Finding girls into bi-guys

[Exploring72]

Ok I've been on the net for awhile now. I've tried some of the bi dating websites as well as this one. I have yet to find a girl into bi guys. I hear about them and know that they are out there, yet when I post an ad on these site usually guys respond. I can't remember a girl ever responding that was around my age (36) most were about 15-20 or more years older. Am I on the wrong websites? I've even tried swinger websites. Does anyone have any suggestions of which websites cater to biguys finding girls? (yes I've tried bisexualplayground.com, bicupid.com, adultfriendfinder etc)

[Little_Red_Book]

*waves* Yes, we do exist. I'm living proof! :D

I haven't searched around that much, but it seems that websites like this one are often used as a means for people to explore the same-sex aspect of their sexuality - and that's maybe because it's a little harder to do that in real life. I know that's my personal problem, I have no gaydar for girls so I'm screwed. I don't know, just my opinon and from my limited experience. I hope you find what you're looking for!

[Bluebiyou]

FEAR NOT!
The search for love is an eternal experience of luxury.
Once the highest compulsion of survival is satisified, then comes love, luxury and future.

...........and yes, you are in (available presently) one of the best places for a bisexual searching... for another... understanding... or similar.
Good luck and best wishes!

[Realist]

I came to this site because it looked like a decent place to share ideas, history and interact with others of a like mind. I've met some great people who do share and don't share similar interests. (It's good to see both sides of an issue) The mostly intelligent, sweet-tempered people I've met have boosted both my self confidence and realization that I'm not alone any more.

Then, miracle of miracles, I met the most wonderful bisexual girl you could imagine! She lives close by and we have connected in cerebral, sensual and emotional ways.

Hang in there, be yourself. Remain honest and open-minded; the chances are, sooner, or later, you may meet someone who will be the light of your life.

[rissababynta]

Well I don't know if I would say that I am into them. It's not like "oh bi guys turn me on soooo much, I will only date bi guys from now on" but the majority of the people I have dated has been bi and I've always thought it was great! I like when people have that balance haha.

[csrakate]

When you approach a dating situation with certain preconceived ideals, many times you will find yourself more frustrated than satisfied by the responses you may receive. I can assure you that there are many women out there who are open to relationships with bi guys, but perhaps they just don't identify themselves as such. Try getting to know some people as a person first...you obviously don't hide the fact that you're bisexual in your ads, so why further reduce your responses by asking for such a thing that may not exist as a subgroup. Look at the post by Realist and you will see that good things do come to those that seek...especially when you are not trying so hard to find a specific type. Try chatting in the chat room of this site...or other sites like it...let people get to know you as a person first...the rest shall follow.

Good luck to you....don't give up...we do exist...I promise!

Kate

[ErosUrge]

I can very much relate to this one. It's not so much finding those that are accepting but more finding one who is not involved with anyone already. For me, that's been the greatest difficulty. I still believe that being open and honest about it is the best way to approach any woman that might be a potential person for a real and significant relationship. I did my years of hiding the fact and in time realized this was not how I wanted to live in secrecy; keeping it all from the person I cared about so much.
I very much agree with CSRAKATE in essence about all the various ways of going about it and definitely about letting people get to know you as a person first. I have done and did do this with my last relationship which just ended 2 months ago. She did get to know me as a person first and was the very reason why she so much wanted to be with me. I told her about my sexuality 3 weeks later which she was not prepared to hear and did not accept though she did try. But things did not work out after almost a year of being together. And the ultimate reason why she said was because she couldn't let go of the idea of my bisexuality. But more precisely, it was because she wanted all of me exclusively. She could not accept sharing me sexually with anyone regardless of the fact that with men I am only sexual and have always been. So for me and others like me or us maybe I should say, it is a more difficult challenge.
But I still believe that CSRAKATEis accurate in saying that we need to continue on and trust that sooner or later that certain woman will be there at the very moment when we're not expecting it so much.
It still comes down to the fact that we want love as much as anyone who is in a completely monogamous relationship and our idea of devotion and love do not coincide with the standard and mainstream idea of love and commitment. The idea that anyone who has a need for sexual gratification with the same sex and yet desires a true and loving relationship with the opposite sex in which they would never abandon that love just doesn't register with the vast majority of people....and I certainly do understand that.
Unfortunately, our desire and our need are not understood.
But I will say that to me, the most important thing is to remain honest about it and to keep an integrity about it all. There is no doubt in my heart that in time, someone will recognize the realness of it. I would also add that I feel it is better to remain single until that person is found that to get involved in a situation where there is hiding the fact going on. Or as with many heterosexual and even dare I say gay relationships there is unhappiness in the relationship because the couples no longer communicate but in public put on airs of stability and love and eventually look for gratification sexually outside their relationship and hide it all....this is true hypocrisy. But that is an entire other topic.....
Don't give up....I certainly haven't.

