Need some advice

[Curiious4More]

I've been around here for some time but I am not very active on the forums, but now I am in need of some advice...

I'm in my mid-twenties now and have still yet to have a meaningful long term relationship with a female. I have dated around and all that but still, the longest relationship I've had has only been 3 months.

When I was younger, in my last year of high school I had my one and only bi-experience with another guy. We didn't do much but it was enough to leave me wondering. He didn't want to do it again but I did. I am no longer in contact with this guy but the feeling has been getting stronger in me as to my desire to try being with a guy again. I am too cautious though to just pick up a guy somewhere for fear of various things like std's, etc...

Any advice from anyone as to how to handle these feelings is greatly appreciated... I am not looking to cyber with anyone, just in need of advice. Thanks.

[bisexualinsocal]

I've been around here for some time but I am not very active on the forums, but now I am in need of some advice...

I'm in my mid-twenties now and have still yet to have a meaningful long term relationship with a female. I have dated around and all that but still, the longest relationship I've had has only been 3 months.

When I was younger, in my last year of high school I had my one and only bi-experience with another guy. We didn't do much but it was enough to leave me wondering. He didn't want to do it again but I did. I am no longer in contact with this guy but the feeling has been getting stronger in me as to my desire to try being with a guy again. I am too cautious though to just pick up a guy somewhere for fear of various things like std's, etc...

Any advice from anyone as to how to handle these feelings is greatly appreciated... I am not looking to cyber with anyone, just in need of advice. Thanks.

In the mid 20's I wouldn't worry about building a relationship. Build quality friendships yes, but relationships wouldn't be my focus. Not even at my age (33) am I seriously looking for a relationship.... simply because I like the freedom :bigrin: These are your days of wine and roses, dude. Enjoy it because a mortgage, job, career, family and ALL the obligations of adulthood will come soon enough.

[Curiious4More]

Dang... thought I might get a little more help than just this... :tong: oh well.

[eddy10]

Curiious,

You just posted today. You will get more input.

You said you have had short relationships with females. Did that include sex? If so, was it a pleasure, and left you wanting more? Or, where you simply going through the motions because it is what you thought you should do?

My humble advice is to look around and explore your feelings. No telling where you truly are on the Kinsey scale unless you investigate further to find out.

[Curiious4More]

Yea I have had plenty of very satisfying sex with females... but there has always been that little voice in my head ever since my experience years ago. I am certain that I prefer females to males but I seem to find interest in males too...

The relationships were satisfying while they lasted, but for some reason the girl always changed and lost interest in me or I found her cheating on me...

[still_shy]

I was just like you. Had a sexual relationship with a woman when I was 18. It haunted me for the next 10 years, but I was so afraid of myself I couldn't do anything about it. Now that I have, I find it's one of the most wonderful experiences I can imagine. I doubt this is very helpful. Basically what I'm trying to say is this, you only live once, don't let your fears talk you into avoiding something that will enrich your life. It could be something that you could live without, but you never know till you try. :2cents: