Depression!

[rissababynta]

My husband left today for Harrisburg and tomorrow he is going to be leaving for his MOS school with the Army. He's only going to be gone for about eleven weeks, but I am just so sad right now! I'm almost done with my pregnancy and we already have two children (the oldest keeps asking about Daddy going bye bye with the Army guys) who are going to miss him.

I knew this day was coming and I thought I was going to be ok with it. In fact, I was sure that I was going to be fine. It turns out that when I dropped him off at the recruiters office today, I wasn't as fine as I had planned on being. Of course I have to be strong for my kids and for my husband, but all day long when I've been alone I've been breaking down.

Eleven weeks isn't so bad, so I don't know if I'm so scared and sad right now because since the day we met we've barely been apart for a day or if it's because having to have so much strength for the children and the new baby (which I will labor with alone while he is away) is much more pressure than I expected it to be.

Sorry, but I just had to vent everyone :-)

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

As a former Military wife, I completely understand, Honey. I was 17 years old and already had a daughter a year old when I was married.
My husband was in Viet Nam close to the fall of Siagon, and everynight I had to hear on the news about all of the atrocities that went on over there. I was pregnant, and alone because we were stationed away from my family, until I got so far along that I went back home to have my baby. I was sooo fortunate to have a large family for moral support and comfort.

When he got home, he only had a few months until he was to get out, but it seemed like an eternity until the weekends came. All of the men in his unit were very supportive and nice to me. When I went into labor with my oldest son, he(my husband) was at Camp Pendelton in Calif, and I was in San Bernardino. I went into labor in the middle of the night, and he couldnt get to me. My son was born at 3 am and my husband couldnt get home until he was 3 days old. ;}
The whole Marine Corps barracks got together and got me a Very nice basket and sent it home with Mike for me and the baby.
So you see m'love, I wholeheartedly understand where you are coming from, and how you are feeling. But please know this: You are Not alone. You have those other babies to be strong for. And,m if you need it, there are Ombsbudsmen to contact that will lend support and help. Its up to you to contact them
Hang in there Sugar. It'll be alright.
Big big Hugz
Cat

[onewhocares]

Rissa,

My heart goes out to you dear one. I can not personally imagine how you must be trying to cope. Our roles, both as wives and mothers is innately to offer support and courage. That in many instances does not come easily and I am sure you are or will be hurting while having a smile on your face and a hug to the children.

But......

Remember Rissa, you DO have a family. Your family here. We are here, lean up us! We have broad shoulders, good ears to listen, and gentle fingers to dry your tears. No will never be alone. I think you know this from the responses to the thread about your son's recent medical issues. We are here, and are put a quick jaunt to the key board.

He will be home in ten weeks and six days.

Belle

[IanBorthwick]

My heart goes out to you dear. I recommend SunTheanine to help you feel better. It's natural and safe, an extract from Green Tea that assists in maintaining the body's ability to maintain Dopamine levels. That's your natural feel good hormones. It won't harm the baby anymore than having a piece of chocolate, and has no caffeine.

*hugs*

[shortandsassy]

It is normal to feel a loss and or depressed for a loved one leaving. You have my deepest well wishes!!!

[Lonestar_Northstar]

I empathize with you. But I would like to point something out to you...

You have stated your man is in the Army and your profile clearly states he is bisexual and shows his face. I was in the United States Navy for 18 years and 10 months and I was discharged for being bisexual. I HIGHLY suggest you remove the pictures with his face so he does not face the same consequences.

Just my 2 cents....

[**Peg**]

... I was in the United States Navy for 18 years and 10 months and I was discharged for being bisexual. I HIGHLY suggest you remove the pictures with his face so he does not face the same consequences.

oh excellent advice boatcouple!

Peg (raised in the military: I see not much has changed in 50 years)