[Apleasureseeker]

It's crazy, especially these days, when so many girls talk about being bi-curious, or bisexual. Whe i was a very hetero 20s guy, I dated a lot of crazy, wild girls, some bi and some not, and alot of them were really into bisexual guys, but they never said anything about it until i got to know them really well. Nowadays, I'm a 40ish bicurious guy, and I really would love to find a girl who gets off on guys who get guys off, but i haven't found many. Most bi/curious guys would love to share their bisexuality with women, and an understanding, turned on woman would definitely fascilitate a lot of guys trying it out.

Inexplicably, girls who are the loudest about also being into women themselves are also the ones who are most against male bisexuality, at least in the younger women I've met.

So I do think they're out there, but hiding!

[Orlando157]

Girls than enjoy the company of biguys are a true treasure - If you find her please see if she has a sister for me ... or a brother :bibounce:

[AshMash]

for the record i enjoy guy on guy... but there is nothing like a sexy woman.

[rissababynta]

I have always been so incredibly accepting of the bi guys that I have dated that I'm actually surprised to see that so many people here find it to be a rarity for a woman to be into bi men. I have always actually felt more comfortable with bi guys in my life because I knew that chances are they would be an open minded person, like I consider myself to be.

[NYRangersFan]

i'm a girl into bi guys.. hell i'd love to be with two guys at once and the guys would touch each other as well... i think that would be really hot

[RockGardener]

Girls than enjoy the company of biguys are a true treasure - If you find her please see if she has a sister for me ... or a brother :bibounce:

How about if she has a boyfriend for you? (wink wink)

Rock

[RockGardener]

And just for the record, I like bi guys!!

I never thought guy on guy sex could be erotic til I met a man that is erotic and likes guy on guy sex. He brought me here. Then.... I found out my bf is bi, after my eyes had been opened to the eroticism of bi sex. I love to watch him with other guys, or even help!

Rock

[bibaconbits]

i have been in that same boat.. ever heard of cuckold..well there is a website thats free that has alot of women on there that love it..and guys with wives into it to...big fantasy of mine also...thats another story i guess... good luck

[wants2share]

I am forty and until recently I had spent all my sexual life with a man that didnt even want you to touch his ass let alone anything else.I use to sneak and look at mens gay porn and watch mmf (but the guys werent bi) and really got turned on. Fortunately as my desire increased my husbands jealously took over and resulted in divorce.Then I met my soulmate quite accidently and didnt find out he was bi until we found ourselves sucking a dildo together. It being my first time experiencing that - by surprise - I found it highly erotic. Since then we've had some fantastic mmf experiences and only want more! When I chat with the guys on here and they find out how much bi guys do it for me they say my man is so lucky. I'm the one whos lucky to be with someone that has opened so many doors for sexual ectasy! Chat with me anytime!

[biwestpalm]

This hits a big nerve with me since I was with another bi female for 1.5 years and it was the best relationship I ever had. We never actually brought anyone into our relationship but there was comfort and openness I never felt before. I long for that feeling again. It is so difficult since I have dated mostly straight women and I told someone once I was bi and they threw it back in my face when they were angry by telling a friend who did not know.

I am new to the forum and hope to stay hi everyone : )

[boca.openminded]

This hits a big nerve with me since I was with another bi female for 1.5 years and it was the best relationship I ever had. We never actually brought anyone into our relationship but there was comfort and openness I never felt before. I long for that feeling again. It is so difficult since I have dated mostly straight women and I told someone once I was bi and they threw it back in my face when they were angry by telling a friend who did not know.

I am new to the forum and hope to stay hi everyone : )


I too agree. The best relationship I ever had was with a bi female. She was open minded in & out of the bedroom. I never told anyone about my curiosities before but it was very easy telling her. No matter what I said to her she never judged me and listened whole heartily.

All other relationships were with very very straight females & they were all drama queens. Also, some of the things I said that turned me on (anal toys) were very dirty to them. 1 told me I was gay because I liked that. Another I never told because of early conversations led me to believe that anything I'd say she'd be turned off by it.

I am NOT saying all straight women are like the drama queens that I have dated but I'd prefer to date a bi female. Finding one thats harder then hitting the lottery...lol

[open2both]

You're right.
With the exception of some openminded people here, it's damn near IMPOSSIBLE for bi guys to be "accepted" by the ladies!
Sigh.

