Coming out?

[reneesteph]

How would one best go about exploring one's bisexuality? I'm tg. male but very female sexually and want to meet partners to explore my sexuality further and am somewhat lost. would love to meet either attractive males or females to help me explore my feminine sexuality and any of their mutual interests. Can anyone help me do this discreetly, safely and in a fun way?

[smokey]

follow your heart (and dick of course LOL) and don't worry about it. There are straight bars and there are gay bars, but then there are also places where both are welcome, thats a good place to start or if your city has a gay pride day check it out because there is always a large bisexual contigent at those and often information as well. As for "coming out" I think the whole notion is rather foolish...nobody needs to know what you do in bed and with whom unless you want them to (except lovers, I am a big believer in openness with them about my preferances), not your parents, friends, co-workers or siblings needs know unless it is important to you. I have seen gay men start a job and they are like BAWWWLAH (annoying sound effect LOL) HEY EVERYBODY I'M GAY like Jack on Will & Grace and I just wanna say nobody gives a flying fuck, get over yourself. Doing so may make you feel good about yourself (and I wonder about that) but it is also just as likely cause trouble as well. It is nobodies business except those you love. That being said I do think it is important to confront self loathing, repressive or destructive closet cases (a few Republican law makers come to mind like that guy in Washington state) because they can do alot of damage, but hey thats not my job.

[Driver 8]

"Exploring sexuality" means many things to many people. It sounds like what you're looking for is attractive friends of both genders with whom you can be sexual as well as having non-sexual fun ... is that right?

Bi support groups are often open to people who are transgender, but it doesn't follow that everyone who attends will be equally open, so although I'm all in favor of getting involved with your local bi community, you might talk to the organizer first to see what sort of reception you can expect. Also, many local bi groups are built around discussion and support; going there with thinking "I'll make supportive friends" will often get better results than "I'm going to get laid."

You already have a personal ad up here, and that's a start. I'll let others comment on the personals since I don't really use them. As for "safe," though, I'd recommend getting to know any potential partners socially - and preferably meeting in a public place - before meeting with them privately. That might help weed out people who are creepy, dangerous, or just looking for freaky sex (I'm not opposed to freaky sex if that's what everyone involved wants, but it doesn't seem to be what you're looking for).

Good luck!

[OralBradley]

:flag3: :male: I don't bother to "come out" to everybody; it simply isn't any of theier damned business. My family and close friends all know that I am bisexual and either pretty much ignore it or are supportive. My wife and daughter are both very supportive. My niece is lesbian, and my grandson is homosexual. I suspect that my brother at one time was in a homosexual relationship with a former Army buddy before they both died.