badkittyamy]

http://www.freewebtown.com/badkittyamy/writings.htm

-Amy

Sorry for this half the link is wrong, (the essay link is fine) the correct link here would be http://studentpages.scad.edu/~aswaby20/writings.htm

[m.in.heels&hose]

Hello amy
KUDOS to you, what you wrote is what i have been feeling for the last 7 years or better
i have been living a double life (if you will) i have a very "male" job, but i dress as feminine as i can get away with everyday, i no longer wear "male" underwear, and i keep my toe nails painted a shade of pink and i do keep my legs and underarms shaved as well and i also wear a lightly scented female deodorant
and it is also my wish to wear my girl shoes out in public (i have been wearing them in semi public for the last two years) but i would always like to wear them everywhere i go (and not be ridiculed)

Where is it written that one cant do "male" things while dressed in "womans" clothes anyway? thats just about how i do my male things, i have waxed a car while in my heels & in a 2 peice bikini , and i have also remodeled my kitchen while in my flats and nylons

i am pleased that i am the first to respond to you wonderful thread, and i could really hug and kiss you for touching on such a personal subject of mine
i am always looking for input on what peoples views are towards crossdressers

it is also my belief that someday they will have pantyhose commercials for men too, (im starting to think a majority of pantyhose wearers are men) because just about every woman i talk to about them seem to hate them, and dont wear them unless they absolutly have to


thank you very much for letting me have my :2cents: in this subject
m.in.heels&hose :)


P.S. amy if you did this essay for a class and were graded on it, i sure hope you got an A for it, (if i was the professor you would have)
thank you again amy!

[DaveAFC]

Hi Amy,

You certainly raise some interesting points. I have never really thought about the concept/theory that online role playing games could be a positive contributing factor to increased tolerance and acceptance of another's 'sexual identity'.

Your point about 'social pressure of guys to be masculine' is also worth noting. The reason I spotted this, was the previous topic I was reading about people's first bi expriences. In that some guys said they considered themselves to be 'late bloomers' not understanding or acting upon their 'bi' instincts until after they turned 30 (or around that age). The necessity or (peer) pressure to conform to 'standards of the day' (ie guys have to be tough and cant show any emotion), would certainly force some people to suppress their nature instincts/desires. Thus when they are free of these expectations (or shackles), they are in a position where they could act or investigate their desires...

Just my thoughts....

[badkittyamy]

Truly I have no idea what grade I got on it but if I got anything less than an A it's because my teacher would have thought I could do better. She's really quite awesome. I may one day write something more specifically on gender roles here in The Bahamas and people's view on gays etc and show why I've chosen to be out while at school in America but not home in The Bahamas.
I've gone over it so many times now though I don't know if I would have the energy to re-etirate it yet again. lol after the millionth time even I get tired of saying something yet again.
I'm glad though that some people went ahead and read and commented lol I was beginning to wonder if no one would. Thanks :tong: :bigrin:

[gina42]

amy,
i hope that you got an A+ on that paper,it was very well written...
you'll have to let us all know what your grade was dear...
hugs,gina42
(MIHH's wife) :)

[arana]

Yes, Amy, your paper is quite good. Thanks for sharing it with us. When I started school we were never allowed to wear pants, girls wore dresses. You had to go by a strict dress code, and this was public school. Boy's couldn't even wear jeans, they had to be in slacks. Now you can wear just about anything, so times have changed very much.

I sometimes wonder if the women are more accepted doing things such as wearing men's clothing and being "tomboys" because of the old thinking of men being dominate. What woman wouldn't want to be like a man because they are superior, so it would be "cute" to see the little girl trying to be like a man. But, what man would want to be like a woman because they are inferior, therefore it would be degrading for any man to be seen in women's roles, clothing, make up and so on. Just a thought.

[Sparks]

Nice work, angel. As one grows, at least for me, we tend to change our view a bit. This is to say that we all have roles to play. Society dictates that to us. Instead of using the term role, I now prefer the term hat.

Each and every one of us wears many hat's. Gender and sexuality has nothing to do with it. I've been a husband in a marriage, and I've also been a single parent (to a daughter) and played the role of MR. Mom. The bottom line to all this is honesty.

Screw gender roles. When a challenge looks us in the face, put the appropriate hat on. Be it mother, father, child, or simply a friend; always follow your heart.

Like or not, we all wear many hats. It's called life, and I embrace it with all my heart. I offer each of you this holiday season the following gift. It's a passage from one of the most wonderful books ever written.

"And let your best be for your friend.
If he must know the ebb of your tide,
let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should
seek him with hours to kill?
Seek him always with hours to live.
For it is his to fill your need,
but not your emptiness.
And in the sweetness of friendship let
there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart
finds its morning and is refreshed."
"Kahlil Gibran; The Prophet"

Merry Christmas

[badkittyamy]

Yes, Amy, your paper is quite good. Thanks for sharing it with us. When I started school we were never allowed to wear pants, girls wore dresses. You had to go by a strict dress code, and this was public school. Boy's couldn't even wear jeans, they had to be in slacks. Now you can wear just about anything, so times have changed very much.


Here in the Bahamas every school private or not wears uniforms. And only one of those school I blieve gives girls the options to wear a version of the uniform with pants. In lower school I had to wear a jumper and one you get i think in the higher grades you can wear a blouse with the school emblem and a pleated skirt with the proper colours. Same thing in High school except you go all the way through in a pleated plaid skirt and a blouse.
I had always wished they'd let us have pants because on windy days if you didn;t have shorts on underneath you were screwed

[OralBradley]

I read and enjoyed your essay, but want to read it several times to catch all of it. I also hope that you get an "A" for your good work.