Bisexual or just bicurious?

[BiPhone]

Hi everybody! I concider myself bisexual but a strange thing happened to me this evening and I wanted your opinion. Even though I have had sexual fantasies about men, made out with a few and would love to "go all the way" someday with another man, I have until now not "done it". I have a girlfriend who is very comfortable with me being bi and says that it makes me even more interesting and "man" to her.

A friend of mine and I came into an argument tonight where claimed that since i have yet to do it with another man I cannot call myself bisexual. He said I was bi curious. and even though I am curious about men I feel the term is so much more then waht you do. Its a state of being and not just something you do. I know my girlfriend would stay if and when I have sex with a man but I know she really hopes this will not happen. I myself dont feel the need to fuck a guy isnt worth her being hurt. I love her very much... But I feel that just because i havent done it I am not "allowed" to be called bisexual. I know it is just lables but sometimes lables can be comfortable to explain who you are! Any views? Opinions? Experiences?

[eddy10]

As "Popeye the Sailor Man" said .... "I yam what I yam."

It does not matter what you call yourself. It does not matter what others call you. You are just what you are, no more, no less. Forget trying to fit a label.

Life is a journey. Learn to enjoy the ride.

[kerry11]

i think a lot of men wonder about the same thing you are taling about, i'm 63 and have been with men off and on thru the years but never a steady thing, so i wonder if i am really biusexual but yet when i masturbate i always fantasize being with a man, i think to me it's just a pure sexual thing because i have no desire to have a relationship or live with a man.

[Minxy]

like eddy said, u are who u are

i guess people cud use the 'curious' bit when they are unsure of what they feel is something that they wud actually like/enjoy when it comes to the crunch.... when i was younger i found women to be pretty sexy but i always was scared that if i tryed i wudnt like it, so maybe it was jus eye candy i liked, my curiousity got the better of me, and i so happened to like it, so it opened my mind a lot more :)

[open2joy]

I really don't think it matters, probably both "labels" fit you as they do me. Its one long line from one extreme to the other and you and I fall somewhere in the middle. Groovy, isn't it?

You should concentrate more of your energy on enjoying yourself rather than sweating the small stuff. You seem to think that you can only try sex with a man by yourself. Ever consider sharing a man with your girlfriend? Having sex with a man together? I can tell you that there is nothing better than that. My wife didn't like the idea at first but we tried it and it totally rocks. She loves it and goes wild.


My favorite fantasy comes to life.

Be good.

[elian]

Hmm..by that logic a person couldn't be considered "straight" until they had sex with the opposite gender for the first time..