evrything and nothing

[smicheller]

can life get any worse for me, i'm bi, i try to be with a guy, didn't work, all the nice ladies are far from me, have no friends, no life and every time i get on my feet something always trip me up, and it's back to the beginning. Starting over once again, keep tryin an tryin an gettin know where. Why can't i live a normal life like everyone else. What's wrong with me that i'm always attracting user and not so good people in my life. Even when i'm on my meds my life still sucks. I'm nothing and i'm starting to believe it will be this way till the end. I'm loosing the will to go on. :bipride::bibounce::flag4:

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

If you Keep believing that you are nothing, then you will Make yourself into a nothing. You need to make up your mind to be a fighter and quit with the poor me attitude, Girlfriend. You're never gunna get anywhere believing this and the more you tell yourself this, the more you are going to mire yourself down until you cant stand up anymore. Why do that to yourself when life is Meant to be lived and enkjoyed to its fullest!?

Find a good counsilor that you can talk to, or find a good on-line support group and decide that you Are worth more than you realize. But the Very first thing you need to do is get rid of the "Eore" syndrome. People will be more recieptive to you if you try to adopt a more positive outlook. The people here are wonderful folks, and will give you advice and support, but that attitude has to go before any of us can help you, Sweetie. You first have to Want to help yourself, and noone can walk that path but You.
Quit beating yourself down and stand up and face the world.
Good Luck
Cat. :}

[jem_is_bi]

Everyone (including me) has had times where we keep getting knocked down as soon as we manage to get up. Go ahead and curse your fate, but get back on your feet even more determined to succeed and eventually you will. It is ok to feel bad when all is not good for you but it is not ok to give up on yourself. You must use your present unhappiness as motivation to attain a situation of harmony and happiness.

[darkeyes]

Thing bout human beins hun is we attract so often those who for woteva reason we attract.. mosly its cos they fancy us an like us.. but sumtimes, spesh wen we r down.. but also wen we don believe in ourselves, we attract the rong type. From the lil information ya gives seems u fallin into that category..

Wen we r lively an brite..an positive.. we tend 2 attract those who r likewise luffly peeps.. not exclusively but wen we r at our best we can more often than not weed out the wheat from the chaff. On the otha hand..wen we don believe in ourselves, or r down in sum way..espesh if in a depression.. then we tend 2 attract the parasites who prey on misery..the users an not so gud peeps as u call 'em.

Ya didn say wot ya meds wer.. but assumin they r treatment for depression..ya tone a desperation lead me 2 that view.. hav been ther... 2 often.. an expect at sum stage 2 b ther gain.. an wen me wos in depression ther no doubt me attracted peeps an did things me wudn do wen me more usual brite an breezy self... misery breeds misery..an it attracts it.. an it jus goes on an on.. me knos an dread it eva happnin gain even tho me knos it will.. the feelin a emptiness, uselessness..unattractiveness.. worthlessness.. but hun..if it is depression..it will get betta.. an then wen yas feelin human gain..an not jus sum 1 who aint worth a damn..sit bak an think positively an reappraise ya life.. Cat sez get counsellin or find sum kinda support group.. that works for lotsa peeps as dus therapy..tho ova ere we don quite go in for therapy 2 the degree u lot do in the States.. me avoids it like grim death but thats me... me jus don respond 2 it.. butya do need support..we all do in times a stress.. even if its jus ya m8s whose shoulda ya can blub on .. ther peeps in ere who r brill lissners an will help all they can... an in times a stress thats helped me wen me had no 1 else 2 hand..

Am lukky tho..hav a partner who luffs me..parents who me can tell owt 2..siblings me fites like cat an dog wiv but r ther wen me needs 'em..an m8's who luff me not cos they havta not bein family..but cos they r simply wonderful human beins who wud do owt an lissen 2 owt wen ne of us need help...

Life mite look black now.. find things 2 do 2 make ya feel gud.. retail therapy always a gud thing for me..if ya play an instrument do it..force yasel..lose yasel in ya own lil world an dream a betta days.. as ya begin 2 think betta a yasel an the world ya world will begin 2 think betta a u..an then the rewards will cum.. its trite 2 say think positive now..me knos from me own experience how diff it is wenya feels mizzy an worthless..but as ya do begin 2 feel a lil more happy then begin 2 take the world an all its wondas inta ya open arms .. an wen ya dus that..an smile..becum an altogetha diff person... an a beautiful, attractive woman who will attract nice peeps inta ya orbit.. mayb not always luffers.. but friends.. an gud 1's an all..an gud an true m8s can helpya b that attractive personality who can also attract wonderful luffers..:)

[onewhocares]

Smich,

How lucky are you that you have three of the most kind and caring people on this site comment on your thread. I must whole heartedly agree with Cat when she says YOU must believe in yourself. Life shall go on around you..but the one person you can count on is yourself. We ALL have times of self doubt and wish we were someone else or had a different life...but alas we are dealt the cards we have. It is up to you to play the best hand you can. I have always believed that you must be true to yourself first, last and always.

Belle

[proseros]

can life get any worse for me, i'm bi, i try to be with a guy, didn't work, all the nice ladies are far from me, have no friends, no life and every time i get on my feet something always trip me up, and it's back to the beginning. Starting over once again, keep tryin an tryin an gettin know where. Why can't i live a normal life like everyone else. What's wrong with me that i'm always attracting user and not so good people in my life. Even when i'm on my meds my life still sucks. I'm nothing and i'm starting to believe it will be this way till the end. I'm loosing the will to go on. :bipride::bibounce::flag4:

OKay my dear. You want and answer to your question?

YES. Your life could be worse. So much worse that noone would ever have hear or read that you raised such a question because the life you claim you don't have - You literally would not have, because you wouldn't exist. That's just for starters...

You could be blind.
You could have no fingers or hands to type with.
You could be heterosexual and stuck in a miserable marriage with no opportunity to either express or experience your actual bisexuality.
You could be-any number of otherwise 'unpleasant' things that quite few people who are those things or who are in those situations and do experience those 'unpleasant' things knuckle up and deal with every single day. And some of those people, who are also bisexual, are right here in this forum.

Stop focusing on your daily failures and start focusing on your daily successes, starting with waking up in the morning.

Peace.

[csrakate]

smicheller,
I can see that things are overwhelming you at present but you must dig in and resolve to face each day ONE day at a time! Things don't change overnight and as tough as things might be right now, only you can affect the changes necessary to change your life. I feel your pain, believe me I do. I have had one of the worst years of my life this year and many times I would get so overwhelmed that I would "take to the sofa" and isolate myself. Not only was I preventing myself from living my life, I was cutting myself off from the people around me who could lend me support. I urge you to take whatever measures necessary to find some peace and if that means seeking some counseling then so be it. You mention you are on some meds but are you making sure to continue to see your doctor to make sure the dosages are correct? Many times adjustments have to be made, even if temporarily. BUT...there is no way your doctor can do that unless you are completely and totally honest with him/her about how you are feeling. Please don't give up and by all means don't withdraw. Even though this site is far from a replacement for face to face human contact, there are some very supportive and giving people here....and if you do nothing more than chat now and then to help get your mind off of your troubles, then do so. But please....make sure you are keeping your doctor informed and taking your meds as prescribed. Keep going and remember to live in the day. Looking at the big picture is too overwhelming so simply set small goals and take baby steps to make some improvements.

I wish the best for you and I hope you find some peace very soon.

Hugs,
Kate