Why can't I stop crying?

[Dani78]

Why am I crying so much. I love him so much his new friend is nice we talk more than thwey do. I enjoy when we all make love. I don't know why I have that feeling as if I am on an rollercoaster and its dropping. I don't know what's wrong with me I have always suspected and now I know. Its been 3 weeks now that I have known and I feel worse every day.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Take a deep breath, compose yourself and try again, Honey. What are you feeling? Concern, jealousy, insecurity? It's a whole gambit of emotions when a new lover is brought in.
And you've known What for three weeks...?

[Dani78]

Does this rollercoaster feeling ever go away will we ever settle into our rolls again? Do our rolls some how change. Why won't he talk to me? One more one word answer and I'm going to scream. The communication has completely stopped. He seems so uncomfortable all of a sudden.

[onewhocares]

Dani...

Do me a favor after you read this....Sit back, close your eyes and take a DEEP breath.

I know the last three weeks since your hubby and you have been with a lover and the range of emotions is exactly as you described...a roller coaster. I agree with Cat that communication among you all is most important. For if you are feeling insecure and apprehensive about what the future holds, I bet your husband is feeling the same way. This is all so new to you and there are ground rules which need to be establish. Do not feel you need to hide your emotions and questions from your husband it is communication which will get you through this unnerving time. We have all been through this and are her to help you.


Belle

[alegrias]

Does this rollercoaster feeling ever go away will we ever settle into our rolls again? Do our rolls some how change. Why won't he talk to me? One more one word answer and I'm going to scream. The communication has completely stopped. He seems so uncomfortable all of a sudden.

The lack of communication is the problem. Either he needs to open up to you and become completely honest with you, or your relationship is in serious trouble.

Open, honest communication is the most important thing in polyamorous situations. The roles can be different in different situations. The only way to define them is through communication.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

[B]Babygirl, We're here for you, so calm down, and talk to us. We cant help if we dont have all of the details.]I'm going to play Devils Advocate here for a minute...it could be a bit of guilt, and embarressment mingled in on him too. Could be he may have been a little overwhelmed at the experiance with the three of ya'll, too. He may be having the same rollercoaster ride himself. Above All Else you've got to get him to sit down with you and Communicate his feelings to you, and let you get yours out too, or your relationship is going to suffer. Take control of your emotions and set things back right again, then I'm sure it can be back to normal and pleasurable for both of you. ;)