[cutenbi]

For me, I found a woman. Then I got to know and trust her completely. Then before taking things to the serious level...I told her I was Bi. She accepted me for the person that I am and we are happy together in our complete honestly. Never mind the fact that it makes her extremely hot and she never even knew that before. Had she not been accepting of me, the person I am, we probably wouldn't be together. I think it's not a matter of finding a woman into bi guys but more a matter of finding a woman thats into you, because of who you are. Being Bi is a huge part of the person you are, if she's into you it will make her hot.

[Keli808]

I don't mind bi guys. I don't go out of my way looking for them either.

[CountryLover]

I was here and on AdultFriendFinder for about four years while I was single. I never found anyone here who lived close enough to date, but I dated off of AFF a lot.

One thing I did learn there was that swingers do NOT like bisexuals, male or female, but particularly male. The rule I ran into was that single men are not invited to most swinger parties unless they bring a female date.

After I dated about 3 years, I came to the conclusion that I was *really* tired of straight men. I loved my circle of bi guy friends dearly and decided to look for my life mate among the bi male population.

AFF does not look kindly on bi males, being a mostly swinger site. However, I put a line in my profile that I was specifically looking for a long term relationship with a bi man in the San Antonio (TX) area.

God must have been having a good time that day, because somehow He connected my Kenneth and me after only a few days of my profile change.

Kenneth is very much an alpha bisexual man, just exactly ...and more...what I was hoping and praying for. We're coming up on our very happy third anniversary, and are more in love as ever.

A bit of advice:
For those out there who question loving and marrying a bisexual man....find one who is out TO HIMSELF, and secure and confidant in his sexual identification. You'll never find a better partner.

[Lovekisser]

i'm a girl into bi guys.. hell i'd love to be with two guys at once and the guys would touch each other as well... i think that would be really hot

Hi, again, I did not know you could respond directly !!! It can be very Hot
Lovekisser23

[PolyLoveTriad]

Its funny, we find ourselves thinking "why cant we find any bi guys who like couples". Its hit and miss, cuz were out here!

[rissababynta]

I'm wondering if I would ever meet a bi guy who is just interested in a guy, and not asking "does this mean I get to screw you too?"...

[toto001]

Its funny, we find ourselves thinking "why cant we find any bi guys who like couples". Its hit and miss, cuz were out here!

its simple becouse most of the bimale population is in the south i wish i was there jeje

[tg Shannon]

Wel for the record, I'm offering myself up to any of the women that have been writting how much they like guy on guy, it is hard to find women that are into that, or guys like me that crossdress, I do have a straight female friend who likes it but we are far apart and can only get together on rare occasions, she has told me that she would love to do a guy with me sometime and watch me do a guy wich is awesome, but I need to find someone closer, I did have an awesome valentines day with a couple, my first couple, he gave me to her as a present and she gave me to him, we had a great weekend, I hated to see it end, so any of you that are close to the chattanooga area that are into bi guys, hit me up and lets make some bad decisions together.:bigrin:

[indenver_indenver]

It's easier than you think. I have been married to two women who thought a bi guy is sexy. I have dated another who did too. And I have known another who thought bi guys are exciting.

I found these women in the usual places you find women - in an apartment complex, at work, in a night club, etc. Not at a swingers web site!!!

The trick is that once they have gotten to know you after several dates - and maybe even become friends - you take advantage if the subject if gays ever comes up. You guide the conversation to gay bashing and then say, "I suspect that guys who bash gays are just afraid of their past."

She says, "What do you mean?"

You say, "Most every guy has had some MM experience as he grew up."

She says, "Did you?"

You say, "Sure. Most every guy in my neighborhood did."

Now here is where the rubber hits the road.

If she says, "Let's order. I'm hungry." Then you know she isn't interested in the MM scene.

If she says, "Did other boys suck you off?" or "Did you suck other boy's off? And, Did they cum in your mouth?" you know you may have a live one.

Good luck. They are out there aching for a way to get into the MM scene without exposing their lust.

[Bicpl4u2pa]

My wife enjoys watching us bi guys as much as I enjoy watching bi girls!


i'm a girl into bi guys.. hell i'd love to be with two guys at once and the guys would touch each other as well... i think that would be really hot
Come to think of it many bi girls we know ARE into hockey...hmmm! Maybe Exploring72 should go to more games and look for single chicks!

BTW,Too bad you're a Rangers fan....the 2 of you would be in a fist fight rather than a 69! :eek:

GO DEVILS!!!!!:tong: